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To think this is a vote winner (though not election clincher) from Sunak?

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Lion400 · 12/02/2024 22:36

Thought this was an impressive and clear response to the question, from Rishi. I suppose Labour will likely win by a landslide, because many people don’t care enough about women’s rights. Because I do care very much about women’s rights, I may vote Conservative for the first time ever (cue outrage for Lion). Will I regret it? Possibly. But I’d regret voting for Labour (aka women’s rights removers), even more.

https://twitter.com/GBNEWS/status/1757143443111841900

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IClaudine · 14/02/2024 23:47

Totallymessed · 14/02/2024 23:43

@IClaudine I'm sure a decent person, please think about what you are advocating for means for the women trapped in these situations.

Where have I advocated for trans women convicted of sexual offences to be housed in the women's estate? I haven't and I don't.

Totallymessed · 14/02/2024 23:48

Sorry I meant I'm sure you are a decent person @IClaudine . Please think about these women, they need your support. If you have any power in the Labour party, please work to make sure the most vulnerable women are thought of. They are unlikely to be out canvassing, or even maybe to vote, but they need and deserve protection.

lifeturnsonadime · 14/02/2024 23:48

IClaudine · 14/02/2024 23:47

Where have I advocated for trans women convicted of sexual offences to be housed in the women's estate? I haven't and I don't.

So do you think that trans women who are not sexual offenders should be in women's prisons IClaudine?

IClaudine · 14/02/2024 23:50

Totallymessed · 14/02/2024 23:48

Sorry I meant I'm sure you are a decent person @IClaudine . Please think about these women, they need your support. If you have any power in the Labour party, please work to make sure the most vulnerable women are thought of. They are unlikely to be out canvassing, or even maybe to vote, but they need and deserve protection.

I would very much like you to retract the accusation that I support male sex offenders being locked up with "mostly vulnerable women" or any women. I have not done that on this or any other thread.

lifeturnsonadime · 14/02/2024 23:53

The government have backtracked (not far enough in my opinion) on males in women's prisons. Only castrated males will be allowed in the female prison estate, and violent males and sex offenders will not be allowed in women's prisons.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-transgender-prisoner-policy-comes-into-force

This goes some way to protect women. But castrated males are still male. I doubt the women were consulted on this.

New transgender prisoner policy comes into force

Transgender women with male genitalia will no longer be able to be held in mainstream women’s prisons, under new measures coming into force today.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-transgender-prisoner-policy-comes-into-force

Totallymessed · 14/02/2024 23:55

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lifeturnsonadime · 14/02/2024 23:59

On this thread we have been told that the Tories have done nothing to protect women. This is untrue. The prison policy above proves it is untrue as does the new schools guidance.

The measures that the current government have put in place do not go far enough to protect vulnerable women but as we are in the stage of 'debunking myths', I thought in the interest of fairness this should be pointed out.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-67754359

Adult has arm around child comforting them as they do school work

Transgender guidance: Schools to keep parents informed

Parents should usually be told if their child wants to change gender identity at school, says new guidance.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-67754359

IClaudine · 15/02/2024 00:00

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It. Was. Not. Me. Who. Said. That. It. Was. Victoria. Atkins.

I cut and pasted her response to Tim Loughton word for word, as another poster was asking about what the stats were.

You need to complain to Victoria Atkins about the wording of the response not to me.

Here is the link once again for clarity:

https://www.theyworkforyou.com/wrans/?id=2022-01-06.98878.h#:~:text=On%20current%20offences%2C%20in%20the,includes%20prisoners%20with%20a%20GRC.

lifeturnsonadime · 15/02/2024 00:01

So Iclaudine do you think other males, non sex offenders who identify as trans women should be in women's prisons? I asked this upthread?

Clavinova · 15/02/2024 00:05

IClaudine
Someone asked about the stats and I looked them up, linked to them and quoted them

In fact you misquoted initially - you chopped off; On current offences... from the start of your quote.

Totallymessed · 15/02/2024 00:09

One last time as the thread's nearly finished and no-one else will be reading anyway, @IClaudine if you are a significant person in the Labour party, please try and make sure that the most vulnerable women don't get forgotten about. I'm not bothering to @ the others as they clearly don't care about anything other than point scoring.

Clavinova · 15/02/2024 00:33

Clavinova · 15/02/2024 00:05

IClaudine
Someone asked about the stats and I looked them up, linked to them and quoted them

In fact you misquoted initially - you chopped off; On current offences... from the start of your quote.

I should add that in the context of your quote that was an important piece of information to miss out - as previous convictions for sexual offences were not counted.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 02:32

AhNowTed · 13/02/2024 20:36

@lifeturnsonadime

I said "nuance" for a reason.

Where obviously-feminine trans folk go to the loo may not be for women to figure out, correct.

But it is for society to figure out.

Because they don't belong in men's loos either.

Biological men with penis and testicles DO belong in the mens. They are safe in the mens, as many gay men and a few transwomen have said, the worst they might get is a smirk. That's it. The LIE that these men are 'not safe' in the mens, is a gaslighting LIE. Women are not human shields for men, so if they aren't safe in the mens (and we know they are very safe in the mens), then that's an issue for MEN to solve. Not an issue for women to solve. Not our issue, not our problem. I am not a human shield for a man with penis and testicles.

To think this is a vote winner (though not election clincher) from Sunak?
SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 02:54

izimbra · 14/02/2024 00:13

Lion - you're clearly pretty animated on the issue of trans women and men in spaces not aligned to their biological sex.

What would you like the Conservative party to do? To criminalise trans people for using single sex spaces not aligned to their biological sex?

How do you think this would work in reality - how would it be policed?

Because trans people are a very, very, very tiny group of people (obviously not tiny group in your mind). Really struggling to see how this would work, and how it would improve the safety of women in any meaningful way, given that trans women make up 0.3% of the population, and only a minuscule fraction of that 0.3% are predatory.

How did keeping males out of female spaces work for DECADES AND DECADES until now?

That's how. Return to that.

Edited to add that there has been a 6000% (6 thousand percent) increase in students claiming to be trans. It's more like 3% to 5% of the population is trans. So, how many is enough for the threat to be real to you? We know they offend at 6 times greater the rate than so-called 'cis' men do. We know there have been a couple of hundred attacks on women by transwomen in these spaces already. HOW MANY, is enough for you to realise they pose harm to women our spaces? How many will it take you to realise this is a serious problem? For me, ONE IS ONE TOO MANY!

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:02

izimbra · 14/02/2024 00:27

"That's not in the least difficult to acknowledge. Yes, those males.coathey're the ones wanting to invade women's spaces (except the few TW who accept that they're not women)."

By 'males who want to invade women's spaces' - you mean 'trans women who want to use women's spaces'.

By the way - the way you use language when you're discussing this issue is very similar to those people who refer to asylum seekers as 'illegals' and 'men of fighting age' who want to 'invade our shores'. You just can't help it.

The fact that you can't understand these transwomen are MEN with COCKS AND BALLS shows you genuinely believe people can change sex and a man who calls himself a woman is entitled to our spaces. Your language gives your agenda away.

Transwomen, are men. This is a fact. They don't ever stop being men. Ever. It's not actually even possible.

Btw, it's not just safety, it's womens rights to privacy and dignity away from the male gaze.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:12

izimbra · 14/02/2024 09:56

"Blossom has said that she is happy with the current laws (which are allow men into women's single sex spaces) and will be happy as a pig in muck. She said that."

You mean 'the current laws which allow the 0.3% of the population that are trans women into women's single sex spaces'.

It's obviously really important you don't acknowledge you're talking about trans women in regard to this issue, because otherwise people might think you're being unreasonable in constantly pushing the idea that this tiny, tiny marginalised group are a meaningful threat to the safety to all women.

Men. Say it. Men. Transwomen are men. And they are not 'marginalised'. On the contrary, they are the most privileged, most protected and most powerful group out. Marginalised my fucking arse!!

https://thecritic.co.uk/neither-marginalised-abused-nor-vulnerable/

To think this is a vote winner (though not election clincher) from Sunak?
SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:30

izimbra · 14/02/2024 17:35

"Of course there should be protection feom real hate speech but correctly sexed pronouns, saying males shouldn't be in women's spaces and saying TW are not women are not hate speech"

If you were a trans woman and people in your workplace deliberately refused to refer to you by your preferred pronouns or female name, and felt the need to remind you that you were born male, and policed your use of toilets to make sure you didn't use a female single sex space, it would likely drive you into depression/unemployment and possibly suicide. Because it would feel - and would be - bullying. Posters here might not feel it's hate speech, but it would be experienced as such by those on the receiving end, for whom its purpose would be clear - to invalidate their sense of themselves. It would make a trans person's life unbearable, which I suspect is what many people on this thread would like: for trans women to be bullied, shamed and badgered into non-existence.

I'm wondering - the people on this thread who would refuse to treat trans friends, colleagues, children, relatives, as they would want to be treated, on a point of principle, because it's more important to them to be factually 'correct' about sex and gender than to be accepting or compassionate - is this the case? Is this how you would behave towards trans people if you worked or studied alongside a trans person?

If a male with Autogynephilia felt slighted because women enforced their rights as a sex class, then he's narcissistic. No male has the right to gaslight womens lived reality and what they see, to prop up his delusions. The rights and NEEDS of women and girls are more important than a narcissist's need for 'validation'.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:35

BIossomtoes · 14/02/2024 21:01

This is the real reason they don't want women to point out Labour's inconsistencies. They agreewith the Labour Party on this.

And to think it’s only taken you 33 pages of posts to realise that. I should have thought it was obvious at the start of the thread.

And you’ve totally missed the point. Your objections are only to trans women not trans men, apparently.

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Your objections are only to trans women not trans men, apparently.

Well, duh! You totally miss the point! Transwomen are men, so pose a threat. Transmen are women, and pose no threat.

That this needs to even be explained shows how ignorant some are, and how they don't realise that men are more dangerous to women than women are.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:44

hotinhereandthere · 14/02/2024 22:21

And then loss of privacy, dignity and safety plus unfairness in sports

How have your privacy, dignity and safety been impacted by trans people - concrete examples please that you have experienced?

And as I keep having to repeat ad infinitum a lawfully-established separate or single-sex service provider can prevent, limit or modify trans people’s access to the service. This is allowed under the Equality Act.

You're really asking how the likes of Lia Thomas walking about with his penis and testicles on show in front of his fellow female team-mates, which is basically INDECENT EXPOSURE, doesn't hurt women??? ?

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:45

AdamRyan · 14/02/2024 22:22

What on earth is "abhorrent" about supporting a trans colleague? Don't be ridiculous.

Saying she doesn't believe women should have our safe single sex spaces away from male bodies IS deeply and utterly abhorrent and repulsive.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:48

AdamRyan · 14/02/2024 22:27

Not an insult. And not abhorrent. Most people don't care about sharing toilets with TW they know. Go Google the polls.

Someone disagreeing with you is not "abhorrent"

It's about sharing toilets with MALES. MALES. M.A.L.E.S!

And, sorry to burst your bubble, but Google the polls, specifically YouGov. When asked and when it's clarified to people that it means male bodies with penis and testicles in women and girls spaces, the OVERWHELMING MAJORITY of women are against it.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:55

izimbra · 14/02/2024 22:55

So you have a trans woman colleague that you refer to here with male pronouns.

Would you do this within earshot of your colleague?

Would you continue to do it if you thought it hurt and embarrassed her?

Would you refer to an anorexic woman as fat in their earshot because they think they're fat? It's the same thing.

And NO, women do not need to be GASLIT to call a man a woman. I don't care if the narcissist male is 'upset or embarrassed'. I only care that the rights of women are upheld and women are not gaslit to deny sex-based reality to appease a misogynist narcissist male.

SoreAndTired1 · 15/02/2024 03:57

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The existence of MEN in womens spaces disadvantages all women. What do you not understand, about this?

We have MALE and FEMALE spaces, for a reason. Any male body in our spaces HURTS WOMEN.

Arbor · 15/02/2024 06:09

@SoreAndTired1

We know they offend at 6 times greater the rate than so-called 'cis' men do.

Is this an error? I did see a 2003 study that found that "MtF transitioners were over 6 times more likely to be convicted of an offence than female comparators and 18 times more likely to be convicted of a violent offence. The group had no statistically significant differences from other natal males, for convictions in general or for violent offending." (Cecilia Dhejne, Paul Lichtenstein, Marcus Boman, Anna L. V. Johansson, Niklas Långström, Mikael Landén (2011) Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885)

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