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To have asked man to stop helping?

170 replies

Mostlythesame · 22/02/2024 14:46

Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help by waving me forward and then stopping me. But I found I was looking at him not the parking space and I asked him if he’d mind stopping because I was fine myself. He and his wife got really huffy! Surely I wasn’t unreasonable?

OP posts:
pokebowls · 24/02/2024 17:57

@PeggyPoggleshaw

"Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help"

The OP was clearly having a bit of difficulty before the man got involved.

Christ alive are you always this pedantic. Trying to park. That is just a turn of phrase. I was trying ti park when a moron hit in my way doesn't mean 'I was struggling'. Are you ASD? Or just a pedant?

BigFluffyHoodie · 24/02/2024 19:10

pokebowls · 24/02/2024 17:57

@PeggyPoggleshaw

"Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help"

The OP was clearly having a bit of difficulty before the man got involved.

Christ alive are you always this pedantic. Trying to park. That is just a turn of phrase. I was trying ti park when a moron hit in my way doesn't mean 'I was struggling'. Are you ASD? Or just a pedant?

Peggy is a sad man.

PeggyPoggleshaw · 24/02/2024 19:39

BigFluffyHoodie · 24/02/2024 19:10

Peggy is a sad man.

Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.

In other words, I'm not a sad, bitter old woman who'll berate men for literally anything based on the fact that they're men.

You're not the first poster on this thread to wrongly accuse me of being a man. The very fact that I don't look at situations from the perspective of a misandrist seems like an alien concept to you. And that says a lot about you.

Finally, the bitter truth for all you men haters is the fact that without men the world as we know it would collapse.

Goodnight, sweet cheeks. 😘

Flowerfairie · 24/02/2024 23:58

Oh pegs. Either

a. You’re a slightly intelligence challenged pick me woman
b. You’re the same but a man (I’m with the latter for now based on your sexist comments. If you are a woman? Shame on you)

Treehuggingmutherfunkin · 25/02/2024 07:00

I dislike this as well its distracting

CrashyTime · 25/02/2024 16:57

PoorLittleEngland · 24/02/2024 00:53

I remember when I was 18 and drove a big old cavalier back in the nineties, I got into town and the only space to park was a pretty tight one on the street. A bloke in his thirties saw me stop to reverse into the space, and he stopped to watch me fuck it up, with his arms folded and a ‘this will be funny’ look on his face. I managed to reverse park perfectly into the very tight space, first time, and his jaw literally dropped. I got out of the car and he actually came over and congratulated me on a brilliant bit of parking 🤣. Amazing that having a vagina and being able to park aren’t mutually exclusive 🙄.

On the flip side of that, I was staying in Thailand about 10 years ago and hired a car to get around the island. Every time I got back to the resort if it was dark, the security guy would run over with a torch and stand at the back of the space I was reversing into, to illuminate my path. He didn’t appear to speak any English so there was no point in explaining that A) cars had reversing lights and B) I’d somehow managed to park at night without assistance for the last 17 years 🤣

He was probably looking for a tip? (a monetary one, not being told to fuck off)

Brawcolli · 25/02/2024 18:04

PeggyPoggleshaw · 24/02/2024 19:39

Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.

In other words, I'm not a sad, bitter old woman who'll berate men for literally anything based on the fact that they're men.

You're not the first poster on this thread to wrongly accuse me of being a man. The very fact that I don't look at situations from the perspective of a misandrist seems like an alien concept to you. And that says a lot about you.

Finally, the bitter truth for all you men haters is the fact that without men the world as we know it would collapse.

Goodnight, sweet cheeks. 😘

You really are coming across as a classic MRA here (and in all your other comments), it would be much less sad if you were a man! Can’t imagine being a woman and calling other women misandrists for not wanting random men to poke their silly wee noses where they’re not needed.

NeedAdvice2024 · 25/02/2024 23:08

PeggyPoggleshaw · 24/02/2024 19:39

Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.

In other words, I'm not a sad, bitter old woman who'll berate men for literally anything based on the fact that they're men.

You're not the first poster on this thread to wrongly accuse me of being a man. The very fact that I don't look at situations from the perspective of a misandrist seems like an alien concept to you. And that says a lot about you.

Finally, the bitter truth for all you men haters is the fact that without men the world as we know it would collapse.

Goodnight, sweet cheeks. 😘

"Finally, the bitter truth for all you men haters is the fact that without men the world as we know it would collapse."
And that would be a bad thing? You are aware that in the absolute shit show of this 'world as we know it' most of the worlds problems are caused by men? I think a world without them would be a utopia. A short lived one, granted, since we would no longer be able to reproduce, but it would be bliss for a little while to be left to park in peace!

chiwwy · 25/02/2024 23:13

PeggyPoggleshaw · 24/02/2024 19:39

Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.

In other words, I'm not a sad, bitter old woman who'll berate men for literally anything based on the fact that they're men.

You're not the first poster on this thread to wrongly accuse me of being a man. The very fact that I don't look at situations from the perspective of a misandrist seems like an alien concept to you. And that says a lot about you.

Finally, the bitter truth for all you men haters is the fact that without men the world as we know it would collapse.

Goodnight, sweet cheeks. 😘

I think the fact you refer to Peggy in the third person demos you’re a man.

Goodnight, man boobs. 😘

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/02/2024 23:26

PeggyPoggleshaw · Yesterday 19:39

Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.”

I love men! My husband is the best person on earth, followed closely by my adult son and daughter and her fabulous husband and child. I had a great deal of fun with several other glorious men prior to said beloved husband., it must be said. I’m frequently getting into hot water on the feminism posts.

What I can’t bear, though, are silly old (usually, before ageism is levelled at me: I’m knocking 60 myself) sods who can’t seem to prevent themselves from leaping into a parking space 3ft behind you as you reverse in and waving their arms about. My car has built in sensors and it just makes it automatically brake. They’re a PITA.

it hasn’t happened to you, Peggy. You are obviously blessed. It’s happened to lots and lots of others in this thread, though. Maybe, just believe them? It’s not hatred of men. It may, just possibly, be the embodiment of mansplaining. The aforementioned beloved husband has veered into mansplaining territory himself in recent months, at nearly 65. Not something he has ever done before. It’s met with very short shrift and he has the awareness to say yes, sorry, quick sharp. I’m afraid it seems to be something that afflicts them with age.

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/02/2024 23:27

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 23:26

Sorry, posted without formatting.

PeggyPoggleshaw
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Wrong. Peggy is one of those rare posters on MN - one who isn't part of the tedious 'all men are bastards' crew.”

I love men! My husband is the best person on earth, followed closely by my adult son and daughter and her fabulous husband and child. I had a great deal of fun with several other glorious men prior to said beloved husband., it must be said. I’m frequently getting into hot water on the feminism posts.

What I can’t bear, though, are silly old (usually, before ageism is levelled at me: I’m knocking 60 myself) sods who can’t seem to prevent themselves from leaping into a parking space 3ft behind you as you reverse in and waving their arms about. My car has built in sensors and it just makes it automatically brake. They’re a PITA.

it hasn’t happened to you, Peggy. You are obviously blessed. It’s happened to lots and lots of others in this thread, though. Maybe, just believe them? It’s not hatred of men. It may, just possibly, be the embodiment of mansplaining. The aforementioned beloved husband has veered into mansplaining territory himself in recent months, at nearly 65. Not something he has ever done before. It’s met with very short shrift and he has the awareness to say yes, sorry, quick sharp. I’m afraid it seems to be something that afflicts them with age

Screamingabdabz · 25/02/2024 23:28

I’ve done this several times “it’s ok mate I’ve been driving 30 years”

They get proper huffy but fuck ‘em. They need to learn.

hothotheatbag · 25/02/2024 23:32

I almost ran over a bloke. It was sooooo close.

He basically tapped the back of my car as I reversing, my car is old so no beepers, so
I'm pretty good at judging.

When you hear a big bang on your rear wing it makes you jump and I slipped on the peddle and almost took the twat out.

After telling him to piss off I checked and I had loads of bloody room as I had thought, what possessed him to hit my car while I was reversing, god only knows.

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 26/02/2024 00:00

No wonder men think we’re easily distracted. The people on this thread that have long since abandoned its actual purpose and are merrily having their own little side quest is really fucking annoying. Start your own thread if you want to argue with each other. I thought I was getting four pages of amusing driving stories and instead half of it is pointless arguing. Fuck off.

NeedAdvice2024 · 26/02/2024 01:21

MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 26/02/2024 00:00

No wonder men think we’re easily distracted. The people on this thread that have long since abandoned its actual purpose and are merrily having their own little side quest is really fucking annoying. Start your own thread if you want to argue with each other. I thought I was getting four pages of amusing driving stories and instead half of it is pointless arguing. Fuck off.

Did you have your own amusing driving anecdote to add or did you just stop by to police the thread and tell us all to fuck off for not adhering to how you thought the thread should go?

Voone · 26/02/2024 01:23

OhItsOnlyCynthia · 22/02/2024 16:30

My mum's an absolute twat for this. "I'll hop out and guide you in," every single time. She thinks reversing into a spot is advanced driving. My car can park itself if I wanted help, but funnily enough I don't use that function either because been driving since 1996.

Reversing into a spot IS advanced driving 😆😂 Show off

NoOrdinaryMorning · 26/02/2024 01:26

I think you were very rude. If you didn't want or need his help then just don't look at his gestures

NoOrdinaryMorning · 26/02/2024 01:26

You embarrassed someone who was trying to be kind

shearwater2 · 26/02/2024 06:07

I think you were very rude. If you didn't want or need his help then just don't look at his gestures

Yeah. Ignore the fucking idiot standing where you need to reverse flapping his arms. Follow that advice and you'll end up running them over.

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/02/2024 11:49

@Voone
Reversing into a spot IS advanced driving 😆😂 Show off

Really? You’re joking? Since when? It was one of the basics you had to master before your test when I took mine, along with reversing round corners, both of which you had to demonstrate.

Please tell me you are joking!

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