Would you date again if you were suddenly single?

[PoliteTurtle]

Sorry, I realise this could be abit of an insensitive question so I’ve tried to phrase it correctly…
Say for example you just found yourself as you are now but single - would you be able to move on from your partner?
I’m genuinely curious because I’d ever date again!

YABU ; I would move on

YANBU ; I would stay single

date yes, move in with no way on this planet

I love my husband but would happily live alone in the future if I had too

I found myself ‘suddenly single’ at 39 when my husband died unexpectedly. It’s been nearly six years now and I have absolutely no desire/intention to even consider dating. He was my first ‘proper’ boyfriend at 17 years old, so the thought of being with anyone else is just too alien! I am content with my (single) life now, although if Rufus Sewell wants to hook up, I guess I’d make an exception…

No. Absolutely not.

Absolutely this. Never. 😊

I think for most people who are in relationships and have never lost a partner/ spouse, it is hard to put ourselves in that position or really know how we might feel.

But in my experience, most people who lose their other half do eventually find someone to spend their time with.

I suppose it's more likely if they are younger, but I have also seen plenty of 70+ year olds find new partners after their spouse passed away.

Companionship is a strong need in many of us.

Having said that, my grandad sadly passed away when he was in his 30's and my grandma never dated again. Lots of people thought that was very unusual though.

I think if my husband died I would try to go and live with friends, if they'd have me. I hate the idea of living alone.

I don't think I'd 'date' as such but I'd just let nature take its course and see if anyone popped into my life. If not, that would be OK as long as I had friends around.

Same, I’d happily live on my own I have no desire whatsoever to live with a man ever again. I enjoy my nice cosy clean & tidy space to myself.

When I was married I was convinced I'd never be in a relationship again if it ended. Then dh died suddenly and I was filled with a kind of traumatic life force. Shagged my way round the south of England. It wasn't only about sex, I fell in love with lots of music, books and art as well. Not really surprising that I eventually met someone I wanted to spend mote time with. Now we live together. I'm slightly conflicted about that but only slightly, he's lovely.

Nope. Been single for 13 years now and absolutely love it.

if I can ever get out of my current relationship I think I would be too mentally scarred to trust a man again. Maybe after a lot of counselling, but I have been very put off.

100% no.
I'd miss dp to much. Not hugely keen on many men, I'd not be inviting them into my life in any romantic fashion, it wouldn't be fair on anybody.

Absolutely. I love my partner and I would be devastated if something happened to him but I also wouldn't want to subject myself to 40 years of loneliness and no sex. So yes, after an appropriate period of grief, I would date again.
My grandfather passed away at the age of 65 and my grandma is now in the her 20th year of being single. I just find it very sad, especially now all of her siblings passed away and she only has one close friend left. She is struggling emotionally and I think it would help if she had someone her own age she is close with.

Short answer is no, absolutely not. However I'm older and independent and have had x2 long relationships. The thought of having to filter through all the potential new partners to find someone who matches me and then getting used to all their quirks and foibles is exhausting. I'm happy with my own company and have friends who I can socialise and holiday with. I really don't need to put myself through all that.

I tried, about a year after breaking up… but with him still always around (because of DC and me living in his house etc etc), living in a small town and having a history of choosing completely horrible men, it didn’t go that well. Two younger guys just after casual flings (that was fun but I can’t handle it) and a full-on crazy on-off thing that was like a trauma bond that went on way too long, plus a few let downs with people I liked but they thought they lived too far etc etc. Would love to meet someone to go out and explore with and top up the sex life I’ve missed out on for the past 15 years before meno kicks in. It’s just not that simple! For me anyway. I’m really miffed by people who say they went crazy shagging around - I would if I could, but how?!? Currently doing therapy and trying to sort my life out instead 🙃

I might casually date but nothing serious while my son was young. Definitely wouldn't be bringing a man into his life.

I‘m incredibly happy with DH and if I were to lose him, one way or another, I am quite sure it would take a good while to even consider anyone else, but yes, at some point I would look to meet someone else. My standards would be bruisingly high tho 😂 also as our son is only little, I wouldn’t be rushing to bring anyone into his life.

I am in this situation-suddenly single after husband cheated and left. I am not ready to date yet but I am definitely open to meeting someone new eventually. I love company and companionship, and I miss sex. The dating part I am dreading though.

God, no. I haven’t been single for nearly 20 years, and what I hear about the dating scene and the behaviour and expectations of men my age out there fills me with horror. I’d be perfectly content to get my affection from small furry things.

No, I wouldn't. No one can match my DH and and it wouldn't be fair to keep comparing other men to him. DH might not be someone else's idea of the perfect partner, but he's my perfect partner. No one would ever be as good as him.

same!

I've been single for over 7yrs and am perfectly happy. In fact, I was asked on a date last weekend and just felt 🤢

Given that I’m early 40s and we’ve been together 16 years, I can’t imagine myself dating again.
I may find myself a FWB but don’t think I’d want another relationship. I don’t want to get into a blended families situation nor do I want more kids.
I’ll never say never but it’s unlikely I’d date again.

I found myself single again after DH died two years ago. I wouldn't say I am happily single as I miss him more than I ever thought possible, he left an incredible mark on my life, a pair of big boots to fill so I am not looking to date again. I also foster which makes meeting new men very difficult as not many (any?) men of my age want to sign up to dating a 60 year old with the commitments that a small child brings.

I've been with my partner for 13 years and had an 11 year relationship before him so if I was to suddenly become single I definitely wouldn't date again I'd spend the time with just me and the dc

I left my husband 11 years ago. 10 years ago I had a couple of very short flings but since then nothing. I really can't be arsed. I have 2 DDs, cats, dogs and great friends. My life is full without a man.