My husband still thinks everything is because of Covid

[Woman355]

Sorry, I didn't know how to word the title.

His attitude is making me want a divorce. Ever since Covid he's adopted views which I completely disagree with and I think he's verging on conspiracy theory.

I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine."

WHAT???

I'm actually so angry because he genuinely believes he's right and I'm wrong.

Everything that goes wrong is because of the vaccine.

Wwyd in this situation?

I would ask him when he qualified as a medical professional. Also, ask if he can provide any peer-reviewed studies that support his theory, and if not why not?

I don’t know because my husband is the same.

Sad about Chris Hoy this is the first I’ve heard

Is this genuine?

I'd start blaming everything on the 1918 Spanish Flu pandemic in the hope that he sees how ludicrous he is being.

My friend does this too, I find it very frustrating

It's just a difference of opinion surely? I mean you obviously got on when you married, so why would someone saying they don't agree on one thing make you want to divorce them. Is there more to this?

I don't agree with everything my OH says, but I wouldn't fall out over one difference of opinion.

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Believing in conspiracy theories is not a ‘difference of opinion’ 🙄

I have a few people in my life who think everything was caused by vaccines.

The maddest one at the moment is “everyone has coughs and colds at the moment, probably because of the Covid vaccine”.. um no, it’s much more likely to be because of Covid! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Honestly if my husband started with this shit I wouldn’t be able to take him seriously anymore.

I don't agree with them either, I can see its frustrating. I have a child with ASD and have heard it all - from close family members too.

Isn't it better to get to the bottom of why the husband is so unhappy he is falling for this shit and actually helping him see sense? I know it's difficult with people who have fallen for genuine CTs though. To assume someone has cancer because of a vaccine when you don't even know for sure they have had it is stupid, but there is a reason people latch onto this stuff. They are asking weird questions because they aren't happy.

@Updownleftandright

Universally, I’ve not met a conspiracy theorist who isn’t fundamentally an idiot.

Sympathy OP. I have a family member who blames everything on Covid vaccines and has now gone down a rabbit hole of other conspiracies. At this point, they can hardly go five minutes over a cup of tea without wedging vaccines, Russia or Trump into any random conversation! Thankfully I can reduce contact. If DH did this I wouldn't be able to stand it.

I don't blame anything on covid nor the vaccine itself. Never taken the vaccine, nor will take it on, so everybody who thinks certain ways, can think what they want. We still live in a free speech country. Stop mocking the poor conspiracy theorists

I work in a supermarket. I worked through the whole of the Covid thing, and almost without exception the customers who came in during that time, telling me how it was all a Government conspiracy/designed to get us fitted with microchips/vaccines would kill us all - were people who had very little power or intellect. It was their way of feeling superior. At last, they had something over those who were qualified, experienced and intelligent, and they hung on to that tiny bit of superiority that they could feel.

It was all horribly sad. Most of them have now forgotten all that and gone back to being the downtrodden and the left behind, but a few can't forget that for one glorious moment they thought they knew the 'secrets'.

People aren’t free from the consequences of their speech,

If idiots want to spew idiocy then the natural consequence is they’ll end up alone.

There’s nothing ‘poor’ about people who aren’t willing to listen to people who know more about certain subjects.

I’m thoroughly sick of supposedly everyone’s opinion being valid. It’s not true.

It’s like a surgeon telling you the best way to remove an inflamed appendix being challenged by ‘Dave down the pub’ who thinks it’s better to charm an inflamed appendix with a flute.

People are not free from the consequences of saying what? A thing about a vaccine? Explain to me why? The poster wants opinions , not to be shut down

Freedom of speech but there are some VERY strange ideas out there and I can't take many people seriously as a result.

@Woman355 does he think no one got cancer before the vaccine?!

You said ‘we live in a free speech country’ .

I’m saying you can indeed say what you like, but there will be natural consequences of that.

Someone can say to me ‘I think vaccines cause autism’ and the consequence of that is I will think they are an idiot and decide not to spend time with them.

Spewing idiocy means people will not want to spend time with you.

I’m not shutting anyone down.

No it shows a lack of basic intelligence and ability to be manipulated which is deeply unattractive.

OP I feel for you. It’s not just a difference of opinion. It’s going to make it so you just don’t have any respect for him.

Lots of relationships have suffered because of this utter shit, people become radicalised and you lose them. I think there is help out there, I read an article about a man who went down this rabbit hole but has managed to come to his senses, he now works trying to educate people about these issues.

As for the previous poster saying not every opinion is equal, you’re right, I think it’s the ultimate arrogance not to listen to experts. It shows a total lack of self awareness to not realise the limitations of your knowledge.

A friend of my dsis has an arsehole husband who prattles on about this to anyone who will listen.
No chance of a normal conversation, he launches straight into the reasons why he thinks it's a conspiracy.Boring as fuck.
Tell that to all the relatives of the poor people who died

This is tricky. During the pandemic my OH was the opposite and it really grated on me by the end (when we understood the risk was minimal).
Conspiracy theorists seem to either have a lower IQ or mental health problem or both.

“You’ve lost grip on reality. You cannot see it. And that’s why I have to leave you. I hope one day you’ll understand, but I cannot live like this.”

I’d leave.

@Woman355

"I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine." "

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To be fair to your DH whilst Covid vaccines had bugger all to do with cancer rates, the lockdowns did discourage people going to the doctors meaning that many cancers were not detected or diagnosed until late stage. Equally some cancer patients had their cancer treatments delayed because of Covid as well.

As a result deaths from cancer have increased as a result of the Covid measures. But to be clear this has nothing to do with the vaccine.