To have asked man to stop helping?

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Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help by waving me forward and then stopping me. But I found I was looking at him not the parking space and I asked him if he’d mind stopping because I was fine myself. He and his wife got really huffy! Surely I wasn’t unreasonable?

God that drives me nuts! The number of old blokes I could have bumped off over the years, who suddenly appear in your mirror waving you into the parking space you’re already halfway in. I brake and glare until they go away.

It's so infuriating isn't it? Does this happen to men as much? I suspect not but might be wrong. Might ask DH if he gets unsolicited "help" parking. TBH he needs it way more than I do!

Had my FIL in passenger seat one day. Got to T junction, he leaned right forward, looked left and said "clear left". Without thinking, I put out my left arm, pushed him quite hard back into his seat and leaned forward to look for myself. He was somewhat taken aback🤣 I explained that I wouldn't want him to feel responsible if I'd had an accident inside I was swearing at him for his interference He never did that again!
If anyone tries to help me into/out of a space without being asked, I tend to sit stationary until they take the hint.

The fact that you were "trying" (your own words) to park in the space suggests that he thought you were having a bit of difficulty and he wanted to help you. Heaven forbid that someone tries to help others. Good grief.

But I wasn’t horrible to him, @PeggyPoggleshaw . I just explained I was finding it a bit hard to park while he was standing there and felt I could manage on my own. So I’m not sure why the good grief - it’s like walking through a door someone’s opened for you even when you’re going the other way!

I with you OP.
Had this happen the other day, all done with the best of intentions but no thank you kind gentleman! I am perfectly capable of driving my car so get out of my way.

I've had this, but the bloke was literally in my way. Had to wind window down and point out that if I were to do what he was helpfully suggesting with him standing there I would run him over.

If she was having any difficulty it was probably because she was perfectly fine until the dickhead got in the way!

I've had this at work when backing into a perfectly normal parking space, our gateman came out and started to guide me in, and he doesn't even fucking drive! I had words with him when I'd parked but unfortunately there was a large group of workmen watching who rib me constantly about being unable to park.

Arseholes

Yep - my drive is a bit tricky of you don't know it but l have droven on and off it countless times in the last 15 years. Also have lost count the number of times someone - always aman - have tried to help me. Really winds me up. They usually give a little comment like "didn't think you were gonna make that luv". Piss off!!

In my 18 years of driving I have never had this before, thank goodness 🤣

I absolutely hate this too. One: I've passed my test ta, don't need supervision from a random. Two: I'm trying to concentrate, so on what planet is some bloke waving his hands and distracting me going to help? Three: Why would I trust someone I've never met to help me manoeuvre a pretty expensive hunk of metal? Like others have said, it's never women who do this. It just drips misogyny.

And that's fine, of course. But to be arsey when someone says no thanks? That's not fine.

My BiL tried doing this to me. When I was parking in my own driveway. Where I had lived for more than a decade at that point.

But he is a complete sexist dinosaur and doesn't think women are really capable of driving or using an electric drill, , so par for the course for him.

I've been driving for more than 25 years. I have an HGV licence, have driven professionally (including agricultural vehicles, heavy plant and HGVs) and my actual superpower is reverse parking.

In short, I am an excellent driver.

Yet for some reason, every now and again - often in the most innocuous of situations - one of these bloody men will pop up (and it is ALWAYS men).

"Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help"

The OP was clearly having a bit of difficulty before the man got involved.

It's just a turn of phrase 🙄 it doesn't mean she was having difficulty, it just means she was trying to park, but couldn't because some random bloke appeared and was telling her what to do.

Clearly? I must have missed that

I had an old chap do this to me once when another car had blocked me in the church carpark. I found it really helpful, and my effusive thanks have probably encouraged his efforts no end. I think it all depends on how you asked him to stop really.

I drive a big car (I have lots of children). I have 360 sensors and cameras and have been driving for 20 years….

I have often had men (always men) ‘help’ me to park. I can easily park due to the abundance of technology (and of course my excellent spacial awareness 🤣).

I can’t STAND this particular form of unsolicited assistance.

Telling her what to do? You mean "trying to help her"?

Just read the comments in this thread. Like so many threads on MN it's just an excuse for a good old bout of misandry.

I guarantee that if the fella had been a woman a lot of the replies and the voting would be VERY different.

Then perhaps read more carefully. 🙄

Can't say I've ever had a woman try and help me park

I can read perfectly well thank you, maybe you should stop trying to twist the OP to suit your agenda...whatever that might be

@GymPanda is your FIL ex-Forces?

It's the 'left hand down' people who drive me mad! Just let me park the car!