Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

[Winter3000]

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

It only works if the other person/people are pretty decent themselves. If they are a bunch of bullies, they won't understand politeness, sadly.

people need to calm down and be assertive not aggresive. Some people are just not able it seems to deal with anything these days.

😂😂

I wonder who will play OP in the movie.

OP wants us to congratulate her for her outburst

Doesn't mean anyone else has to be

I think you completely overreacted!

the sun loungers are there to be used, surely. They’re not “reserved” for people who aren’t using them but dump their stuff on them.

He didn’t damage your belongings or do anything untoward, he just moved them to a different sun lounger. it didn’t warrant you getting in his face and being loud. You weren’t even using the sun lounger at the time, why can’t he enjoy it?

it’s annoying being a solo traveller but I’m not sure I agree with your approach. But hey, at least you got the sun lounger back. I’m just not sure I see you as a “victim” like you see yourself

If he was a bully, he wouldn't have been embarrassed but escalated it.

He was cheeky but conceded and gave back the sun lounger.

OP says she laid into him as soon as she came out of the water..... poor behavior and there's never an excuse to be rude.

Again, two wrongs don't make a right.

Although I completely agree that loungers should not be reserved with a towel, it appears that some people on this thread think that if you have a dip in the water or go for a wee, or a drink or an icecream then you have to take all your stuff off the loungers, one assumes either take everything with you to the loo or dump it on the floor

thats honestly the most ludicrous thing I have heard on mumsnet…and i have heard a lot of ridiculous things!

Bullies also back down sometimes, especially when a lot of people are watching.

At the very best he was bloody rude and hopefully he learned his lesson.

"You weren't even using the sun lounger at the time"
Of course she wasn't as she was in the sea. Is she supposed to take her bag and towel into the sea with her?

That kind of comment makes me wonder how some people function in the real world. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Still no need for OP's behaviour.

In this scenario it seems reasonable to leave your items on a bed whilst swimming in the sea, and the man should not have removed them, but when he was ‘looking around’ did he not see you watching him?
And all this ‘hands on hips’, being ‘loud in his face’ and someone else ‘looking on approvingly’ - really? Unnecessary imo.

Thats mumsnet all over. Just like to be contrary and disagree with the op for the sake of it, even when it makes no logical sense. As if anybody in the real world would think going for a swim means you've forfeited your use of the sun lounger you had already been using. This thread is bonkers.

I like several other posters am not disagreeing with the OP for the sake of it. He shouldn't have moved her stuff and she had every right to say so. I just don't agree with her angry outburst and thuggish behaviour.

Well

Oh bless you…

do you want some sort of prize 😀

She went for a swim in the sea. Was she supposed to balance her bag on her head?

Patio bit at the beach?

What the hell are you talking about

Would you share an ocean? As OP was swimming in the sea not a pool. So your comments are rather pointless.

Would ye, aye?

Nope , just ‘looked on approvingly’
😝

She was at the BEACH swimming in the SEA.

Once more for the idiots at the back.

This is the fault of ppl that reserve and leave. Op was in the water so not in that category. The Russian should not have moved your stuff immediately, he should have sat on another lounger and if you did not come back 45 mins later, it would be reasonable to move it then.

Yelling at anyone is common and makes you look silly.

Does it make you feel big insulting people whilst hiding behind an anonymous profile?

I missed that bit (read quickly, its half-term). Regardless of that, shouting in someone’s face anywhere, at anytime, is horrible. I’ve always been polite (even when I know im right and someone else is wrong) and its done well for me in life so far. She was right to speak to him, but it could have been handled in an adult, polite way.