To threaten my H with divorce if he ever takes my kids to see MIL again.

[HooversBrokenAgain]

He took them "out" today. All day so I could have a break, he said nothing about going to see his mum.(I don't trust her and have never wanted our children left with her) He comes home looking sheepish MIL has only f gone and pierced my baby daughters ears.

I have been screaming at him for almost 3 hours and am still fuming with rage.

He keeps telling me to take them out if I am so bothered.

I am going to show him this thread so if you all flame me he'll think he is off the hook.

BTW can anyone tell me if it's ok to take them out, they are very bloody and I'm so worried she is mutilated for life

and. Is that really the best he can say for himself?

Hoovers, that is beyond appalling. What a cow. And what a limp rag your h is. Pathetic. How could he stand by and let someone inflict pain on his tiny baby without any cause at all, let alone a good one?

I'd call NHS Direct to find out the best way to care for her ears, poor little thing.

That's awful, is she OK?

Make sure she has calpol and take them out!

oh yes, and I'd be throwing paint on her car or something for doing it.

please don't be offended by this - but dh has just asked if you/your MIL is Asian, because sometimes it can be a cultural thing IYSWIM. still doesn't make it right, but that might be another thread...

find out where she got them done and threaten them with the police because I'm sure you need parental consent. I'd be fuming, I think I would charge her tbh it is cruelty.

14 months!? Jeez I thought she was about 7.

I am nearly crying for you. Your DD is a baby. She wasn't even asked if she wanted earrings. Poor baby.

YANBU. That is way way way out of order. How dare she have your baby pierced.

I would be absolutely LIVID. What was your H doing while this was happening? Was he aware? If it was a surprise to him, did he go mad too?

I think you should take them out. Do you have any sudocream. I would get the earrings out and dab sudocream on her ears.

Fuck! that is just shockingly awful. how dare she. unbelievable.......
take them out NOW. bathe ears with, if nothing better - salt water - or have you got a bottle of the cleanser you get if done at a jewellers? the little holes will seal up really quickly and not be noticable once they're healed.

This is unforgivable. How dare she inflict this sort of pain on your baby? Your H needs to understand that this is an assault.Re taking them out, why don't you ring NHS Direct and get some medical advice? I would think the holes would heal up again really quickly but there will be scars.
Perhaps you could make it clear that any future contact with MIL has to be on your terms and that either you, or a trusted ally (and that clearly excludes your husband) has to be present to prevent any future assaults on your LO.

that really is shocking, actually.
I don't know what to advise.
in your position I would speak to her NOT NOW though as I couldn't keep my temper and explain to her precisely why what she did was so outrageous.
and see what her reaction is.
anything less than a grovelling apology, and I would have to rethink our whole relationship.
poor baby, that must have hurt

As piercing babies and childrens ears is a personal major bug bear for me I am suprised you have not taken a skewer to his mothers ears in revenge. Cheeky chavvy cow, I hope you will be giving her a good bollocking as well.

shakes head

YANBU!!!! Thats outrageous, unforgivable behaviour.

Jesus christ, I'd rip her F*cking head off!!!

No way....How can he have let her do it??

Actually is it legal?

I think your husband has played a part in this, if he knew this was happening, and you need to deal with it. why couldn't he say no or does he agree with what she has done?

Absolutely awful and unforgivable! That is a parent's choice only, not a Grandma's.

Take them out now. They'll heal up. Clean your hands first and wipe the ears afterwards with sterile wipes- alcohol ones are best. If she had this done 'professionally' your MIL should have been given wipes or cleaning solution, as the studs are supposed to be turned and wiped daily (from what I remember as a teenager.)
Then file for divorce.

Just adding my voice of anger and outrage to everyone elses.

Nasty, cruel bitch.

{{{hugs for you and your little girl}}}

OMG! Why why why???? No No No!! I would go totally ballistic. How could anyone think it is ok to make such a decision for someone elses child! (That apply's to all situations in my book, not just ear piercing btw)

I'm afraid I dont know if it's ok to take them out.

Am V.V.V.V.V for you.

Agree with Rosa - if you can wait until tomorrow let the GP do it just to be on the safe side.
I would never, ever let my child anywhere near MIL ever again without supervision (of an adult that is, not your DH )

Am I understanding this properly? Did she pierce them herself? HOw the hell did she do it? Where was your DH when all this was going on?
I really hope your DD is ok.

I think you can safely say that YANBU

14 months Oh Christ I am so sorry for you I cant believe anyone would do this to someone elses child (nor their own but thats another thread)

I would have her charged with assault but that probably over the top but defiantly my gut reaction

and I think it could possibly bring me to a screaming confrontation

so just phone the police its illegal to pierce under 16 with out parents permission

OMFG!!!

Can you go round there with a skewer and offer to pierce something of hers??

I'd be fucking livid. Why on earth did your DH allow her to do this?