Do you like watching other people having sex (on TV)?

[binzbag]

I don't. Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but if I'm watching a movie or drama and the characters start having sex then, unless it's a key part of the plot (e.g.dialogue taking place during the action), I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex. Intimate scenes have their place in movies/dramas with an obviously sensual theme - each to their own. But if it's a movie/drama of any other genre, and the sex scene doesn't advance the plot in any way, why linger on it? Just me?

I've seen a few films where it wasn't just PIV.

The Sweetest Thing did go horribly wrong though 😁

I don't mind it as long as its just me and the Hysband watching.

Why are they so often standing up, with most of their clothes on, usually in the hall/ lobby, cos they are sooooo eager…..and then the next scene is them waking up together, in bed with their undies on?

Something doesn’t quite hang together there.

No. It's always gratuitous. I fast forward if possible.

I also prefer it to be implied. The hand on the window in Titanic for instance.

I watched Ghost the other day and all I could think whilst watching the pottery scene was that some poor sod will have a heck of a mess to clear up!

I must be getting old.

I loved, loved, loved It's A Sin, but I thought parts were a bit too graphic! if you see a couple snog, maybe start to remove clothing, then the next shot is them waking up in bed together the next day, you know what's happened in between!

Exactly this , I have no desire to see other people having sex, all you need to see is them either going into the bedroom and closing the door and or waking up together next day to know they've been at it .
I do the same as you and fast forward, I have a good sex life of my own & the sex on tv and film is boring to me and adds nothing to the plotline.

binzbag

I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex.

I'm glad to see from the thread that I'm not in a minority, I do likewise. Even just prolonged snogging.

There's so much wrong with most screen sex that it is quite boring and annoying to watch.
As others have said, so male/PIV based, instant orgasms, (what Erica Jong used to describe as the Zipless Fuck) and above all, the increasing prudishness that means bras and pants are worn.

This is mainly a US based attitude but it's creeping in here, so that we can sell our films and TV to the US market.
European films and TV seem to have a much healthier take on it.

I’ve recently watched the drama Fellow Travellers which is about the lifelong relationship of two gay blokes - honestly there were so many graphic sex scenes, I was fast forwarding through half the episodes. A great series otherwise.

It depends on whether I fancy any of the people who are shagging.

Totally with you, OP. It’s one of the reason I stopped watching TV dramas - it’s so exploitative of the actors and just not necessary to see it in such detail. I know what sex looks like and if I’m watching an TV drama I want a good story and entertainment, not soft porn. If I want to see sex I’ll watch actual porn, but stop trying to ‘normalise’ watching sex.
Also cringeworthy if you have teens in the house.
Absolutely not relevant to the story and feels like low quality tawdry voyeurism.

This is so typical of my conversations with other British women. It is why I’m sometimes made to feel a harlot or something for liking passionate sex in my 40s, or even having a sex life.

Why are so many British women (and before you start, I am one) so weird about sex?

They clearly have it (hence Mumsnet..) but so many women I’ve spoken to, and seen on here, have the following approach

• it’s great to be horny in your late teens and early 20s when the objective is to get attention from the hot men who have been given context in your world (most popular at uni, big cheese at work) .
• this period normally coincides with lots of alcohol
• DH or DP comes along, fancy the pants off him at first
• Although any expression of sexual desire has to come with a thick dollop of humour about how he farted when he came; just in case you know, it’s too uncomfortable to talk about actual ardour or passion
• Then he doesn’t take out the bins
• Then everything becomes unsexy due to life context and age
• and finally, once divorce or separation, it’s “I can’t be arsed with all that huffing and puffing. I’d rather enjoy a good book and a tub of Haagen-Daaz”.

ok…

but the problem is; women like me, who have had sexual awareness of my own wants and needs since I was a teen, know what I want today, am happy talking about sex, having sex, celebrating sexuality, being as fit as I can be

You can just feel the hatred for departing from the British party line - that sex is humorous , that we all have “wobbly bits”, that it’s never meant to be tearing clothes off, it’s more about how to avoid giggling when he does X of Y..

Is it any wonder we have problems with this topic?!!

Totally agree. Same goes for battle scenes - I fast forwarded whole episodes of Game of Thrones.

Don’t enjoy watching them can only see the point if it’s used to convey something, like relationship is very cold and functional. Hate slurpy kissing sounds too.

I actually have come to dislike sex scenes. I wonder why the writer/director included them. I can’t help thinking about the performers and about how awful it is to be part of a profession that expects you to do it.

What's all that got to do with unnecessary sex scenes in TV dramas?

If you want sex, have sex. If you want to watch sex there's an endless supply of pornography out there.

There was a series a few years ago called The Top of the Lake. It seemed like a promising mystery drama. But numerous times per episode the most unlikely characters would start having sex anywhere and everywhere. I gave it up.
It's the main thing that annoys me about some of the Agatha Christie adaptations- she never needed to write sex scenes but they always seem to add them in!

No, can't bear it. If I want to watch porn, I'll watch porn. I don't want porn-lite served up in a drama.

Still don’t want to watch you doing it I’m afraid.

Annoying, awkward, don't want to see it.

I do like a sensual scene that just hints at things and shows actual chemistry between characters.

Don’t want to see boobs, anyone's bum. If I want to be titillated, then I'd seek porn and do that. Last thing I saw was Oppenheimer. Way too much, and I nearly watched that with family.

Yet another reason why I watch the same selection of (usually animated) family movies!

This is so typical of my conversations with other British women. It is why I’m sometimes made to feel a harlot or something for liking passionate sex in my 40s, or even having a sex life

Whereas all non-British women can’t help dropping their knickers at every opportunity and squeezing sex into every conversation.

Why on earth are they throwing numerous sex scenes into a film about an atomic bomb?

God normal people is so boring.

Far too much sex.

But I guess at least it was realistic sex

I do t mind stuff like sex in funny film. Like four weddings when the married
Couple are having a quicky in the room and Hugh gent is in the cupboard. That's more like normal life normal
Looking actors and is very funny.

@JacquesHarlow you make quite a lot of assumptions in your post. Many people on here don’t like sex scenes precisely because they love sex and are comfortable with their sexuality. On film sex is often quite rough (their version of passion) and very quick. It is often very male-centric. You hardly ever see foreplay or authentic female pleasure or desire. It is usually a male take because they are the ones making the films.