To have asked man to stop helping?

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Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help by waving me forward and then stopping me. But I found I was looking at him not the parking space and I asked him if he’d mind stopping because I was fine myself. He and his wife got really huffy! Surely I wasn’t unreasonable?

Funny how men don’t ’try and help’ other men to park without being asked to though. It’s not exactly easy to park when someone is obviously (and physically) distracting you.

Says the poster who just called the women on Mumsnet "bitches"

Both of those sentences are utter twaddle.

I used to do airport parking so got so used to reversing thousands of cars down thin lanes, the amount of customers that would be patronising about it, like what you’re gonna do it. Yes sir now move 🤣

Says the person who doesn’t understand what sexism is…

It's not necessarily the offering to help that's the problem (albeit it does seem to skew towards men offering to help women with driving, I wonder why that is...). It's them then refusing to take no for an answer.

I'm sorry, my excuse is I'm old so you could humour me. I'm going to start wearing purple soon but I don't think I'll do the red hat as the local saying when I was a child was red hat no knickers and I do intend to wear my knickers.

Mansplaining git should mhob.

With women like you around the patriarchy is clearly quite safe. Those sentences are both true, both observable and both sensible. But God forbid the poor men have to change. We incompetent little girlies should know our place, got it.😤

The parking equivalent of mansplaining.

😂😂

Yes they do.

Its literally a ‘thing’ that it well known and is often joked about amongst men.

They often joke that they know when you turn from a boy to a man because you are at the age to be able to wave other men into a parking space.

Not everything is offensive and it’s exhausting how many people are trying to reach to find something to be offended about.

"Women like me"? You mean women who don't hate men with a passion?

And those sentences are not true, I know this from my own personal experience. But God forbid someone tries to help someone else.

You keep up the victim mentality if it makes you feel better.

Just the other day a bloke helped me out of a tight space when I couldn’t see how close I was on my blind side. I could probably have managed eventually, but his help was useful. I couldn’t get het up about it.

This made me chuckle OP - definitely not being unreasonable! What an idiot 😂

There's nothing that would make me make a mistake more than having someone watch me try to park!
So anyone who is with their other (male) half who starts directing someone else - tell them to stop! I never see women do this.

Peggy, you have a very simplistic view of the world if you think not wanting unsolicited advice from a random man, makes one a man hater

Crikey Peggy. You are super invested in this thread. 🤣

Probably nicer ways to achieve the point than shoving people.

On one occasion a bloke wanted to help me after I had put petrol in my car. I had been driving nearly 30 years by then and was fiddling with the nozzle after I had filled the car up. It did not mean I needed help. Sometimes nozzles need a bit of persuading.

Patronising and sexist if you ask me.

When I want help I will ask!

I had a random Dad man try and help me teach my son to ride his bike once. You know, calling out instructions to him from across the Astro pitch, like I was incapable. I knew where my son was capability wise and how to play it, thank you. Found it in appropriate - mind your own kids!

I think it was the fact he saw my son wobbling and ‘blaming’ it on me. Hard to recount it here really. I probably sound like a wally. Needless to say my son didn’t learn that instant.

I have the same issue with dads insisting to hold the door for me at nursery: the only reason I'm struggling to get my double pushchair through the door is because they are standing in the way! I manage fine everything single time they aren't there!

I know they mean well but when I tell them "I'm ok thank you" they should just let it go.

I get this all the time at the end of my drive. From where pedestrians stand it looks like it's difficult to reverse out but with my eyes and my mirrors at my disposal it is incredibly easy. Having a pedestrian waving at me is distracting and annoying. I just don't look at them and drive off. I don't think YWBU to ask him to stop.

DM is prone to helpfully telling me that the road is clear! Thankfully she has stopped driving now but before she did her car looked like it was made from corrugated metal. No way was I going to trust her judgement!

No it's because they think they know better.