To have asked man to stop helping?

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Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help by waving me forward and then stopping me. But I found I was looking at him not the parking space and I asked him if he’d mind stopping because I was fine myself. He and his wife got really huffy! Surely I wasn’t unreasonable?

Sod that. I'd stop and tell him to stop being so bloody patronising, something along the lines of "I drive an HGV mate, parking this rollerskate is a piece of piss."

Mansplaining ... really boils my piss.

Perhaps men are more helpful? Just a thought.

I have had this a few times, and yes, always from men. They have stood in the way which interferes with the parking sensors and makes them beep and just makes parking more difficult and stressful.

It isn't me who's trying to twist the OP to suit an agenda. The fact that you can't see that says a lot.

A truck driver ie professional driver allegedly! decided to assist me to reverse some years ago. On following his instructions I reversed into his truck smashing my light cluster. He said nothing and just buggered off...learnt my lesson the hard way.
You weren't wrong OP. Believe in yourself.

This is v annoying OP, happens to me loads. I drive by a big powerful car lol. It's hard because they might be trying to help. I often say thanks through gritted teeth......

I've been driving for 50 years, well 49 if we are being accurate, and it has never happened to me. I wonder why it has happened to you so often?

And I guarantee you that a woman would never do this to a man. Or another woman. And that men never do it to other men.

YWBU not to have run him over.

I also hate the performative letting out: also almost exclusively a man thing. Random man, there is no need to stop on this quiet country road and signal me out of a side turning with a ridiculous, patronising flourish! There is nobody behind you- it would have been quicker to have just carried on and have me turn out behind you, wouldn't it 🙄

Or sometimes, when you're turning right, someone will approach you from the left and do the performative flourish. And then repeat it, this time even more impatiently, as if you're a silly little woman who's a bit slow on the uptake. Ignoring the unbroken traffic thundering along on the other side of the road that they're merrily gesturing you into 🙄

So distracting when people always men do this.

My mum's an absolute twat for this. "I'll hop out and guide you in," every single time. She thinks reversing into a spot is advanced driving. My car can park itself if I wanted help, but funnily enough I don't use that function either because been driving since 1996.

Probably having difficulty because there's a random man in the way flailing his arms around. It is not helpful at all to do that, ever. Same as passengers leaning forward to check the road is clear, thus blocking the view of the driver. It isn't actually helpful at all

I'm getting paranoid now, no man ever stops on a quiet country road to call me out, no man ever helps me to park. I could think it is because I'm old so maybe they do it to attractive young women but I was an attractive young woman once and it still never happened.

I don't understand why it seems to happen to some people all the time.

Surely not, she's a woman!

I once had a man in a car opposite wave me forward at a difficult junction local to us. Luckily I remembered the advice that when you're driving you should only ever rely on your own eyes, not somebody else signalling to you. So I stopped, looked left and right, and sure enough a car sped past that he couldn't see.

I have lived in London for 30 years and can definitely reverse park into small spaces. I feel incredibly irritated when a man starts directing me when I’m not even struggling. And yes, it is always a man. And it never happens to my husband.

Wrong. There's a car park in our town that is very tight and is always a struggle, irrespective of anyone's driving ability. There have been at least 3 instances in the past 6 months alone where a passing bloke has guided my DP into or out of a space.

I stand corrected! But it's not women assuming your DP can't drive and that their help is terribly important, is it?

I've been known to do it for DH, he's a retired police officer and advanced driver in his police days but some spaces are small and it speeds things up.

The only people who have ever helped me with parking was my darling Mum and my sister. Have never given it any headspace.

Hahaha, we recently got a much bigger second vehicle for carting our donkey of a dog around, and the first time I popped to my parents in it i was reversing in slowly as I knew the gate would be a really tight squeeze. My df got the real hump with me when I shouted a sarcastic “no shit Sherlock” at him as he “helpfully”🙄 told me to watch I didn’t catch the wing mirrors on the posts. I should have been eternally grateful for this pearl of wisdom apparently! Clearly 30 odd years of driving experience and the fact I have actual eyes wouldn’t have helped me figure that out for myself, best if a man can let the little women know I suppose.

Sisters and mums helping are totally different from strangers. That is always men.

It's also interesting that its rarely women who offer unasked for help with directions

NOBODY is assuming ANYONE can't drive! That's just an inferiority complex. It's literally someone just trying to help, nothing more.

Don't you be coming on here with your common sense, non-sexist approach! 😂