Do you like watching other people having sex (on TV)?

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I don't. Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but if I'm watching a movie or drama and the characters start having sex then, unless it's a key part of the plot (e.g.dialogue taking place during the action), I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex. Intimate scenes have their place in movies/dramas with an obviously sensual theme - each to their own. But if it's a movie/drama of any other genre, and the sex scene doesn't advance the plot in any way, why linger on it? Just me?

Well, they are not 'actually' doing any of what they appear to be doing in a film or drama - it is all pretence- but, if you apply your thinking to that, you should turn the lot off. 😂 Not a bad thought for most of it- it's a lot of old tosh generally.

That’s interesting- the sex in Oppenheimer felt gratuitous and unnecessarily explicit. It did nothing to move the story on. The film would not have been made worse without sight of Florence’s nudity.

I never watch sex scenes- they are usually entirely unnecessary to the plot and exist only to titillate male viewers, expose women's bodies or show women in a sexual way. I often will not watch a film or tv show if it is already publicised as being 'hot' or 'explicit'. I'm sick of women being exploited and of them allowing themselves to be (often in the name of feminist freedoms). I NEVER watch reality tv shows for the same reason.

I am a ‘prude’ as I’ve been told countless times and don’t care. I absolutely hate sex scenes and even if I’m alone I cringe if they come on and fast forward or go make a cuppa.

What bothers me the most is almost all movies will have them which means you have to watch with other people, I don't think I'm a prude but I do feel uncomfortable watching people have sex with my parents, siblings, nephews, neices etc. I mean the scene is there for enjoyment, so how could you watching with your family. I find it all very awkward and cringy

I can think of some sex scenes that are integral to the plot/ characterisation: in Fleabag the only sex scene not shown was between her and the 'hot priest' to differentiate it from all her other meaningless encounters; the scene in Small Island between Queenie and Michael Roberts was viral to show how she was unfulfilled in her marriage and the scene in A French Lieutenant's Woman was a faithful representation of the same scene in the book.

IMDB has a “parents guide” which details if there are instances of nudity or sex scenes in it. I usually have a look at that first if I’m going to be watching with parents/teenagers 😬

I always think a male producer decides right we must have sex now to show we are edgey.
The best sex scenes are implied it's utterly boring to watch. I am not going to feel it

I am generally in favour of good sex screens. I liked the recent movie Poor Things with Emma Stone. It has adult themes with numerous sex themes. The director was trying to make something uncomfortable to watch. If you fast forward everything that made you feel uncomfortable in that movie, it would be over in 5 seconds.

It's all for the male gaze. Just makes me cringe, no foreplay, stood up and then the guy just pulls her dress up, sticks it in dry as a bone and she's quivering and having an explosive orgasm within 30 seconds. It's just so laughable. It's always young beautiful women aswell, and over the top passionate sex, it very very rarely has anything to do with the plot and it pisses me off that I can't get through most films without these scenes.

No. Same goes for my DH and DS so I don’t think it’s just a female thing. I don’t like reading sex scenes either.

No, OP. It makes me cringe, almost aggressive now, disgusted. I'm 44. Sexual scenes on TV- all that panting, smacking and other sh**, I just walk away. You definitely are not the only one! 💝

I'd happily sleep through a car chase but I quite like sex scenes when they're done well and/or relevant to the plot.
I don't understand the point of movies like 50 shades. Bad acting, bad storytelling and bad sex, you may as well watch bad porn.

No. I have happily watched, and been engrossed in, entire series where not even so much as a nipple has been on show, thankfully. Sure, you might see a couple in a bed, from the shoulders up, embracing, but then the camera cuts. Yes, we know they're going to shag! We know what shagging is! It is not a "turn on" to watch, it's boring. Just get the fuck on with the story.

Thankfully, I think it's got better in recent years, in the past you couldn't move for (usually female 🙄) tits and arse. I just don't need to see it; it adds nothing to the watching experience.

No I dont like it

@Ridiculous24 . That made me laugh . Watching a scene recently in One Day , I literally thought to myself , young sex! I remember that. 😆

I don’t like it either, it feels very cringey, whether it’s supposed to be romantic or “real”. I do like them in books though when there’s been a big build up. And I know a couple of people who like watching and cuckolding in real life who presumably don’t fast forward the TV so each to their own I guess 😅

I don't love it either.

But mostly because "the film industry" is one of my special interests, and I'm quite well-versed in what goes into filming an intimate scene.
My brain is too busy thinking "I wonder what sort of barrier garments they're wearing? I wonder if it was a closed set? What other films has their intimacy co-ordinator been involved in?"

No. By and large it's totally unnecessary and even if it was we don't need to see them at it. If it's too much I switch off.

I hate sex scenes. Can't watch them at all. It puts me off sex in real.life if I do watch as you realise how ridiculous and cringy the whole thing looks.

Tension, build up, will they/won't they : absolutely love this.

Actual shagging on telly or references thus : hate it.

I'm with you OP. I mentioned to someone that the start of GOT was silly in terms of sex and they found me genuinely weird, that it would put me off. Still haven't watched it. I also found the 4th wall breaking anal sex chat at the start of Fleabag completely eyerolly. I didn't get much further with that either. I can't think of a time where it's added anything to the thing I'm watching, but to put it right at the start before I'm even invested is just daft. I don't have much time to sit and watch stuff (and it's hard for me to just sit and watch stuff, I have to get something in my hands to do) so I'm not going to waste it on that.

@Shiningout yes, exactly!

I ruin it for my DH too as I can’t help a running commentary of “of course the uncarpeted stairs, perfect, looks great fun, we should do that”, “sex against a wall, why do we even need beds”.

Maybe my private’s are not quite in the right place but I honestly don’t think I could do the against the wall thing, I would need lifting up and possibly tilting 😂. DH is strong but there are limits.

It’s unnecessary and diminishes our ability to fill in the gaps.

I like a story that doesn’t spell it all out, hints, suggestions are Ok.

what is left unsaid (shown) can bring more depth to a story imo.

Exactly this.

I also find it quite alarming how many actresses come out years later to say how uncomfortable they felt at the time.

I started off realising that if a film opened with a sex scene or had one right at the start it generally meant it would be a shit film with nothing to offer than the promise of nudity and sex.

Now I don't watch anything with sex or nudity at all.