Do you like watching other people having sex (on TV)?

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I don't. Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but if I'm watching a movie or drama and the characters start having sex then, unless it's a key part of the plot (e.g.dialogue taking place during the action), I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex. Intimate scenes have their place in movies/dramas with an obviously sensual theme - each to their own. But if it's a movie/drama of any other genre, and the sex scene doesn't advance the plot in any way, why linger on it? Just me?

It's only happened with 2 blokes (and I dated a lot of them in my youth!), where we've just about got through the door and haven't even managed to get all our clothes off it was so urgent 😳So I've not found it common at all in my dating experience.

Quite liked the sex scene at the beginning of Deadpool 😂

I always think the Bond films have just the right amount of sex and sensuality in them. I like the building tension and the passionate kissing but there's no unnecessary, awkward or gratuitous nudity but everybody knows they've just had sex. Perfect.

Most sex on TV and films I find really boring and not very sexy! I especially hate the "leave me alone" sex. A man and women arguing and kissing/having sex at the same time - think Scandal and those type of shows - I think it confirms the she doesn't really mean it when she says no idea but maybe that's just because I've never had hate sex.

The amount of TV/films that always women having a shower/wearing underwear for no real reason is also really noticeable.

It's a bit of a mixed bag for me with some good and some really cringy. What I can't stand though is when actresses have sex with their bras on, unless they both also have most of their clothes on. It's just weird. Bra off before knickers in my book.

But I marginally prefer watching it than reading about it, which I usually find toe curlingly awful with lines like "and he stroked her moist cavern" 😬

As others have said, sex scenes so often don't add anything to the plot. One recent exception I watched was "Mother Father Son", where the sex scene between Caden and the prostitute really showed how psychologically fucked up his father had made him. It was also unusual in that at one stage he was stood naked, everything on show, while she was wearing at least her underwear, and even the short shagging part didn't even show her boobs.

God, no thanks. Can't we go back to the .... of books, where it was left to your imagination. Makes me feel cringey to watch people on screen (pretending to) have an intimate moment.

I can think of a few actors (men) who I don't mind seeing naked. It's definitely not because I don't have it as a previous poster said. Apparently anyone who doesn't mind it hasn't got a sex life.

Only with the DH though or good friends at the cinema (watching not having it).

I'd be embarrassed watching it with my teenager and parents. If I'm watching a film and my teenage Son comes in the room I panic if there is a sex scene on.

I can remember watching Blue Lagoon with my parents and feeling horrified. I have no idea why they thought it was OK, they were really normal parents.

In general though I don't mind most sex scenes.

But I also have another point of view on sex scenes in telly or movie, in that if it is non-kink/choking/whatever passionate sex between people who clearly want each other then isn't that better to be portrayed in the media sometimes than just expecting kids/teens to at some point watch porn and think that's what is normal?

Yes, I totally agree with this!! That’s why I hate the snog, snog, penetrate fast forward stuff in the movies. I mean I’ve had my share of passionate quickies, but usually, the first time with someone, it all takes a bit longer and there’s foreplay!
I don’t want young people to think well we’ve had a snog so better get straight to penetration, and miss out on the best bits of touching, anticipation and yanno actual sexual pleasure for the lady.
In fact after a few years of shagging younger men I realised porn was teaching them nothing useful so I guess they need to learn it from somewhere.

The female is mostly on top showing her naked body, I see most sex scenes as extensions of the male directors fantasies

"What I can't stand though is when actresses have sex with their bras on, unless they both also have most of their clothes on. It's just weird. Bra off before knickers in my book."

Why though? Good on the actress if she doesn't want to be topless. Not everything had to be 100% realistic.

Yeah exactly, why would someone hate the actress wearing a bra ffs. Unless they're a man obviously 🙄

I think it’s more that in a bra they appear to be dressed to (ahem) titillate rather than wanting to see nipples. Personally I’d rather they just skipped the whole thing.

The actresses have nice bodies and don't mind doing the sex scenes to what they agree to.

Is it difficult for some women to like it because their bodies aren't the same?

Yes actually, part of the reason I don't like it is body confidence issues. It's not some great embarrassment to admit, this is part of the reason I don't want to see it.

Even when I've get better, I still don't really enjoy it. I want to watch my movie, I dont need a cringey sec scene thrown in. I don't want to see soft core porn when I'm sitting with my parents or children, either.

But quite a few people on here are saying things like 'I'd rather watch porn' and while there are various types of porn, I'd think the most popular type also features women with bodies that are considered very attractive.
I find it a bit strange to be envious of imaginary characters.

To be fair we don't know to what extent they really don't mind it and to what extent they need the work.
The answer to that is obviously not to prefer porn though!

A lot of them do mind it though. A lot of them are in the early stages of their careers, young, inexperienced when they first agreed to it. A lot feel that they must do it or they'll never get work.

There are increasing numbers of female actors who are coming out and saying they felt pressurised to do it; that it is humiliating; that they felt vulnerable and uncomfortable.

There are also increasing numbers of male actors who are coming out to say that they won't do sex scenes/nudity anymore or unless they feel it is necessary to the storyline becaise the amount of sex in films is gratuitous.

It's not early something I seek out. I lm not really interested in reading about actors or what they have to say! But I've seen a fair few interviews/articles pop up recently where it's discussed.

In many cases, it happens when the actors are older and feel more confident and secure enough in their careers to speak out.

Just because they have agreed to it doesn't mean they are all happy to do it.

I don't watch because I don't want to watch other people having sex. It's as simple as that.

I know it's not real but that doesn't make any difference. It's just unpleasant.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Don't really know why but every time a sex scene comes on (other than 'a suggestion' of what's going on) I cringe. I find it weirdly intrusive and awkward to watch other people's sex faces, contortions and slurping sounds.

Worst is watching with other people (kids and parents!) but even with DH it's a bit ew. Mind you we've never used porn together so maybe that's why I'm more sensitive to it.

🙄 to the power of infinity.

taking it to a whole new level I can't even watch nature programmes either. All those animals either bonking or eating each other ! I am on edge throughout and can't enjoy it at all.

Whereas Call the Midwife is a massive hit.
Actresses simulating the agony of giving birth with gore covered babies and blood stained props.

Maybe it’s more acceptable for some MNers to see “thou shalt give birth in pain and suffering” than the (usually) happier activities that led up to it!

I don't really care either way, won't bother fast forward but it won't do much for me at the same time.

Slurpy, other exaggerated kidding sounds, however, drives me mad. No one kisses with full sound effects in real life or if they do they shouldn't.

I've never watched that either 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you fast forward intimate scenes then yes you are a prude.

by definition of the term