Do you like watching other people having sex (on TV)?

[binzbag]

I don't. Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but if I'm watching a movie or drama and the characters start having sex then, unless it's a key part of the plot (e.g.dialogue taking place during the action), I hit fast-forward and skip to the post-coital scene. I'm not a prude - I just find it uncomfortable/intrusive to watch other people having sex. Intimate scenes have their place in movies/dramas with an obviously sensual theme - each to their own. But if it's a movie/drama of any other genre, and the sex scene doesn't advance the plot in any way, why linger on it? Just me?

Yep

Plus most people like good/passionate sex, pp, you're not the only woman who does 😑

We don't need to see other couples having pretend sex to like ourselves...

With the special L shaped sheets that cover him to the waist and her to her armpits, then she gets up and wraps herself in the bedclothes, like he hasn’t just seen her naked.

Sex scenes make me cringe, even if I’m watching alone.

Yes, Michael Douglas went down on Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct. But that was basically porn anyway.

You're right. And it's one reason why I find it difficult to take Meghan Markle seriously.

DH and I often refer to it as 'no vest action' as in 'oh blimey, here we go again, no vest action and slurpy kissing, I'll go and put the kettle on, don't bother to pause'. We're both very relaxed about sex in life, just don't see the need to get it rammed (ooh er missus!) seemingly into every single film or tv programme nowadays.

By the way, in case anyone was wondering 'no vest' is an indirect reference to one of the Terry Pratchett books where one of the characters mentions a club where 'young ladies dance around with no vests on' 😁

It's weird, I am so far from being a prude but I find sex scenes on TV beyond cringe. I'm not really sure what they do for the story.

I just find sex scenes very very dull. Get on with the story please.

It's bad in film/tv but even worse in books when it's all written out, complete with adjectives.

This is the only example I could think of too😂

Nope. Boring and utterly cringeworthy.

Bridgerton S1 was hilarious. DH and I had a good giggle.

Otherwise, no. It's cringey.

Edit: Also laughed a lot at the sex scenes in Toast of London. We sometimes call eachother Toast and Mrs Purchase.

It is there to titalate and to try and turn viewers on. There is as much gratuitous male nudity now as there is there is female, and sex scenes can be very women centric; I think directors are wise to the 'balance' now. Still seems to be very quick though, with neither person seemingly bothered about that..

I think a lot of it is completely unnecessary though, and it must be soul destroying for the actors.

Florence Pugh must flick through every script she gets now to find the bit where she gets her boobs out at least.

Actors say it is unerotic, but even in standard dramas you can see an actresses breasts being kissed, fondled etc..not much simulation going on.

I think the inclusion of intimacy coordinators now has changed things for the better behind the scenes. They make sure no unnecessary crew are on set, security is as it should be, and that the participants are 100% comfortable with what is being asked by the director.

I'd rather directors left the sex part to the viewers imagination. We don't need to see it, really.

I like the pp's "no vest" moment. Definitely time to put the kettle on!

I'm no prude. I just find it quite boring and think it holds up the story telling.

No. If I wanted to see people having sex I’d watch porn, and believe me I’m certainly no prude.

I think there is still the "Bad Sex Awards" which is designed to strongly discourage writers from producing poorly written pornography. I do not think there has ever been a winning entry not written by a man.

Matt Berry is hilarious, he had a really funny sex scene in Year of the Rabbit where he shouts 'I'm at the door girl!' that just about ended me.

Not a lot. I'm not prudish at all, but oh my god, watching Normal People with 4 young adults at the start of the pandemic, on their recommendation. I think they found it worse, tbh!

I do this too.

Always fast forward. Just makes me cringe.

I hate it, it's never relevant and it's usually only to show a naked woman. If I want to enjoy watching people having sex I can watch porn

I really hate it so I just forward through it

I don't mind if they're just lying naked in bed that's perfectly fine but I need to see actual sex going on

I dislike it when it’s shoehorned into the plot almost dutifully, as if it’s what audiences expect. Especially in an action film - so unnecessary, I’d rather have another car chase.

and yy to the unrealistic three thrusts and she comes. Just don’t bother, thanks.

I meant

I don't need to see actual sex going on

Yep. And it's grim being trapped in front of it if you're in the cinema. Might as well watch several minutes of someone straining on the toilet.

It depends on how well it's done and what it adds to the story. Some storylines more involved sex scenes emphasise the passion between the two people. Others are just a bit awkward and don't drive the plot in any way.

I'm not embarrassed about them though. It's just sex.

But I think it's good to show how people have normal basic kind loving sex for those that are younger abd it's not like that for whatever reason