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Februaryfeels · 18/02/2024 22:11

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Is there any need for ageist misogyny?

Dibbydoos · 18/02/2024 23:19

@Winter3000 omg can't believe the heat you're getting! You're not at a poll like some people who can't read are suggesting so you're nit saving a sunbed fgs.

Well done you. These people who think they have more rights than you are ooo and any saying you're wrong to be angry are saddest. You have every right to be angry and to get loud if he denied what you saw.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 18/02/2024 23:21

happyinherts · 18/02/2024 18:01

So what are you supposed to do with your belongings if you go in for a swim or paddle?

Sorry, but removing people's property is wrong. First come, first served.

So weird that no one has had a helpful/realistic suggestion for this so many pages in ...

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 18/02/2024 23:22

2Rebecca · 18/02/2024 18:27

I think reserving a sunlounger whilst in the pool is fine, reserving one and going back to your apartment/ for a meal/ for a walk isn't. Unfortunately people who do the latter are more numerous than people doing the former. He wasn't a nasty man just a man fed up with the sun lounge towel then run away brigade

Have you read the OP properly?

T1Dmama · 18/02/2024 23:45

Winter3000 · 18/02/2024 04:06

The lack of reading comprehension on here is alarming but not surprising.
I was on a beach. Not a pool.
I went for a swim.
Some people are suggesting that I bring my bag and towel into the water with me. Or that I clear away my stuff onto the ground while I'm swimming. Bonkers - but not surprising.
I already said what he did before he moved my stuff.
I'm not British.
There were plenty of free sun loungers available all around.
Read the thread.

To add:
It's not an all Inclusive holiday.
It is a small public beach.
Raising my voice loudly is not the same thing as shouting.
So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out.

well done x enjoy the rest of your holiday

DeeCeeCherry · 19/02/2024 05:10

Wonder if he'd have done that if you were a man

FindingNeverland28 · 19/02/2024 05:16

Well done you! It’s not like it was just your towel that he moved. It was your bag as well. When people reserve a sun lounger, it’s usually just the towel that they leave. And for those that assumed you were British. Shame on you. Do you go around making assumptions about people based on their skin colour or religion as well?

PaperDoIIs · 19/02/2024 06:54

RestartingLife · 18/02/2024 20:15

I'm stumped...your approach to this individual was rather explosive. I understand not liking your stuff being touched. Did you consider that they may have wanted to be poolside as they possibly had kids in the pool? It doesn't sound like you did.

Personally I'd have politely let him know that I wasn't happy that he touched my belongings and also moved them but I'd have acknowledged the fact that he scouted around. You say you watched him from his arrival to the point where he moved your belongings. Why didn't you alert him to the fact that you were there and that it was not technically unattended? We're you looking/waiting for a confrontation opportunity?

Then to post on here looking for some form of support...lady, you're on holiday, you were so affronted over a sunbed situation. I'm currently at work right now, working all the extra hours I can, recently made a single parent after my narcissist ran off for another woman after 20+ years together. Alot more post breakup stress caused by him that I won't go into. Haven't been abroad in years. I struggle to sympathise. I'd be grateful, as would my kids - to be on holiday, go in the pool, the sunbed is irrelevant. Gey your priorities straight.

Your last paragraph explains why you haven't read the OP properly. There was no pool , there were no kids. It was on the beach.OP was in the sea.

Hmm1234 · 19/02/2024 08:53

What did you do about it fight him in your bikini 😂

Barney60 · 19/02/2024 11:33

montysma1 · 17/02/2024 07:40

Could you have dragged the other sun lounger to sit immediately in front of the one he stole?
That would have amused me.
Me too!

eastegg · 19/02/2024 16:44

flashspeed · 18/02/2024 04:24

No reason at all to be in someone's face, it's vile behaviour and the only reason you did it is you knew he wouldn't escalate because you're a woman. If he really wanted to be a twat he would have thrown your stuff on the ground. Very trashy behaviour to get in someone's face, I'd be embarrassed if I was you. It's not assertive or strong, it's overly confrontational and I'd unlearn that habit if I was you because you never know when you'll do it to the wrong person. Assertive would have been telling him at a NORMAL PERSON distance that he was in your lounger, and call me a wallflower or not but I would have just sat somewhere else if I'd been in the sea and my lounger was taken, wouldn't be interested in looking like a twat infront of the whole beach just to lay next to the man's wife.

you knew he wouldn’t escalate because you’re a woman

Yes, because women always get an easy ride whenever confrontation is afoot don’t they? Men always treat them so gently and kindly. NB this is not a comment on the rights and wrongs of the behaviour in the OP, just that this is a really stupid remark. Do you not watch the news or go out anywhere?

Nantescalling · 19/02/2024 21:46

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 17/02/2024 07:41

You sound awful. Was there any need to be so aggressive

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Yes obviously when dealing with an unmannered oaf.

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 20/02/2024 11:51

Barrenfieldoffucks · 18/02/2024 20:05

Or did he assume the bags belonged to a lounger reserver you had buggered off and intended to come back later? Cause most hotels would side with the person moving the bags in that instance

It wasn't a hotel. It was a public beach.

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 20/02/2024 11:52

@RestartingLife

it wasn't a pool.

It was a public beach, she was swimming in the sea.

Maybe I should just record myself saying this and post it every 10 posts.

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Winter3000 · 20/02/2024 16:12

Some people on here seem to be unable to read properly.

OP posts:

iwafs · 20/02/2024 16:15

I think what you did was fine. He had no business moving your bag and towel whilst you were swimming and he got exactly what he deserved.

ilovesooty · 20/02/2024 16:15

I can read properly.

I don't think he should have removed your stuff.

I still think your response was unduly aggressive.

DamnSpots · 20/02/2024 16:23

Its astonishing how many people read 'lounger' and don't bother then reading that its a beach not a hotel. Most of this thread is filled with people talking about hotels, all inclusive, hogging lounges around the pool, putting their towels down then going off for breakfast/to the bar... Incredible.

Nantescalling · 20/02/2024 17:03

DamnSpots · 20/02/2024 16:23

Its astonishing how many people read 'lounger' and don't bother then reading that its a beach not a hotel. Most of this thread is filled with people talking about hotels, all inclusive, hogging lounges around the pool, putting their towels down then going off for breakfast/to the bar... Incredible.

Totally agree. Quite different scenarios!

T1Dmama · 20/02/2024 17:06

Winter3000 · 20/02/2024 16:12

Some people on here seem to be unable to read properly.

People just like to go off on one sometimes. Ignore

RufustheFactualReindeer · 21/02/2024 08:45

ilovesooty · 20/02/2024 16:15

I can read properly.

I don't think he should have removed your stuff.

I still think your response was unduly aggressive.

She is quite obviously not talking about you

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 21/02/2024 09:07

Winter3000
Some people on here seem to be unable to read properly.

People just like to go off on one sometimes. Ignore

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Lots of MNers also love a chance to get a dig in about how uncouth and common AI holidays are so pounce on a thread like this.

We don't do those holidays quite so much now but for a few years especially when DD was very young they were great and gave us so much flexibility.

But for some, if you choose to holiday outside of Padstow you may as well be besties with Vicky Pollard

Fluffypuppy1 · 21/02/2024 11:43

RufustheFactualReindeer · 17/02/2024 16:05

Although I completely agree that loungers should not be reserved with a towel, it appears that some people on this thread think that if you have a dip in the water or go for a wee, or a drink or an icecream then you have to take all your stuff off the loungers, one assumes either take everything with you to the loo or dump it on the floor

thats honestly the most ludicrous thing I have heard on mumsnet…and i have heard a lot of ridiculous things!

This.

OP states that there were plenty of sun beds that were free so it’s not as if he had no other option besides moving OP’s belongings.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 22/02/2024 21:18

spanishviola · 17/02/2024 14:48

Scrag? What an unpleasant thing to call someone.

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Why is it unpleasant? I googled and just get scrawny, cut of meat and garrotting

pineapplecrushed · 23/02/2024 09:46

Winter3000 · 17/02/2024 07:21

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

Tricky. We were on hols recently and people would go for lunch and leave their stuff for 2 hours on the loungers by the pool (when it was busy and people wanted loungers). But if there were other free loungers then he was being unreasonable.