Would you date again if you were suddenly single?

[PoliteTurtle]

Sorry, I realise this could be abit of an insensitive question so I’ve tried to phrase it correctly…
Say for example you just found yourself as you are now but single - would you be able to move on from your partner?
I’m genuinely curious because I’d ever date again!

YABU ; I would move on

YANBU ; I would stay single

I found myself single after my partner died last summer. We were always on and off but I always expected him to always be there so I never felt single.

I can't see me having another relationship again. The dating scene is messed up. All men seem to want is sex and I think people are so unrealistic in their expectations now. I imagine women are just as bad and use men too for attention .
It's just not me , none of this.
I think more and more people seem to be staying by themselves .

Sorry @Doglover19
How are you adjusting to life without him?

Absolutely not. My DH is more than a slight cut above most. I don’t think it would be fair to another man to be compared to him for the rest of our lives, and I doubt I could stop myself from doing it. Not that I think they’d be beating down my door either, I’ve five children. 😂 if he died tomorrow I’d just be glad I had 11 really, really good years - better than a lifetime of a mediocre marriage surely.

@Doglover19 Sorry for your loss 💐 I have a similar reasoning, I’d hate to go through the painful dating phase again! More so these days!

I was suddenly single after nearly a decade. He cheated on me and left for the OW. 6 years later, I am now with someone new. It took me along time to trust anyone, and open myself up to potential hurt etc again. But it is all good so far, and I am grateful.

I would love to date again but I’m a lone parent and don’t get any time off so I can’t. I’ve been single for almost 8 years and celibate; that certainly hasn’t been a choice! I reckon most people would as not many people stay single forever till they die, maybe much older people?

I was suddenly single and then I did dabble with dating.

Met a few nice guys but none of them were for me. Also met some absolute horrors!

I just cba. I'm too busy with kids, work and friends in any case.

As I'm they're dead? Or as in they cheated and I hate them and that's why I'm single?

I'd probably never date again to be fair.
I've seen enough and most men my age have kids and are looking for another mummy figure to look after their kids and them.
No thanks

I didn’t really think about the cheating scenario when typing this Q, but I think all scenarios count! 🙂

No, I don't think I could be bothered.

Unless it happened "naturally", and I fell in love without trying, I think I'd stay single. Definitely wouldn't plan on going looking.

I've never lived alone for more than a few weeks at a time, and I think it would be difficult to adjust to that, but I just don't think I'd feel any interest in trying to find romance with another man.

No, not a chance.
My husband is one of the very few people that I can tolerate in my space, and he equally tolerates me.
that doesn’t sound romantic, but for us it’s love.
I cannot imagine ever finding someone else who’s that perfect for me. And if I’m being honest, I don’t need to. I like my own company.
So while I prefer living with him to living alone, I don’t think I could say that for most people. If he wasn’t around, I’d happily be on my own.

I've been single for 5 years and can't be arsed dating. I'm a single parent and don't have the time, money or energy.

Saying that, I did have a few hook ups some months after I became single. They were nothing more than that and helped me move on.

Being single doesn't mean you're not moving on.

I’ve never lived alone for any large length of time either, it would feel very strange… I can’t imagine navigating the dating scene whilst navigating being alone fully for the first time?

I think it’s quite easy for couples or happily married people to say they would never meet anyone again my ex left me when I was 28 so who would stay single until they died at that age? Lots of factors here and I imagine lots of people commenting they would never date again are probably a lot older.

I'm older and frankly can't be bothered with men just looking for "a nurse with a purse". WTF happened to men in the 21st Century

Have a fab life, DS off out into the world, I live my own life. Going out solo is my thing, in the afternoons. Art Galleries, local terrace cafe, film matinees, chilling out at home, taking a walk in the neighbourhood or a park, reading a book, treating myself to dinner (cooking, or a delivery). Helping friends who need someone to bring them to a hospital appointment, etc.

I love my life.

Personally, I’m 26 this year 😅

Yes, my 20 year marriage ended quite abruptly last year.

I’ve been seeing someone for about 4 months. I can’t see it lasting long term, but I’m having a very nice time.

omg that sounds quite blissful actually 🩷

I love dating, the freshness of meeting others and the possibilities... and I am also ruthlessly independent and enjoy not having to run anything I want to do pass my significant other like sitting on the lounge all weekend binging a series, going out drinking and dancing with friends until the early hours or going on holidays on a whim and a article that says it's cherry blossom season in Japan

I'm in both camps, move on and stay single 🌺

I don't think so. I've been with DH for twenty eight and a half years, married for twenty five. I think it would be very difficult to get used to being around someone else.

I'm divorced by the way. Best thing ever to get away from a violent and/or a controlling man.

Especially for my child's sake. And mine.

I did..after a while. XH and I split. No way was I ready to even contemplate dating the first few months. I remember having a kiss on my second date back in the game and finding it so weird, I hadn’t kissed anyone but XH for years! I met a lovely fella 11 months after I separated from XH. We are together every other weekend without kids, alternate going to each other’s homes. Sometimes meet with the kids.
We are in no rush to move in together or remarry though. XH met someone within a month of us splitting 🙄 moved in together and now engaged. I am supporting DC through all that so I wouldn’t want to put any more on her. She’s met my OH and his kids and likes them but I can’t comprehend blended family right now so we’ll carry on as we are!

I'd be happy to stay single for a wee while to give that chance to move on but also to find myself if it had of been a long-term relationship but just broke down for a variety of reasons.But yes I'd happily move on in time to date again & just enjoy the finding the right one, not rushing into a serious relationship.& if it's meant to be then wow amazing & if not then next please 😂.