To have asked man to stop helping?

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Trying to park in a space today and a man started trying to help by waving me forward and then stopping me. But I found I was looking at him not the parking space and I asked him if he’d mind stopping because I was fine myself. He and his wife got really huffy! Surely I wasn’t unreasonable?

I've only shouted at my MIL once and that was when she was trying to help me park. I hadn't asked for help and it was making me really stressed so I just snapped. We both apologised and I felt terrible but my god it wound me up.

My car has collision sensors so if anyone/anything gets too close it will automatically brake hard. Tried to explain this to the man waving me into a parking space (that I was already quite capable of manoeuvering into) that he needs to move otherwise the car will not be able to. He just started waving more enthusiastically as though the reason I wasn't moving was because I couldn't see him. It took 3 attempts to explain politely before I eventually told him to fuck off out of my way.

I had someone do this once when dropping samples at a lab in my van as the skip removal lorry turned up and I was in the way. It wasn't a proper space and I was just tucking in but he stood in front of my van to wave me towards the wall. It was annoying as I have 360 sensors and where he was standing was setting them off constantly making it more difficult than if he'd just left me to it.

God, the amount of people telling old people who are trying to be helpful to fuck off!! It doesn't reflect well on you, if it's even true. Many old people don't understand modern cars.

This infuriates me - once I was fixing something at work (nothing fancy, only required a screwdriver) and a male customer arrived and insisted on ‘helping’ me - after he left I had to do it again as he had messed it up! I didn’t say anything as didn’t want to lose his custom but made sure I didn’t do any more DIY when he might be around!

You mean women who don't hate men with a passion?

No, she means Stepford Wives who have surrended to their husbands.

wasafool · Yesterday 16:28

MrsSkylerWhite · Yesterday 14:48

God that drives me nuts! The number of old blokes I could have bumped off over the years, who suddenly appear in your mirror waving you into the parking space you’re already halfway in. I brake and glare until they go away.
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I've been driving for 50 years, well 49 if we are being accurate, and it has never happened to me. I wonder why it has happened to you so often?”

No idea. my first car when I passed 34 years ago was a Range Rover - I wanted a smaller car but my husband suggested that a larger vehicle would be better for confidence and he was correct . Have driven several different vehicles since. No accidents or prangs, clean licence and I’m excellent at reversing into spaces. Perhaps it’s because I’m blonde with big boobs (well, boob now, if we are being accurate)🤣 it’s certainly not because I’m a poor driver, which is clearly what you are trying to insinuate. No idea why.

To those who find it helpful: if you find it so troublesome parking without assistance, perhaps you ought to consider whether you ought to be driving at all.

If you look at my posts I suggested it might be to do with younger attractive women as I'm in my 70s although a I said I was definitely young once and I think I was attractive. I didn't have blonde hair or big boobs though. Maybe having short hair and flat chested they think I'm a man.

Don't you think it is strange that some people are getting this so often and to others, like me driving for 50 years, and it has never happened. I drive a big car, I used to tow a trailer, I've also had smaller cars in the past. I've lived in big cities and small towns. I also said I've never had men patronising me by calling me out on quiet rural roads. I can't figure out why, can you?

How common and unnecessary.

I think with many it would be the blind leading the blind. 🤣

Yes, how common and unnecessary of him to not listen to the OP and move after THREE requests.

Probably for the best, the school run is predominantly women and the parking is shocking 😂

Common is an outdated and nasty word to use

I never said the man trying to help me was old. He was a man who thought he was helping and wouldn't listen when I politely told him 3 times that his 'help' was hindering my parking.
When there are several cars behind you getting impatient waiting for you to park so they can get past and a man is standing in the way not listening I think it's fair game to eventually tell him to fuck off.

Ah, but you must let him or you'll be one of those who " hates all men with a passion" according to the handmaids on thread. Can't have that, can we? We have to pander to them and make them feel all useful and wise and manly, 🙄We silly little women NEED them to function after all.

My fil seemed to find it necessary to do that to me until I told him I'm fine. Its as if older men think us women can't drive!

I remember when I was 18 and drove a big old cavalier back in the nineties, I got into town and the only space to park was a pretty tight one on the street. A bloke in his thirties saw me stop to reverse into the space, and he stopped to watch me fuck it up, with his arms folded and a ‘this will be funny’ look on his face. I managed to reverse park perfectly into the very tight space, first time, and his jaw literally dropped. I got out of the car and he actually came over and congratulated me on a brilliant bit of parking 🤣. Amazing that having a vagina and being able to park aren’t mutually exclusive 🙄.

On the flip side of that, I was staying in Thailand about 10 years ago and hired a car to get around the island. Every time I got back to the resort if it was dark, the security guy would run over with a torch and stand at the back of the space I was reversing into, to illuminate my path. He didn’t appear to speak any English so there was no point in explaining that A) cars had reversing lights and B) I’d somehow managed to park at night without assistance for the last 17 years 🤣

I found this “helpfulness” got worse when I went blonde, even though I’m an excellent parker (unlike my husband). The most annoying was my FIL who couldn’t even drive.

Mansplaning at golf. It has gone viral because so many women have experienced this in one form or another.

www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-68379930

I had this happen recently… I stopped and said “Do you MIND?” He said “I’m just helping, Love!”. I said that it wasn’t helping, it was distracting and he was in my way. Also, I’ve been reversing my car for 37 years without his help or causing an accident.

That's just what a lot of men are like, they are trying to be helpful. They will also notice if you have a scratch or dent in your car and if your shelf or poster is not 100% straight as soon as they enter the room and tell you about it😆It's how they feel useful I guess, and he obviously thought he was doing you a favour.

It's just in their nature-and also why it's almost always a man risking his life for a stranger whilst the women just look on...

Er, no, it's because men are more willing to interfere where they are not required or wanted. And some of them resent the fact that women are allowed to drive at all.

@NeedAdvice2024 Some did.

It's rude, anyway. Just politely say you don't need help and have a park assistant. No need to be aggressive.

For all those who commented, no my late FIL was not police or forces - he was a geography lecturer 🤣🤣
He definitely didn't think women were much good at practical things so he did rather like to "help". Unfortunately he was much more a thinker than a doer so his idea of helping was explaining some theory over and over again while you got on with the actual job!
Our relationship was fine once he'd realised I am quite a capable person and even know how to drive! I didn't intend to push him back so hard but it was a notoriously difficult junction and the last thing I needed was a body in the way of my view...I am very mindful of the fact that if I'm driving and I cause an accident, it's my licence at stake, not the helper's

It must be a real drag carrying all that misandry around every day.