Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

[Winter3000]

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

Well done you, I would have been annoyed too !

I think Yabu. Just because you used something, you're not entitled to it for the rest of the day. I never use sun loungers and wouldn't touch someone else's stuff before I'm lumped in with this guy. Then again I wouldn't sit on a sun lounger when I could sit on a beach, so I don't get it

If she is like that towards some random on holidays I hate to see what she is like behind closed doors.

Talk about being dramatic its a sun lounge, if it was that important to you then you would have been sat on it, or atleast throwing a tantrum

Had you been on the breakfast bloody Mary’s?

It really doesn't matter what he thought

She had claimed the lounger, her belongings were on it. You can't just move someone's things.

Why could the 3 of them not find somewhere to sit together? Or, he could have sat on the one behind.

I'm struggling to believe that those backing him would be ok if their things were moved poolside whilst they'd gone for a swim/nipped to the bar.

Presumably he thought you were not there. Many hotels have signs saying loungers cannot be reserved, so had you been at breakfast or whatever the hotel would have taken his side.

As it was, you were there, but you watched and waited for him to move it. It sounds like you were hoping for a confrontation, perhaps if you saw him loitering (otherwise known as, waiting to see if anyone was coming back) you could have popped up at the edge of pool and told him you were sitting there.

So, you come off poorly here. What made you so needlessly aggressive?

If this is real, did the audience all start clapping?

Still does not give her the right to verbally abuse someone.

Assertive would have been to speak calmly to the man and ask him to remove his things from the sun lounger politely.
Yelling in his face isn’t being assertive, it’s being aggressive.

I’m not defending his actions but equally I don’t think the OP being aggressive was justified. This could have been dealt with so differently.

'A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.'

😂 Of course, of course

Probably looked approvingly to avoid having the OP shout in her face…

Must admit, I did think this.

YABU for the way you handled it. Yeh it’s annoying and rude what he did but why wouldn’t you just say I’m using that sunbed. No need to loudly get in someone’s face. Sounds like you want applauding for aggressive behaviour.

You forgot the so stunning and brave to go along with it🤣

Having had someone scream up in my face before yuck,.not a pleasant feeling.

Your behaviour was worse than his. I can't believe you are proud of being aggressive over a sun lounger. Yes he shouldn't have done it but your response was far worse and absolutely no-one looks over approvingly thinking I'm so glad that person is being so aggressive and unpleasant.

Why are people being so mean to the OP?! I refuse to believe anyone really thinks it’s okay to move someone’s stuff like that. People just love to disagree for the sake of it. She didn’t watch on hoping for confrontation - she was swimming! So presumably a reasonable way away. The guy was out of order and OP stuck up for herself. Well done! Also, having lived in Russia, I’m pretty sure the chap would not have been too upset by a bit of shouting!

Bravo op. Well done.
He was a dick. Everyone knows it. Good work sticking up for yourself!

Have a lovely holiday

Hands on hips, is this a thing? A stance I should take whenever I really mean something?

Yeah, sure! Disagreeing with aggressive behaviour just because!

Also, night bit of racial stereotyping there.

He was wrong.

you were worse.

Some of the replies on this thread are truly bonkers...

Well done OP for standing up for yourself.

If you are alone I really don't see what people expect you to do when you go in the water...take your belongings with you for a swim? how daft.

Also, there seems to be a weird number of people on this site that seem to believe that women should always be 'polite' and never, ever raise their voice above a whisper even if the other party is being an ass.

What this man did was extremely rude and he knew it.

Also if you had money and your hotel keycard in your bag the last thing you want is someone who thinks it is OK to touch your possessions.

I would also have been really angry. No need to sugar coat it when men like this are invading your space.

I’d have done exactly the same

Yes, it's what's meant by "arms akimbo".

I wouldn't have seen my arse about this if it was just there were no loungers available in a row of three. Naturally the bloke wanted to be close to the people he knew, they would want to chat amongst themselves. Sounds like OP was by herself so didn't need that specific lounger, and other loungers were available.

I dunno, I go on holiday to chill and enjoy being in the sun, I'd save getting worked up for something serious. And "Fishwife Mode" is broken in me so I'd never do that.