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Original poster

To threaten my H with divorce if he ever takes my kids to see MIL again.

439 replies

HooversBrokenAgain · 24/03/2008 21:08

He took them "out" today. All day so I could have a break, he said nothing about going to see his mum.(I don't trust her and have never wanted our children left with her) He comes home looking sheepish MIL has only f gone and pierced my baby daughters ears.

I have been screaming at him for almost 3 hours and am still fuming with rage.

He keeps telling me to take them out if I am so bothered.

I am going to show him this thread so if you all flame me he'll think he is off the hook.

BTW can anyone tell me if it's ok to take them out, they are very bloody and I'm so worried she is mutilated for life

OP posts:
NorthernLurker · 24/03/2008 21:18

YANBU. I don't care what 'cultural' reasons she may have thought she had - it wasn't her place to touch your child.

I wouldn't let her see your children unsupervised for a very long time and I would go to see the GP tomorrow to get the ears checked and some suitable antibiotic cream on prescription as well.

llareggub · 24/03/2008 21:18

I am shocked by this. Awful, awful woman. I really feel for you and your little girl.

cheesesarnie · 24/03/2008 21:18

omg!omg!omg!unbelievable!omg!i cant even think what to say!!!!!!!!! and

terramum · 24/03/2008 21:18

That is awful - was your DH there or did he leave your baby with her?

theUrbanDryegg · 24/03/2008 21:19

the trouble is - it's parental permission that's required so if the knobhead dh was there that would count as parental permission.

god - i am fuming on your behalf!

Kindereggsurpise · 24/03/2008 21:20

I opened this thread thinking, "I bet this is someone overreacting to something her MIL has done to her PFB".

I read your OP with my mouth wide open. I cannot believe that your MIL would do that without your permission and in the knowledge that you were against havign your DDs ears pierced.

And that your DH was so stupid that he let her.

You have every right to be furious with both of them.

Take the earrings out.

I don't know if you can enforce that your MIL never gets to see your DD again, but I certainly would not allow her to see her wihtout being present.

girlfrommars · 24/03/2008 21:21

Was he there/did he know what was happening?

peanutbear · 24/03/2008 21:21

Actually after reading thread go with ladyTophamhat and rip her head off I think you will have lots of help

scottishmummy · 24/03/2008 21:21

how dreadful!dis she actually pierce mutilate herself or go to a store?how is your wee one doing - is she ok.how do the ears look?

you could clean with cooled freshly boiled water, cotton wool balls.eugh that must have hurt like hell.be vigilant for any infection/complications

theUrbanDryegg · 24/03/2008 21:21

do not let her see any of your dc. ever again. she has to understand the enormity of what she's done.

and if i were you i'd be sending your dh to sleep round there tonight. what a wanker.

nappynoonoo · 24/03/2008 21:22

OMG OMFG.

So angry with your on your DD's behalf.

YANBU. I'd never let MIL near her again.

wannaBe · 24/03/2008 21:22

remove the earrings and clean the area with some sergical spirit on a pad of cotton wool. do this thee times a day until the holes have healed. the earlier you remove the earrings the sooner the holes will heal.

And then I would file for divorce. seriously.

QuintessentiallyAnEmptyCave · 24/03/2008 21:22

Fucking Hell! How dear she assault an innocent child! She is a flipping lunatic! What was she thinking? And your husband? Is he always such a mother-abiding farking slipper/doormat???

I would not SPEAK to the bitch. EVER again.

foxythesnowman · 24/03/2008 21:23

Phone her up and scream at her for 3 hours.

That is disgusting. It is cruel. Let your DD make her own mind up when she is older.

FFS. Really for you.

What does your DH have to say to explain himself?

nkf · 24/03/2008 21:23

You are probably the first AIBU poster who isn't being unreasonable. I really feel for you. A terrible thing to do.

moondog · 24/03/2008 21:23

I can't believe this!
Is your MIL foreign?

theUrbanDryegg · 24/03/2008 21:23

nooooo - not surgical spirit. will hurt like fook! salt water or cool boiled water is best.

Original poster
HooversBrokenAgain · 24/03/2008 21:23

I am going to go to the GP tomorrow as I want this logged in some way. Can I go to the police? Won't they laugh at me?

I gave dd Calpol.

My MIL did it and the earrings are hers. Ones that she has worn and most probably not sanitized in anyway. Heaven only knows how long it must have taken.

OP posts:
nkf · 24/03/2008 21:24

She did it herself! Ye gods.

scorpio1 · 24/03/2008 21:24

so it wasn't even with a proper piercing gun thing?? I would be going mental.

wannaBe · 24/03/2008 21:24

and I think you could prevent your mil seeing your children again.

In fact i think if you brought this up during a custody hearing you would have good grounds for your dh only getting supervised access.

Kindereggsurpise · 24/03/2008 21:25

She did it herself?

I would be phoning the police.

Was your husband present?

Mung · 24/03/2008 21:25

OMG what a crazy woman. How dare she. What on earth was she thinking?

MadameCh0let · 24/03/2008 21:25

What did she think would happen!? That you would just go "oh well, fine, you win".

She must be missing the brains she was born with because this is going to jeopardise her relationsship with her GD and put her son in an awkward position and create an awful lot of bad feeling.

foxythesnowman · 24/03/2008 21:25

OMG! She did it herself?? That is f*ing gross.

Never let your child near that woman again.

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