Would you date again if you were suddenly single?

[PoliteTurtle]

Sorry, I realise this could be abit of an insensitive question so I’ve tried to phrase it correctly…
Say for example you just found yourself as you are now but single - would you be able to move on from your partner?
I’m genuinely curious because I’d ever date again!

YABU ; I would move on

YANBU ; I would stay single

I’m 30. 😅I could face fifty years single pretty happily I think, though obviously best case is that dh just keeps living lol.

As I said easy to say if you are married 😊 you have no idea what you would do if you was suddenly left single unless you planned to never have sex ever again from age 30 which I doubt? You would be very unusual

I would most definitely NOT date again.

I was suddenly single at the age of 45 in 2020 after almost 20 years. I was getting used to being alone and actually having some freedom again, when around a year later someone I had known for a long time popped into my life in a romantic way.
We had some ups and downs, even a small break last summer but I would say that now we are stronger than ever together. And I thought I was going to be alone with my pets and relying on my adult DD forever.

No.

It took me until nearly 40 to find my DP, and he really is a unicorn among men - kind, hilariously funny, honest, has integrity, generous, good in bed…he really is the real deal. I had a LOT of shit relationships before he came along, and I know from bitter experience that a huge swathe of men are…lacking, to put it politely.

Also I’m older now, my health isn’t great and frankly I couldn’t be arsed. I am also well into peri and whilst I still enjoy sex with my DP I definitely don’t have the sex drive I once had, and could happily live without it.

No, dating in this era seems deeply unappealing.

I would not be up for that, at all. Meeting someone organically? Maybe…..

But even then, I would not be interested in a man with young children, and I categorically would NOT blend families, or even move a childless man into my DCs’ home.

@MariaLuna’s set-up sounds idyllic, should (touch wood, etc, etc) anything happen to DH.

I think I would struggle to find someone, but I would be open to trying.

I would really, really hope if my DH was in that position, that he would. He really wouldn't cope without someone I don't think. He needs that companion.

Well no of course no body knows what they’d do if that happened, hence the Q! 🙂

My husband's stepmother, mid seventies, was widowed after 40 years of marriage to his father. She met a very presentable widower of 80 or so and they got married a couple of years ago. They're very happy - lots of big family gatherings with in-laws, stepchildren, half siblings, assorted grandchildren, cousins, even an ex DIL. We were all thrilled they have companionship and lots of shared interests.

I've been married twice. I can't think of a single reason that I would date at this point. There's absolutely nothing in it for me.

I've been single and celibate since I (very quickly!) left my ex husband 7 years ago.

I'd been in back to back relationships/flings since I was 17 and, whilst I'm only 44, I just can't bothered with exploring the dating scene; I don't miss sex, nor the company of another.

My sister dated again after her divorce & it worked brilliantly for her, she’s now married to a much nicer bloke.

I stayed single after mine & that’s working brilliantly for me, so it all depends really. Neither of us has kids.

I think living alone, at least for a bit, is an important experience if possible. Although of course not everyone can do it / wants to do it.

Not on purpose, if something happened organically maybe (unlikely since I work from home and seldom go out) but I don't think I'd look for it. My DH is my best everything and honestly I think any other relationship would be disappointing.

That’s more or less what happened to my grandmother, with a big family on either side. We were all thrilled for both of them.

I’d date as in go out with someone and enjoy ourselves, but I’d live alone. I love my own space.

I'm in my late 40s and have been with my wonderful DH for a long time. If that ended for any reason I certainly wouldn't rush into anything new, but I can't see myself being single for the rest of my life. I imagine I'd find a new partner eventually.

I'm already single, and I've only had one date (a very half-hearted one on my part) since my exDH and I split. I love being single.

I was “suddenly single” twice (widowed) by my mid 50s, and I am lucky to have found a lovely DP now.
But I know for certain, if we ever split up, I would just surround myself with German Shepherd Dogs and I would be perfectly happy!

I don't think I would, I have been with my husband since I was 19, I'm 48 this year. I have 6 adult children and have been disabled for 18 years.

I don't go out so wouldn't ever meet anyone and I don't want any other man in my life

I'm 50 and have been with my DH for over 30 years. I'd like him to be around for a lot longer but, if it ended somehow, I'm done and single for the rest of my life. No interest in anyone else.

With three children and one being special needs that will probably be unable to live independently, I will very likely be single.

If I somehow met someone, we probably wouldn’t live together. Not sure I can take having to learn how to live with someone else again.

I don't think i could be arsed!!

Same @phoenixrosehere.

I was out looking around the shops today and there was a couple in front of me. The man was having a go at the woman for walking too fast, on and on he went telling her how she walks all wrong with her trying to defend herself. I overtook them (and I'm by no means a fast walker!) and still heard him up the street. Being single is a-ok to me!

I was married 29 years, now divorced. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together (I live alone, and love that all decisions about the house are mine). If it ended I'd probably date again. Definitely not ready to give up sex! I'm nearly 60.

No thank you.
I've had over forty years of marriage to a fantastic man and as far as I'm concerned there's no blokes out there comes anywhere close to him.
So if anything happens to him then it looks like me and his ashes for a comfy evening with the TV.
Other men can get in the bin.