Annoyed by random man incidents

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Yes it’s not much in the scheme of things but I’m becoming increasingly annoyed by men in public (I’m sure women do these things too but 90% of the time it’s men in my experience).

Only today I was paying at the self service in Tesco, had the baby (in pram) and 4 year old with me. 6 checkouts, every other checkout was free. The second I tapped my card this man barged between me and the checkout I had used and started scanning his shopping, leaving me flustered as I gathered up my shopping and tried to pack it away while moving the pram and my other child away. The way it happened he’d clearly been waiting to do it, although why I have no idea.

Second occasion we were stood in another shop, a very big tall man comes round the corner of the aisle and rather than wait the split second for me to pull DD towards me so he could pass (was already doing this) he barged past her and almost knocked her over shouting ‘SORRY, SORRY’.

Gah. Yes it all sounds a bit petty written out but I’ve got PMT and have had a few of these incidences lately and am fed up.

I had something like this yesterday in a supermarket - all self-checkouts busy but two became free together.

Tall random man behind me with a primary age child marches forward saying “There’s one come free” and barges into me (small, but wearing a hi viz jacket as I’d just come from the stables). He did apologise but we then moved forward together aiming for the two different pay points.

So, he either barged me because I was small, or because I was wearing hi viz and he might have thought I was staff. Either in my view is unacceptable.

Maybe you were below his field of vision? I'm 6'1” and sometimes find myself bumping into short people (e.g. 5 foot).

Happens fairly regularly to me too. Yesterday took the kids to an attraction, we're standing in the queue for our time slot and some random man tries to barge past me to get to the ticket person faster. WHY do they do this sort of shit? Also the gym I've only ever had men come up to me to comment in the middle of sets, or interrupt to 'ask' how long I'll be whilst lurking slightly too close to me. Obviously I take longer when this happens

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You need to see a doctor if being a little bit tall affects your peripheral vision so badly that you're going through life bumping into anything and anyone under 5 foot.

Can't see people 1 foot below you? 🤣🤣 fucking hell, I hope you don't have kids. Poor buggers will be trampled.

DD had a man invite himself to join her table on a train last week. She was at least with friends. He kept forcing himself into their conversation and she said she felt bad ignoring him incase he was disabled. He was drunk after the football more like. I explained to her that a disability doesn’t give someone the right to make her uncomfortable. But she looked unconvinced. “Be kind” has been drilled into her friends at school. Thankfully a woman on the train intervened to tell him to leave them alone, and he did. And thankfully I’m now old and frumpy enough that it doesn’t happen to me anymore.

...or offering unsolicited advice on your form during your sets 🙄. They don't do it to other men, in my experience.

I pulled off a roundabout and because I got in front of this guy he tailgated me all the way up a main road for a mile or so . I didn't pull out in front of him there was plenty of room behind me . It was early in the morning so the roads were quiet .

YANBU - I've had the exact same thing happen to me both today and yesterday. Both times were men barging into my space when they could have used a different self serve check out because there were loads free.

Are men just getting more aggressive?

I get so fed up with aggressive tailgating men on the roads and big lumbering clumsy men in a lot of other places. So many of them have no sense of personal space.

My theory is they’re getting more paranoid. As women free themselves from men more in general, they feel they have to still prove their manly dominance in little ways, as underneath they’re seething so few of us want to be with a caveman who drinks all the money away and does fuck all around the house.

like I said I have PMT

@ThisOldThang by that logic we'd all be constantly trampling over cats, dogs, bushes, bollards, flowers, pigeons, children etc etc. I wonder why we don't? Yours is the best example of deflection from the point I've seen in a while.

I had one going mad behind me on a slip road. I'm not a slow driver, but the slip road is uphill and I was in third gear in a 1.2 polo. I can't go any faster!
He was mouthing and gesturing at me, we hit the motorway at 60mph, I moved up to 70 and he carried on at 60 behind me
So what was the fucking point?!

ive had a guy ask me to stop using a piece of gym equipment he wasn’t on because he wanted to alternate between the one he was on and the one I was going to use.

it was a busy gym and he wanted me to stand waiting while he used two machines. I told him no thanks, I’m staying on it and his jaw hit the floor. It was as if I had just broken some massive etiquette rule.

ive always wanted to ask- was I being rude ? Or was he?

Men are angry because women are dumping and divorcing their sorry asses. If they improved themselves they wouldn't get dumped, but they seem to believe that women are happy putting up with their disgusting and annoying habits so are caught off guard when they realise we live in the modern world and can divorce/dump them 😂

I find this when walking down the street and men just march on forward and expect others to get out of their way. I just don't move now unless they have mobility issues or something like a white cane obviously
When using self checkouts, usually they don't let the next person start scanning until the bagging area is clear, so in future just don't move your stuff straight away.

Do you really need us to answer those questions or have you worked them out yet?

I’ve had so many random aggressive men experiences that I’ve lost count.

A man who asked me to move and then didn’t like the direction I moved in so slammed my supermarket trolley into me. Didn’t like it when I called him an ugly cunt.

A man who had to give way on a narrow road as the parked cars were all his side of the road. I was behind him and he didn’t want to give way to the woman coming from the other direction. He eventually climbed the verge to get out of giving way. Me and the woman pulled up and spoke about him, just the rage that must have been at him for no reason at all.

A van driver man who called me a cunt for having the temerity to cross a quiet road he came careering down on.

A man who was annoyed I went past on a roundabout even though he was in my left. He pretended to ram my car a few times. I gave the middle finger which infuriated him 😂

On Saturday, I was shopping with DD in a nearby town centre. Very busy with lots of people about. We were heading to the doorway of a shop, and a guy was nearby handing out leaflets. He made to engage with me but I just said "no thank you". He actually put his arm across me to stop me getting into the shop, to talk to me about his church. I was instantly enraged and told him what he could do with his fucking leaflets (he just laughed). The thing is, he would never have done that to any man on that high street.

@AmaryllisChorus ill take it that IANBU! 😄

I think there is a lot of truth here. Men just seem to be flailing and we are still seen as easy targets. Women's worlds have opened up significantly in the last couple of generations, and our stake in the world has changed beyond belief. I think that men have still not adjusted to this change, and are becoming angrier and angrier with the fact that women now have choices, have money, take up space and so on. And giving a woman a little barge every so often makes them feel like MEN again.

I can only imagine the carnage you’re leaving in your wake, are you also wearing a cone of shame a la a recently operated on dog? Even the BFG managed not to stand on Sophie.

I had one particularly memorable instance when I was walking down a wide path and a male runner was running towards me and starting yelling at me to move. I did not and he smacked straight into my chest. Unfortunately for him I'm built like a brick shithouse and he practically bounced off and had to step off the path while I carried on my way

That’s what I was clumsily trying to say - it’s a little ‘don’t forget we’re still bigger and scarier than you, and can make you do things if we want’