Page 13 | Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

Daisybuttercup12345 · 17/02/2024 22:07

Nothing to show off about.....

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 17/02/2024 22:13

I'm curious.

On my next holiday I go to the BEACH by myself early for a swim in the SEA. Sun loungers are all pretty empty. I select one at the front so I can see my belongings while swimming.

Why is it such an inconvenience for these people to choose any other lounger but not the one my belongings are on?!!!

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 17/02/2024 23:28

@Isitautumnyet23 it's literally the second line of her OP so I really don't think it's too much to expect adults to be able to take in this basic information about her situation.

Isitautumnyet23 · 17/02/2024 23:38

FasterthanaButteredOtter · 17/02/2024 23:28

@Isitautumnyet23 it's literally the second line of her OP so I really don't think it's too much to expect adults to be able to take in this basic information about her situation.

But back to the actual issue…he was wrong to move her stuff, she was wrong to shout in someone’s face and be confrontational over a lounger.

Mouse82 · 18/02/2024 01:35

spanishviola · 17/02/2024 14:48

Scrag? What an unpleasant thing to call someone.

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Well if you want to get up in someones face hands on hips shouting. If the shoe fits, scrag, don't act like a scrag then you wouldn't get called that.

"I was pretty loud.
I was standing there with my hands on my hips, right up in his face."

OP doesn't come across as a very pleasant person.

DinnaeFashYersel · 18/02/2024 02:07

Go on yersel.

Well done.

Wanna17 · 18/02/2024 02:57

You don't own the sun lounger, you got to use another one and he made sure none of your things went on the sand!

What is wrong with you?

Wanna17 · 18/02/2024 03:01

"I was pretty loud.
I was standing there with my hands on my hips, right up in his face"

You're a bully who has obviously been lucky and not picked on the wrong person yet.

I can't stand bullies, I hope one day I move your things off a sun longer and you try that with me, you'd have found yourself face down ok that beach with a mouthful of sand.

MCOut · 18/02/2024 03:37

YANBU to have asked for your lounger back, but there was probably a kinder way to go about it than public humiliation. You sound like you didn’t even bother to just have a conversation first.

A lot of people are selfish enough to leave their things on the lounger all day so they have a prime spot for one or two hours. It should’ve been obvious because your bag was there too, but I would’ve given him the benefit of the doubt.

Original poster

Winter3000 · 18/02/2024 04:06

The lack of reading comprehension on here is alarming but not surprising.
I was on a beach. Not a pool.
I went for a swim.
Some people are suggesting that I bring my bag and towel into the water with me. Or that I clear away my stuff onto the ground while I'm swimming. Bonkers - but not surprising.
I already said what he did before he moved my stuff.
I'm not British.
There were plenty of free sun loungers available all around.
Read the thread.

To add:
It's not an all Inclusive holiday.
It is a small public beach.
Raising my voice loudly is not the same thing as shouting.
So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out.

OP posts:

Mouse82 · 18/02/2024 04:07

Winter3000 · 18/02/2024 04:06

The lack of reading comprehension on here is alarming but not surprising.
I was on a beach. Not a pool.
I went for a swim.
Some people are suggesting that I bring my bag and towel into the water with me. Or that I clear away my stuff onto the ground while I'm swimming. Bonkers - but not surprising.
I already said what he did before he moved my stuff.
I'm not British.
There were plenty of free sun loungers available all around.
Read the thread.

To add:
It's not an all Inclusive holiday.
It is a small public beach.
Raising my voice loudly is not the same thing as shouting.
So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out.

"So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out."

Just like you deserve to get called out for your own rank behaviour ;)

WandaWonder · 18/02/2024 04:10

Winter3000 · 18/02/2024 04:06

The lack of reading comprehension on here is alarming but not surprising.
I was on a beach. Not a pool.
I went for a swim.
Some people are suggesting that I bring my bag and towel into the water with me. Or that I clear away my stuff onto the ground while I'm swimming. Bonkers - but not surprising.
I already said what he did before he moved my stuff.
I'm not British.
There were plenty of free sun loungers available all around.
Read the thread.

To add:
It's not an all Inclusive holiday.
It is a small public beach.
Raising my voice loudly is not the same thing as shouting.
So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out.

So he acted like you?

flashspeed · 18/02/2024 04:24

No reason at all to be in someone's face, it's vile behaviour and the only reason you did it is you knew he wouldn't escalate because you're a woman. If he really wanted to be a twat he would have thrown your stuff on the ground. Very trashy behaviour to get in someone's face, I'd be embarrassed if I was you. It's not assertive or strong, it's overly confrontational and I'd unlearn that habit if I was you because you never know when you'll do it to the wrong person. Assertive would have been telling him at a NORMAL PERSON distance that he was in your lounger, and call me a wallflower or not but I would have just sat somewhere else if I'd been in the sea and my lounger was taken, wouldn't be interested in looking like a twat infront of the whole beach just to lay next to the man's wife.

anotherside · 18/02/2024 06:13

No reason at all to be in someone's face, it's vile behaviour and the only reason you did it is you knew he wouldn't escalate because you're a woman. If he really wanted to be a twat he would have thrown your stuff on the ground. Very trashy behaviour to get in someone's face, I'd be embarrassed if I was you

Well said. It’s not assertive, it’s aggressive. He shouldn’t have moved your stuff but your response wasn’t decent.

Plooto · 18/02/2024 08:04

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Withdrawn at OP's request

EchoFallz · 18/02/2024 08:05

Winter3000 · 18/02/2024 04:06

The lack of reading comprehension on here is alarming but not surprising.
I was on a beach. Not a pool.
I went for a swim.
Some people are suggesting that I bring my bag and towel into the water with me. Or that I clear away my stuff onto the ground while I'm swimming. Bonkers - but not surprising.
I already said what he did before he moved my stuff.
I'm not British.
There were plenty of free sun loungers available all around.
Read the thread.

To add:
It's not an all Inclusive holiday.
It is a small public beach.
Raising my voice loudly is not the same thing as shouting.
So I got in his face - entitled, selfish people like him need to called out.

I am glad you are spending your holiday rowing with strangers on the internet

If you are on holiday

MoreLidlThanWaitrose · 18/02/2024 08:11

YWNBU to not want your things moved
YWBU to shout with your hands on your hips like a Victorian schoolteacher or a cross mum in a cartoon

It would have been more effective to simply, and politely, state that ‘You seem to have made a mistake. I put my things on my lounger whilst I was swimming’. Embarrassment is far more effective than getting someone angry and defensive.

DistingusedSocialCommentator · 18/02/2024 09:16

Several good repsosnes here in the long thread inc mine earlier.

As others have said, more often than not a man won't argue with a loud woman and that rings a bell lookin back into things I've seen

OP, you are right the group was wrong, you said there was a lady with the guy and others, I believe, so how do you know it was the man who removed it?

OP, I've said before two wrong never make a right. You are right to pull them up, but I disagree with the way you approached this

You have more guts than me, us as we avoid confrontations as it meeeses up the day etc.

Looks like you feel you was right to shout at the man, that is your choice but how do you know it was him, not his OH, etc?

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 18/02/2024 10:30

Vile behaviour remains just that, no matter whether the other person started it.

Your reaction says a lot about you.

There's standing up for yourself, which no one is saying you shouldn't have..... then there's the getting in someone's face, which was unnecessary.

It's not what you say, but how you say it.

Wouldyouguess · 18/02/2024 12:18

@DistingusedSocialCommentator she wrote in the OP she saw the man remove the bags etc.

"The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger."

Wouldyouguess · 18/02/2024 12:20

I bet everyone here would be pissed off about their belongings being moved, but would suck it up and be pissed off inside for days 😂

DistingusedSocialCommentator · 18/02/2024 12:20

Wouldyouguess · 18/02/2024 12:18

@DistingusedSocialCommentator she wrote in the OP she saw the man remove the bags etc.

"The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger."

Many thanks for the heads up. I will go and edit my post if possible.

DistingusedSocialCommentator · 18/02/2024 12:22

Dear OP
Another FM has just heads up me and advised me that you saw the man remove your stuff. Therefore, please ignore that part of the post.

Thank you.

DaBlackCatsAreDaBestCats · 18/02/2024 12:57

flashspeed · 18/02/2024 04:24

No reason at all to be in someone's face, it's vile behaviour and the only reason you did it is you knew he wouldn't escalate because you're a woman. If he really wanted to be a twat he would have thrown your stuff on the ground. Very trashy behaviour to get in someone's face, I'd be embarrassed if I was you. It's not assertive or strong, it's overly confrontational and I'd unlearn that habit if I was you because you never know when you'll do it to the wrong person. Assertive would have been telling him at a NORMAL PERSON distance that he was in your lounger, and call me a wallflower or not but I would have just sat somewhere else if I'd been in the sea and my lounger was taken, wouldn't be interested in looking like a twat infront of the whole beach just to lay next to the man's wife.

Brilliant 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 18/02/2024 12:59

Wouldyouguess · 18/02/2024 12:20

I bet everyone here would be pissed off about their belongings being moved, but would suck it up and be pissed off inside for days 😂

I probably would absolutely do just that! And spend the rest of the holiday glaring at them

There's definitely a middle ground response to be had as he was a bit of a Twat