Do you like watching other people having sex (on TV)?

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I don't. Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but if I'm watching a movie or drama and the characters start having sex then, unless it's a key part of the plot (e.g.dialogue taking place during the action), I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex. Intimate scenes have their place in movies/dramas with an obviously sensual theme - each to their own. But if it's a movie/drama of any other genre, and the sex scene doesn't advance the plot in any way, why linger on it? Just me?

I love sex scenes on TV. I'm more likely to watch something if it has them in.

If I'm watching something romantic, I want to vicariously live through the characters. It's a bit odd to want to avoid the one thing that sets someone's relationship apart from a friendship.

Plus, I don't find sex shameful. It's a normal part of life. None of us would be here without it and most people enjoy it a lot.

No as usually the bra is kept on I find this ridiculous if the actress doesn’t want to show her boobs I can understand but make it at least look like she is naked

few films is it realistic

porn yes I like some of it

I hate all this ‘I don’t find sex shameful’ stuff. Not wanting to watch sex on tv is not some sort of dreadful repression and shame about sex. Many of the people complaining about film and tv sex likely love having actual, real life sex. Liking sex has nothing to do with wanting to watch other people (pretend to) have sex.

On slurpy kissing, there is nothing worse that radio drama sex. 🤮

I don't care to watch other people getting it on and much prefer it to be implied, so I feel comfortable watching with DD and it's not too cringe.
But I also have another point of view on sex scenes in telly or movie, in that if it is non-kink/choking/whatever passionate sex between people who clearly want each other then isn't that better to be portrayed in the media sometimes than just expecting kids/teens to at some point watch porn and think that's what is normal?

Sex in films makes me crack up i just cant help but laugh.
The shape of water i mean come on lol.
The first time i saw i was watching it with my sister she said well he`s doing a good job the beds moving more than them i lost it at that point.
Sex scenes are like a comedy to me they either make me laugh or make me cringe.
Road house (not the new one) yes its old but bloody hell it was on a few weeks ago i was in tears with laughing about the sex scene.

On slurpy kissing, there is nothing worse that radio drama sex. 🤮

Yes there is. I had to move from my carefully staked out daily commuter spot on the platform (second last carriage is the charm) because a couple took to arriving right after me every morning, practically leaning on me and slurping each other. Loudly. This is at 8am! We were practically having a threesome so I had to concede and move to a less good space to get away from the sound 🤮

The build up is usually the better bit, i think most people prefer it when you sort of see enough of a big hint thats what's happening then cut to afterwards.

In old black and white films, the sex was implied by a scene of waves crashing against the shore or a train going into a tunnel. 🤣 Also rather odd was that newly married couples had twin beds in old movies.

No. I don't even like kissing or heavy petting.

I've yet to see any sex scene in a major film or drama that was realistic. Which films / dramas are you all watching where you think it's find well?

Do I like watching other people having sex on tv?

It wasn't too bad when it was the big CRT Televisions but now we have the wall mounted flat screen ones, they keep falling off. 😬

That’s more sexual assault than media sex though.

Obviously worse.

I assume the sort of people who think radio 4 drama kissing is acceptable also watch Amat videos of people slurping, masticating and tapping stuff with whispering in between. 🤮

Like many, feel uneasy - a sense younger actors are being exploited. Though Paul Mescel seems right up for it. Jamie Dorman appeared to want to distance himself from Fifty Shades type acting pronto. So it seems some actors embrace the process as part of the ‘craft’.

This ffs, no one is saying they find actual sex shameful 🙄

I prefer it when they close the bedroom door and let us guess or see them in bed chatting after.

I guess it's relevant if perhaps it's a bit 'out of the ordinary' sex that is relevant to the plot but even then there are ways around that.

Me too, but it's rare, tbh. The camera lingers on bits of the woman's body, not the man's - so I'm not identifying with it, as that's not what I'd see during sex. Then she gets on top, upright for a photogenic angle on her bounding boobs, and she has an improbably gasping, pouting orgasm.

Very occasionally - and, to be fair, more recently - you get lingering on the male body. That works a lot better for me 😛 Directors who manage a non-pouting orgasm get extra points. Better to avoid cum faces entirely, imo, you have to be there to find them anything other than hilarious!

I guess I'd rather see them at it than the 'cut to waves crashing on a beach' of my youth 😂

Did i misunderstand you? I thought you were saying it was a good thing...
But i agree with this post.

I hate it, I just want them to get on with the story, I just ff until they've finished.

I don't think sex is shameful, or care whether other women enjoy it or not! I just don't need or want to see it!

I thought the scene in 'Red Road' was very good from a female perspective, although it's a very long time since I've seen it. Perhaps it was due to having a female writer/director.

Agree it seems more uncomfortable with actors younger than me. My heart sank when I saw Saoirse Ronan in something recently. I suppose I was hoping we'd moved on from that - a young actress shouldn't be expected to get naked anymore.

I'm surprised a few people have said they didn't like sex scenes in books, though. There's no actors involved, so it isn't as uncomfortable as with a film. I can easily enjoy explicit material in novels by Rebecca Chance or Kresley Cole, for instance. Certainly not realistic, but more from a female perspective.

It’s not about exploitation. I loathe reading badly described sex. And it’s always badly described.

Sex is a physical activity. Describing it in words is never good.

I also loathe ‘dirty talk’. Massive turn off.

No hate it. Always fast forward. Ruined Outlander for me!

Yes because if done well usually puts my in the mood to have some 😂

Why? I would have thought you’d be too busy f or watching others f on TV to give a f*

I’m remembering Eddie Redmayne and Clemence Poésy in Birdsong, where the sexual infatuation, longing and consummation was crucial to the plot. Also harshly contrasting with the horror in the trenches.
I’m sure they had intimacy coaches and all the actors’ union rights were respected.
So there is a way to deliver believable and enjoyable sex scenes in the 21st century.

BTW I watched Normal People with DH and we agreed it handled a young girl’s first emotional and sexual experiences with sensitivity and respect. The later S&M maybe not so much…