To think alot of people who have money/assets generally are clueless and lack empathy for those who don't.

[LindaHamilton]

I was chatting to colleague today about the UK couple who won the 61 million in the lotto. Colleague is much better paid than me and owns a house here in South East... She started ranting about how nobody needs that money and ''you'd get bored blah blah blah''

Other colleague also on a much better salary than me, who was given a big inheritance last year said similar and that she wouldn't want to win the lotto and why would anybody want that money?

On a similar note I'm reading many posts tonight on here and people saying their inheritance they received was no big deal and I've seen threads like this before. Basically people who got inheritances telling people who got none to stop complaining and to be happy. Easy to bloody say when you were given an inheritance....

AIBU to think there is a massive lack of empathy here? And people with money try to act like it's no big deal and think that those who don't have it should just suck it up?

I agree. I have some very wealthy family members. One of them has never worked but married into money. She has no idea how lucky she's been. Her advice is always marry a rich man. shrugs

Yes!! This. So they not only do not care about their own inheritance, they want their own children not to inherit/benefit from it? They could hand it to their dc if they do not need it.

I'm someone who late in life has benefited from a life changing inheritance, I didn't see it coming, I'm grateful for it, I'm living my best life and I'd still enjoy winning 61 million.

I could change my children's lives with a few million. 61 million is ludicrous.

I would be surprised if we earned more than most on here. I'm PT and DH earns around the national average. We are not high earners, just have lowish outgoings.

Anybody would enjoy it, those who say otherwise are lying.

Why don’t you just believe people who say it’s too much and they couldn’t even begin to spend it? Is everyone who disagrees with you always lying?

@BIossomtoes I don't understand that either.

Money alone definitely does not buy happiness. My first husband earned a six-figure salary and I was completely and utterly miserable and very lonely.
My now husband earns around £20k pa and I've never felt more complete or loved ❤️

He can always donate some of his property to charity if he resents paying so much tax.

Noone needs that much wealth. It's revolting and greedy.

Mumsnetters could spend £3M a year and would still start threads saying they’re struggling to make ends meet/can’t afford to send their kids to private school, or moan it’s unfair that they’re no longer able to claim child benefit.

Most people who have come into easy money are clueless tw*ts, whether it’s inheritance or handouts from parents. Some I know are quite smug about it too.

The most annoying thing is when somebody says ‘I would rather have the person than money’ as if they are actually a victim. Of course we would rather have our loved ones! But people lose parents and grandparents every day without inheriting a bean. My husband and I have one parent each and no grandparents. 0 inheritance.

For those insisting that they'd enjoy and be able to spend £61m....would you be disappointed if it was halved or quartered.
Say 4 people had won it and you had £15m each....would you think bloody hell thats disappointing, how will I survive on that? Even £1m would be life changing for most regular people!

No it's people saying they wouldn't want it and they'd rather a million. Given the option do you actually think anybody would choose the smaller amount or say no to it?

They aren't saying they'd be disappointed with less, they are just being honest and saying they would happily take the big sums like 61 million. But on mn you are made feel immoral for saying that.

And 61 million could be easily spent , you could invest in properties alone in London and it wouldn't go as far as you'd think.

Nobody is saying money alone buys happiness, we know that. It is more the general comments and attitudes on mn and beyond that money or having it isn't a big deal. Or that those who don't have it and are resentful of others shouldn't feel that way. It becomes particularly irksome and hypocritical when somebody handed a large inheritance or on a big salary preaches that to a minimum wage worker or somebody who got no inheritance.

The whole 'My 102 year old mum had to die so I got this money' comments here too are annoying as the person getting the inheritance is acting like a victim. It doesn't diminish the fact that many other lose parents/relatives and get bugger all. They, who got the inheritance, still benefitted from a death which we is an inevitable experience so shouldn't then play the 'poor me' card and act like the inheritance was of no great privilege.

If it meant nothing then donate it to charity and if they hadn't inherited they'd be moaning about how angry they are that aunt Sue or their parents would leave them out of their will...There is a huge degree of hypocrisy and insincerity about the whole thing.

Exactly @Midwinter91

The most annoying thing is when somebody says ‘I would rather have the person than money’ as if they are actually a victim. Of course we would rather have our loved ones! But people lose parents and grandparents every day without inheriting a bean.

That’s quite a big assumption that someone that has lost a family member would ‘look on the bright side’ and be happy about an inheritance, when oftentimes they can’t see and/or feel anything beyond profound grief. Happiness/gratitude about receiving money does not inherently lessen or outweigh that.

You not understanding something does not mean someone is lying. There’s lots of things that people like that I see absolutely no attraction to or value in, but that doesn’t mean anything for anyone else.

As far as resentment goes, how exactly does that serve anyone? Does resenting someone make your life better?

And on the same thread you'd be told they survive on 100 quid a week and are happy and nobody needs money. The views here can be very detached from reality.

The question of £61M or £1Million - is that I worry I am not of sufficient moral character to deal with the burden of £61M, that it would corrupt my relationships - I don't want to feel that I'm everyone's saviour and receive begging letters etc. I don't want people to see me as a £££ opportunity. I could hide the money but that still feels like a massive secret burden too. I'm betting I wouldn't refuse the money but sitting here now I don't want the burden of it. I don't want £61M - I don't play the lottery so no chance of getting it.
If we won £1million on the premium bonds I'd be thrilled - but we'd continue life as we currently do - we'd continue to work. I like my life - I don't need or want an upgrade. I am comfortable enough not to need anymore and I don't want £61M to give out to charity either - that's a job I don't want.

''I'm betting I wouldn't refuse the money''

Nope I'm betting you wouldn't either, despite that whole monologue you still spoke your truth in that line.

I feel like a lot of it is just that you have had a hard time believing people are happy with what they've got OP...whether that's a lot or not much.

I wouldn't refuse the money but I think that would be a mistake on my part - I don't have the moral backbone. I don't want to be offered the choice.

Hmmmmm. I’m on the fence with this one. I was born in a very working class town, I had a single parent upbringing. My husband on the other hand has married, Uber middle class parents (think corporate dad, golf club, vote Tory etc). We are very comfortably off by most people standards (I’m a sahm). Yes he’s had a supportive upbringing, with good opportunities etc but oh boy does he have a serious work ethic! He has worked his butt off to create the life we have. He’s moved jobs, slowly climbed the ladder, even changed careers several times. We have done up houses and moved across the country in order to progress things financially for our family. It has not been easy! Wealthy people are normally wealthy for a reason (not always!).

I don't have money, but I try to look at it logically rather than emotionally, which is hard I know. There are only so many places in a Uni to get higher education, only so many people who are capable or in a position to study, therefore there are only so many top jobs that pay the "big bucks" not everyone can be a company director, who will clean their office, sweep the roads so they can dive their Merc to work, who will childcare their children whilst they work, or care for elderly parent, everyone has a role to keep the country going, its not possible for everyone to earn huge amounts, there has to be an imbalance to keep society moving, unfair but true, so if they don't understand what it's like to live on a shoestring, it isn't their fault, it's the way the cards were dealt, as long as they don't rub it in people's faces and perhaps give back to society in the form of charitable donations to Trussel Trust to help those on less with the COL, or if you have a cleaner, give them a bonus every now and then, tip the waitress in the cafe, there's all sorts of ways people could help.

I do think those amounts of money are pretty obscene & can't understand why they don't make more prizes of several million instead. Since I've got divorced, I've found friends still think I can afford to go out for expensive meals, spa days, buy Christmas/birthday presents for them (still do birthdays but tokens niw) etc & I have to remind them that I can no longer afford that as am a single parent on a low income now. They're very nice about it but are so used to their double income & far more lavish lifestyles!