How would you feel if your DP takes cocaine?

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If they do, how do you feel? If they don't, how do you think you would feel if they did?

My DP takes coke when he's on a night out / drinking alcohol. I've caught him a few times taking it even when sober. I knew this when I first met him, I didn't mind. A few months into the relationship it made me uncomfortable. Years later, we have a beautiful baby. I find it disgusting. I hate it so much. He says "all of my friends do it, everyone does it nowadays" which where I live is actually true. It makes me sad to be honest. He cannot go on a night out without it. We planned a very last minute outing on Saturday, as my mum offered to watch baby for the night. As soon as I said to him about a night out there he was on his phone texting to get coke. We've had so many arguments about this. I don't want to be in a relationship with a man that takes coke. I don't want my baby's father to take coke. I cannot control him . I've told him already it's coming very soon where I'm going to give him the option of me and baby or coke. It's annoying me now.

when we come home after a night out he lays staring at the ceiling because the coke doesn't allow him to sleep. When the bag is coming to an end, he acts an animal and licks the bag inside out. I REFUSE to kiss him because he puts the coke around his gums and I can literally taste it.

I know this is partly my fault because I knew he took it when I got with him.

AIBU? should I just let him work away and pretend I don't know he has it. How would you feel?

Some people can just do it in a night out and be fine. It doesn’t sound like he does. Sounds like he has a habit. Get sorted and leave him. This never ends well

I wouldn't like it. Which makes me a hypocrite as I can drink too much at times.

Since you have a child he needs to look at cutting it out.

This.

I hope he's insured as although overdose isn't that common it does damage the body in the same way that alcohol does. So he may not care ATM but I bet when he has his first heart attack he'll wish he hadn't done so much coke.

I think it is very different at the start because there was no child but once the op and her dp became parents the goalposts massively change and he should be responsible and grow up. He's acting like an 18 year old.

Difference between doing something on occasion and doing it relentlessly like the ops dp. He sounds like he has a problem.

That isn't a goal post change it is being a hypocrite. It is not ok to condone the illegal drug supply chain that is filled with violence and destroys the lives of people, including children, before you have you own children, then decide it was ok for other peoples children to suffer the fall out of illegal drugs, but not your own.

She should have run a mile before shacking up with and having kids with a drug user, and now she has come to her senses should run a mile now.

Drugs are a deal beaker for me.

First time I found him using he'd be out. Regular use is unacceptable imo; financial, health, illegal, example to children

It's no different to using many of the products we use which fuels the slavery trade either...

It's no different to using many of the products we use which fuels the slavery trade either...

OK, so that makes it OK to support the illegal drugs trade then

Whataboutery doesn't achieve anything.

Ok so having a baby even though you knew he was a drug user could be passed as being young and naive, but what is your excuse now? Your child is here, and you are asking what to do? If you don't know better by now then it's pointless asking. You obviously leave, go hard and get SS involved because you don't want your baby left alone with a coke head. And no, not everyone does it.