Meeting daughter's boyfriend- what's the etiquette here?

[tiredmama23]

Probably a daft question but this is new territory for me. My 17 year old DD has been dating a guy since just before Christmas, so only a couple months, and wants me to meet him. Apparently he's quite keen to meet me too. I've agreed to go for tea this evening with them both (with my DH, DD's stepdad, and her younger sister). What's the etiquette? Do we offer to pay for him? I think yes, DH thinks no because he's an adult man with a well paid job?) However since he's only 18 I'm still seeing him as a child and thinking we should pay?

We aren't rolling in cash this month so I see DH's point, but I'd feel a bit tight to not pay for him? But then if he's having a lot to drink then I don't want to end up with that bill 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thoughts? How would you play this?

@IcelandicBerry i was worried I would look like a right weirdo asking about her sexual status 😂 I wanted to make it clear I was just sharing my thoughts and not actually asking!😩

For those asking and genuinely interested, my daughter has bounced back and is in a much better place now. Back at college etc. She even went to the gym yesterday where she's a member, which I know took a lot for her to do because he goes there too. She actually saw him and ignored him and just did her own thing 😊 very proud of her!

That's marvellous, tiredmama. Onwards and upwards for her!

Yay! Well done your girl. Head high and all that