Annoyed by random man incidents

[IfYouLikePinaColadaaa]

Yes it’s not much in the scheme of things but I’m becoming increasingly annoyed by men in public (I’m sure women do these things too but 90% of the time it’s men in my experience).

Only today I was paying at the self service in Tesco, had the baby (in pram) and 4 year old with me. 6 checkouts, every other checkout was free. The second I tapped my card this man barged between me and the checkout I had used and started scanning his shopping, leaving me flustered as I gathered up my shopping and tried to pack it away while moving the pram and my other child away. The way it happened he’d clearly been waiting to do it, although why I have no idea.

Second occasion we were stood in another shop, a very big tall man comes round the corner of the aisle and rather than wait the split second for me to pull DD towards me so he could pass (was already doing this) he barged past her and almost knocked her over shouting ‘SORRY, SORRY’.

Gah. Yes it all sounds a bit petty written out but I’ve got PMT and have had a few of these incidences lately and am fed up.

Happens so often. Most recently I was looking at something in the supermarket, a man came right up close to me and said ‘erm, I’m trying to look there’ as if I’d just barged in front of him or something I said ‘yeah, so was I before you disturbed me’ and he huffed off.

YES! I was going 20 in a 30 because it’s busy and a man angrily waved his arms down shouting slow down!

Im not a fast driver, he was just trying exert some dominance over me - you know when you just know?

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I've had this a couple times recently and I was shook and furious. I rarely go out far and have health problems, basically if I fall from standing height while at walking speed my bones WILL break.

The other day, on way back from hospital visiting., this really posh looking fella, tall, broad shoulders, just barged right into my (thankfully good) shoulder, knocking my drink into my jacket. If he's have done the other side I would've dropped as I have a rotator cuff injury. Mumbles "sorry' without even slowing down or looking. I yelled out "Fucks sake, dickhead' to no-one in particular.

The other month I was using one of the only cashpoints in my area. I needed to use 2 cards, so after the first one, i was still fully at the machine, had not moved, this young-ish looking man literally barges past me while I was reaching for the second card, pushing me away from the machine, while bellowing "excuse me!?'. "I'm still using it!" I said with distain. He rolled his eyes, huffed and went back to the road where he should have been waiting all along. When I left I said "oh sorry your coke dealer might have to wait 1 extra minute, wanker'.
Men never used to barge into women like this as much I'm sure. Fucking rude twats. If I fell or was hurt their arsehole would be getting sued.

It's fucking always men that think they know better. Doesn't surprise me unfortunately.

I had an incident recently when I delayed going through a green light to let a driver in from the right who had got in the wrong lane. The driver behind me, who was delayed by 20 secs, drove past gesturing furiously so I gestured back. This clearly antagonized him further (I think I was supposed to doff my cap and reflect on how my act had impacted on him). He drove past and slammed on his brakes, then waited there for 30 secs, just stopped dead in the road. It was all rather amusing- I just put my hazards on to warn the drivers behind.
(The driver i had let in would have ended up holding up all the traffic in the lane he was in, as it was lane to turn right and he wanted to go straight ahead).
The whole incident did leave me feeling annoyed as the driver was in a big car and clearly wanted to intimidate me, and could have caused an accident. It was unnecessarily aggressive.

Whatever you do, please do not raise your voice, or look angry or flustered in any way - please remain quiet and lady like at all times

I was following some idiot doing 20 mph on a 40 road in his clapped out man mobile. He also kept randomly stopping to fiddle with his radio or something. It was getting ridiculous and a sizeable queue had formed behind me. I waited until there was a straight stretch of road and whizzed past. He went absolutely bananas! His face! 😂 I just shook my head as I went past. He tried to catch me up and undertake me at the next roundabout, but I was going right anyway 😊 he was honking and everything. What a tool.

I’m a tall woman, and that winds men up no end as well. They insist I must be a 6foot7 Harlem Globetrotter because I’m taller than them. When I state I’m 5’10 they say, ‘no way because I’m 6 foot and you’re taller than me’ 😂

@IfYouLikePinaColadaaa it's utterly pathetic. It reminds me of that famous video of researchers observing gorillas and one of the gorillas grabs one of the men as it goes past and drags him by his ankles for a bit before letting go. It's just a little reminder not to get too comfortable!

I work in a coffee shop, last weekend, typical Saturday and having to gently encourage people not to linger over empty cups, keep on top of clearing etc etc. Three blokes had ordered and got their coffees and cakes and just as they headed to a table two people ran past and grabbed it, frustrating for them but they squeezed onto a table for two and as soon as a better table became clear, I cleaned it up and told them it was available - as I was standing over the table and saying this to them another bloke who was with about 4 of his mates tried to take it and I politely said no, you can’t have it, it’s taken. I’m not an easily intimidated person, i’m short and gobby but this man who looked at me like he was trying not to smash my face in whilst his mates tried to tell him it was ok actually made me feel a bit weird. He actually apologised to the other men and said “it’s not YOUR fault” and then would glare at me. The intimidation radiated off him, a complete walking red flag!

Yes!!? What is that? I’m 5’9 and the number of men who say I can’t be, because they are… 😅
It’s a bit like the Mandela effect (see other thread), nobody can possibly admit that they might be wrong! (Not even me… I get measured a lot for medical reasons and I’m definitely 5’9!)

I was paying at the checkout the other day and a bloke wanted to ask the checkout person something. He could have waited until I was done. But no, he put his hands on my hips and shifted me out of the way. I was so shocked that I said nothing. I'm so annoyed at myself.

He was.

It's a complaint about women rather then men but still, a complaint about selfish people who think they are the centre of the universe.

I work near a creche, almost every day I am rammed in the back of the ankles by women with buggies that just have to get down the road quicker than me and everyone else.

Another parent parks halfway on the path and leave her car door open, blocking the footpath for ages while she gets the kids out. This is every day, twice a day.
Id say 2-3 times a week I see her arguing with people who have asked her to close the door. She just barks about how difficult it is and are they parents themselves🙄

I'm the first person to step out of the way for a buggy or whatever but no, you dont actually own the streets because you had children.

I got shouted at by a bus driver for my 'fucking selfish' parking the other day. He was pulling out of the bus station and stopped next to where I was waiting so he could wind down his window and shout at me. I was parked properly in a marked out parking bay. If I was in his way it'd be because he's a shit driver. Still upset me though.

I was driving behind a bus the other day, which pulled over at a bus stop. I moved slightly over so I could see if the road ahead was clear and I could overtake. It was not, there a was a motorcyclist coming down the middle of the road. So I didn't move - I sat behind the bus. Which is where I was when the man on the motorbike decided to shake his fist at me and shout something that I couldn't hear but was clearly insulting. Not sure why NOT driving into him was so wrong?!

How dare he just physically move you out the way like you’re a chair or something! What’s with all the hip touching shit as well? Do they think it makes the interaction somehow daintier and more acceptable? Just fuck off!

Maybe you were below his field of vision? I'm 6'1” and sometimes find myself bumping into short people (e.g. 5 foot).

You sound careless. I'm shorter than you, but don't regularly bump into children

They believe that getting married or getting together with someone is like having a baby. You return home from hospital and are basically stuck raising the little one no matter how badly behaved it might be. They think the same happens with partnership. That you're stuck with them no matter what they do - ? Do they think we're their mums or something

They then have toddler tantrums when they don't get their own way. Like how an angry toddler runs around the room in circles then randomly charges up to you and thumps you in the chest with their tiny clenched fist 😂

You sound very aggressive yourself.

Travelling through London on the underground last week with DD(11) and DS(14). Train pulls up just as we get on the platform, we get on, DD is in front of me and DS half a step behind to my left. I turn around to my son and where I expect to see him is instead a massive bloke. I realise as the doors slide shut that my son is still on the platform and blocked from getting on the train because this guy has just cut in front of him then stopped dead in the doorway (there was loads of space for him to move forwards). The guy just looked at me and said “Oh, is that your kid? Damn” while shaking his head, chuckling and smiling at me in a really smug way.

Luckily DS is pretty savvy and just waited where he was for us to get back to him and we can all laugh about it now, but still, why would that guy do that!

In my experiences, a lot of these aggressive men are short. I am a tall woman and I tell you short ass men hate tall women. I remember this one guy who was like 4 ft 9 with a squeaky mouse voice was really nasty to me for no reason. I am not too bothered though. He was a silly fuck who barely earns any cash. He will be fucked when it comes to retirement age.

Was last one getting on a very packed tube. Man pushed me quite hard so he could board the train. There was no space in front of me so it wasn’t as if I was holding him back. But me pushing into others did create a small space for him. I looked at him pointedly and when we both got off he said ‘What’s your problem?’. I said quite calmly that pushed me and that he could have at least had the decency to apologise. To which he said ‘if you can’t handle the tube, you shouldn’t be on it’. Actually that made me realise I was dealing with a complete idiot who was not worth my time….he did vaguely shout an apology of sorts as I walked away. But my God the audacity of some people. He would never have done that to a man.

What a tool.

Indeed, each and every one of them. Do their little displays of how manly/important/arseholey they are actually make them feel better or do they carry on feeling aggrieved that we exist all day?