Page 5 | Annoyed by random man incidents

IfYouLikePinaColadaaa · 2024-02-19T15:00:22+00:00

Yes it’s not much in the scheme of things but I’m becoming increasingly annoyed by men in public (I’m sure women do these things too but 90% of the time it’s men in my experience). Only today I was paying at the self service in Tesco, had the baby (in pram) and 4 year old with me. 6 checkouts, *every other checkout was free.* The second I tapped my card this man barged between me and the checkout I had used and started scanning his shopping, leaving me flustered as I gathered up my shopping and tried to pack it away while moving the pram and my other child away. The way it happened he’d clearly been waiting to do it, although why I have no idea. Second occasion we were stood in another shop, a very big tall man comes round the corner of the aisle and rather than wait the split second for me to pull DD towards me so he could pass (was already doing this) he barged past her and almost knocked her over shouting ‘SORRY, SORRY’. Gah. Yes it all sounds a bit petty written out but I’ve got PMT and have had a few of these incidences lately and am fed up.

JCLV · 19/02/2024 22:25

Usamaflip · 19/02/2024 17:28

Travelling through London on the underground last week with DD(11) and DS(14). Train pulls up just as we get on the platform, we get on, DD is in front of me and DS half a step behind to my left. I turn around to my son and where I expect to see him is instead a massive bloke. I realise as the doors slide shut that my son is still on the platform and blocked from getting on the train because this guy has just cut in front of him then stopped dead in the doorway (there was loads of space for him to move forwards). The guy just looked at me and said “Oh, is that your kid? Damn” while shaking his head, chuckling and smiling at me in a really smug way.

Luckily DS is pretty savvy and just waited where he was for us to get back to him and we can all laugh about it now, but still, why would that guy do that!

What can absolute bastard

JCLV · 19/02/2024 22:30

randomusernam · 19/02/2024 19:27

Walking down the street today with my 3year old and baby in pram. 5 men walking side by side towards me. Not one of them moved to let me by

That’s quite intimidating. Awful.

wifey29 · 19/02/2024 22:35

Judellie · 19/02/2024 18:39

I parked in a 'drive forward' supermarket car park space, far away from the entrance, not near anything at all, not even the clothing bins.
Of course, when I got back with a trolley full of stuff, a man had parked right up behind me so that I couldn't get in to open the boot!
Not sure what was wrong with the fifty or so spaces all around that were completely empty.

My FIL does this. He claims that he needs a car next to him to be able to park straight. I told him that I thought it was incredibly selfish, as he knows I have to park further away in order to have the best chance of getting in and out of the car. I need the door wide open due to my disability, but don't qualify for a blue badge as I can walk. He told me that if my car was the only one in the car park, he'd park next to it. Apparently his needs trump everyone else's.

CarrieMoonbeams · 19/02/2024 22:37

I was talking about this very subject to my friend today. She's a prison officer, 5'11" and menopausal, so let's just say that she's not easily intimidated.

She was driving down a country road this afternoon, no other cars around except an SUV in front of her towing a small horse box. The horse box doors had opened and were flapping, and the stuff inside - feed bucket, riding hat, jackets and boots - were rolling around from side to side. (Thankfully no horse inside!)

To get the driver's attention, she flashed her lights once and gestured towards the doors. Next thing she knew, he'd braked hard, blocking the road, and ran at her car, shouting that she was a stupid fat cunt and what was she in such a fucking hurry for anyway.

She took great delight in sitting there impassively until he'd stopped, and then pointed out that she was trying to tell him about the doors. He got all flustered but instead of apologising, he just looked at her and then said "Yeah. Well." and stomped back to his car. Then had to stomp back out again to shut the horse box doors 🙄.

She was almost laughing about it when she was telling me, but she said that she was shocked at how aggressive he was, instantly, from nowhere. Really unnecessary.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 19/02/2024 22:45

Why all the bigotry?

DropDeadFreida · 19/02/2024 22:45

CarrieMoonbeams · 19/02/2024 22:37

I was talking about this very subject to my friend today. She's a prison officer, 5'11" and menopausal, so let's just say that she's not easily intimidated.

She was driving down a country road this afternoon, no other cars around except an SUV in front of her towing a small horse box. The horse box doors had opened and were flapping, and the stuff inside - feed bucket, riding hat, jackets and boots - were rolling around from side to side. (Thankfully no horse inside!)

To get the driver's attention, she flashed her lights once and gestured towards the doors. Next thing she knew, he'd braked hard, blocking the road, and ran at her car, shouting that she was a stupid fat cunt and what was she in such a fucking hurry for anyway.

She took great delight in sitting there impassively until he'd stopped, and then pointed out that she was trying to tell him about the doors. He got all flustered but instead of apologising, he just looked at her and then said "Yeah. Well." and stomped back to his car. Then had to stomp back out again to shut the horse box doors 🙄.

She was almost laughing about it when she was telling me, but she said that she was shocked at how aggressive he was, instantly, from nowhere. Really unnecessary.

It's the instant flash of rage that's so strange to me. Constant, simmering anger that needs the lightest trigger and they'll lose their shit. And we're the emotional ones.

SoggyDoggyWalks · 19/02/2024 22:45

ThisOldThang · 19/02/2024 15:08

Maybe you were below his field of vision? I'm 6'1” and sometimes find myself bumping into short people (e.g. 5 foot).

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I’m 5ft tall and manage not to bump into people just because they are shorter than me. Just as well since I work with children. I just make sure I look all around me as I move. Good to confirm my thinking others don’t though, which is why I always tell children in my care to be aware as others might not bother to be.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 19/02/2024 22:49

ThisOldThang · 19/02/2024 15:08

Maybe you were below his field of vision? I'm 6'1” and sometimes find myself bumping into short people (e.g. 5 foot).

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The idea that you think this is an excuse for barging into people is insane! You either need an eye test, or an attitude change, or both.

I'm tall, and my DH is over 6 foot. We somehow manage to both see short people (including small children and toddlers!) and manoeuvre around them so as not to bash into them.

judgementfail · 19/02/2024 22:55

I was recently crossing a totally clear quiet residential road (10mph limit) when a man in his emotional support Ute suddenly turned in from the main road at huge speed. He screeched to halt and I continued crossing bearing in mind I had nowhere else to go. As he passed he shouted. "You could have said thank you you stupid bitch".

Thanks for not mowing me down? Knob.

Scully01 · 20/02/2024 00:35

CatamaranViper · 19/02/2024 16:11

I find this when walking down the street and men just march on forward and expect others to get out of their way. I just don't move now unless they have mobility issues or something like a white cane obviously
When using self checkouts, usually they don't let the next person start scanning until the bagging area is clear, so in future just don't move your stuff straight away.

I once had a standoff with a young guy in the street who clearly expected me as a tiny brown woman to get out of his way.I stared him out till he gave up and walked round me. I can't abide when men assume that they own every bloody space. Don't get me started on bus and train seats!

Cakewineorgin · 20/02/2024 00:54

I live in a village with bottle neck at one end due to residents parking on one side of the main road. A colleague had been driving into the village (their right of way) and had almost cleared the parked cars when a man in a big car (possibly Range Rover) pulled out blocking her way. He was gesticulating for her to reverse but she just shook her head. He became enraged at this, got out of his car and screamed and shouted at her to reverse as he was ‘a busy man and didn’t have time to waste.’ She got out of her car, grabbed a book, sat on her bonnet and told him it was a shame as she didn’t have anywhere to be! After effing and jeffing he eventually reversed. When she told me this I was a bit 🤔 until I saw someone’s doorbell footage on Faceache!

Happyinarcon · 20/02/2024 02:33

There’s a lot of stress and tension in the world at the moment, lots of petty squabbles. I try not to add to this

WandaWonder · 20/02/2024 02:37

yeah they wake up and their first thought it ''how can I annoy a woman today, I don't have anything else on'

MyopicBunny · 20/02/2024 02:50

It's the instant flash of rage that's so strange to me. Constant, simmering anger that needs the lightest trigger and they'll lose their shit. And we're the emotional ones.

Exactly this!

homezookeeper · 20/02/2024 03:00

@ThisOldThang
I am 5ft exactly and have pet mice. Funny how I don’t stand on them when I’m cleaning their cage out and they've got full run of the room. Do you think you're just as far off distance wise from short people walking near you?

God help worms on the pavement after it rains, every one guaranteed death by giant human feet.

AcridAndStanLee · 20/02/2024 04:35

MyopicBunny · 20/02/2024 02:50

It's the instant flash of rage that's so strange to me. Constant, simmering anger that needs the lightest trigger and they'll lose their shit. And we're the emotional ones.

Exactly this!

I mean honestly... this describes me. Does it not describe us all?

"Constant, simmering anger"

I'm happy for men to do this. Come at me bro, as it were. I'll come straight back. They never expect that. I do get scared that one day it won't work how I expect.

RandomWhisker · 20/02/2024 05:24

I've got one of these stories!

We get on the bus yesterday & it was busy, I'd put my 2 shopping bags in the shelf bit as it was empty.

Time to get off, Two men standing by the shelf, so I said 'Excuse me I just need my bags'. First man moves out of the way. Second man was leaning across the shelf bit for some reason. I said 'Sorry' & he looked at me.

So I got off first, kids followed.

Soon as we get off my son says 'Mum, that man moaned at you'. I laughed & asked what he said, expecting that he'd just 'Tutted' or something. Turned out that he called me a 'Piece of shit'. So that was nice.

Sparklfairy · 20/02/2024 05:42

Atheory · 19/02/2024 18:23

I’m short and I still get this! I worked with a man who was 5ft 5 but insisted he was 5ft 11 and so I, at 5ft 4, must be 5ft 10. He’s not the only one either!

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OMG THIS. I'm 5ft7 and dated a guy who was 5ft5. Wasn't an issue for me but my god it was an issue for him. One day I was at his house and he insisted I MUST be 5ft6 and got me to stand against the wall so he could measure me.

He went silent holding the tape measure, and told me I must be stretching myself to make myself taller... so I assume it came out at 5ft7 or maybe 5ft8

I went along with the measuring because I thought it was funny. Like I said, I didn't care about his height. It became a huge deal though, he would sulk if I wore any kind of heel.

He was also an angry little man and has an issue with women, as a PP said.

Springpug · 20/02/2024 07:11

I'm in my 50 snow,
But still remember being trapped on the top floor of the bus ,coming home from primary school and a man sat next to me ,so I couldn't get out past him ,and he proceeded to wank
Another time I was walking my dog and a man ran past with his penis out of the trousers flopping side to side
And another one came out of a hedge holding his penis and shaking it at me as I walked to school ..
All of these happened when I was 11 and 12 ,and had pigtails and looked 11/12
Not all men ...no ...it certainly felt like it at the time

ohfook · 20/02/2024 07:12

Tagyoureit · 19/02/2024 17:57

The world has gone mad!

I drove round a carpark looking for a space, when I saw one I had to reverse a bit to maneuver in, the male driver behind started beeping his horn like I'd smashed his car up!! Id only put my reverse lights on and hadnt even started to reverse as i had to wait for him to move!! Why was he so close to begin with? Dickhead!

Woman driver decided to play stupid games with not letting me in the line of traffic from a feeder lane, she nearly caused a collision with her car and the one in front of her and was sat laughing in her car! Very strange!!

Another woman driver decided her car was too precious to have any other car near hers and threw an absolute shit fit when I reversed out of my space, nowhere near touching her car, but she deemed the foot of space I had left was already too close!! God I wish I had a fry pan for her face as she tried to scream at me and then try to open my car door!! Batshit crazy!!

Since covid, there has been a huge decline in civility towards others! It's really depressing!!

Your last sentence struck me as I work with young children. Myself and my colleagues all noticed after the lockdowns they all came back much less tolerant of each other and had lost a lot of the soft skills that help with social interaction.

Maybe it wasn't just children this happened too. The only difference being in schools they did a lot of targeted pshce to address this but adults got nothing similar.

Countrylife2002 · 20/02/2024 07:21

I swim and there’s a massive difference in sharing a lane with a man and sharing with a woman. Men just feel entitled to take up so much space, it’s so bizarre. And I’ve only ever had one give way to me so I can overtake .

GingerReader · 20/02/2024 07:25

Creatureofhabit87 · 19/02/2024 20:02

Another man bashing post! Women are dicks too!

Start your own post then instead of coming on here and having a strop about women sharing their experiences of being annoyed or intimated in public by men.

Teaandtoast12 · 20/02/2024 07:25

OLDbutnotforgotten · 19/02/2024 16:04

ive had a guy ask me to stop using a piece of gym equipment he wasn’t on because he wanted to alternate between the one he was on and the one I was going to use.

it was a busy gym and he wanted me to stand waiting while he used two machines. I told him no thanks, I’m staying on it and his jaw hit the floor. It was as if I had just broken some massive etiquette rule.

ive always wanted to ask- was I being rude ? Or was he?

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This exact thing happened to me and he made me feel stupid so I didn’t argue and just let him because I was like is this gym etiquette that I don’t know about! Really talked to me like an idiot so I just left feeling silly! But after I’ve been like actually should I have told him no!

Countrylife2002 · 20/02/2024 07:48

i absolutely hate it in our a gym when a couple of men do circuit type training across 3 machines. Means I can’t get on any of them. So bloody entitled.

MrsCurmudgeon · 20/02/2024 08:03

I have mentioned this one before. I have had a man CLIMB A Chainlink FENCE onto a private sports ground to come to tell me the way I was doing a sport was 'wrong'.

When asked, he had never done the sport but felt very entitled to come to interrupt me and tell me I was wrong. He absolutely wouldn't hear otherwise and wouldn't let me continue by getting in my way as he was demanding that I 'try it his way' 'just try it once' 'give it a go and you will see' 'Oh come on, you are making this harder than it needs to be, just do it that way and you will see I am right' 'no need to be rude, I'm trying to help you'.... and so on

This continued until a male team member came over to see what the heck was going on. As soon as he saw the man approaching the pest scuttled off immediately.