House Guest

[Vengroupthree]

Morning,

A friend of mine asked if he could stay for 2 weeks due to work commitments in the city I live in.

He has gone into his office twice and the rest of the time has wfh in my flat.

Whilst its been great to see him, I am puzzled at the cooking arrangements!

I've cooked dinner a couple of times and got us a takeaway once, the rest of the time by the time I get home he has cooked for himself using my food and makes nothing for me !

Also makes his own cooked breakfast , but won't offer to make me any, if I was cooking I just would as a matter of course

Aibu or is he trying to be self sufficient maybe ?

He has gone food shopping once and bought things for himself after my stuff ran out

Shame if the WiFi went off..

@Windydaysandwetnights 🤣🤣🤣👌👌👌

It's in the sink...

Give him a shopping list and tell him he needs to go shopping today to top you up. What a cheeky fucker!!

It's great you're cooking for yourself. Could you please replace anything of mine you've used or at least give me the cash though? Cheers. If you're planning on staying another week then you need to pull your weight with washing up, cleaning, costs etc. It might have been better to stay in a hotel and you should probably sort that out for next time.

It's bizarre that he is wfh if he's supposed to be in the office. How far is he from home? Surely he could have just travelled up & stayed one night & gone home again.

It's likely he has been paid expenses. Why is he using all your food? Sorry but he's completely taking advantage. If he's using your house to wfh & eating all your food then he should be offering £100/week or something similar.

He's a 2 hour drive from home so easier to be here I suppose ?

He hasn't mentioned his work paying him anything to stay away from home.

Just completely thoughtless I think

So he’s made himself breakfast today and left the dirty dishes in your sink?

Have you written the shopping list yet, OP?

I've just had a word, as he has used up a couple of things from the freezer and fridge I would have used today and finished all the bread and lurpack

Use your words, tell him if he’s cooking to cook for you too. Why are you struggling to do this?

we have a friend like this, he used to stay for weeks on end with another couple we are close to, he’d front up with a bottle of wine, stay two weeks then eat all their food and drink all their booze.

for some inexplicable reason they fumed behind his back like you do, but wouldn’t articulate to him. Eventually they did.

honestly it was pure thoughtlessness on his part. As he’s no issue with people staying with him and doing the same, he just didn’t think, and he is wealthy. I think he was also used to his wife buying all,the food and drink, she’s a sahm, that it just didn’t occur to him. Eventually the woman in the couple told him, in a bitter angry way , which was totally unnecessary, one of them should have simply said at the start.

That's cheeky. My neice is staying with me and DD. She's paying no rent. But she regularly cooks for everyone, buys food to feed us all and regularly cleans and puts on washing.

Before you get really fed up and start shouting at him, why don't you mark his cards Op? Tell him you expected him to be in the office, if he can WFH then he needs to go home. He probably had a series of meetings and not having to travel back and forth has saved him a fortune.

Why hasn’t there been a conversation already? On day 3 when you spotted this was happening?

He is completely disrespecting you and you’re encouraging it by saying nothing.

big girl pants on and get him gone TODAY.

I think you need your say, after looking in the fridge 'oh running low on supplies, shall you pay for this next one?
It yes, you aren't a hotel either free food - and very rude to cook without offering you any. He should at the very least also take you out a couple times as a thank you, have brought good supply of wine and be grateful for goodness sakes!
I stayed at a friend for a couple weeks and the first thing I did was a big shop for us all and asked if it was ok to cook occasionally.

Is there a chance that he's homeless and sofa surfing?

Well you need to tell him now, not suffer another week!

Grow a backbone.

@Vengroupthree

He's a 2 hour drive from home so easier to be here I suppose ?

But he could have gone back home Friday & then driven to work early Monday morning. Also he could go and work all day in office & just be at yours in the evening.

Honestly that sounds cheeky going into your freezer & taking food out. Also using last of the bread & butter.

Even if he's not getting expenses he should be paying his way. Food costs have shot up dramatically.

How about

'I've had a rethink about you staying for another week and think it's best if you go home today. I hadn't expected you to be here so much and the domestic arrangements aren't working for me. Safe journey.'

Tell him your going order a food shop and he is paying...

Or kick him out, he is a cheeky fucker

A ‘word’? Right, and? What did he say?
Who goes into somebody else’s freezer? Nobody, that’s who. That’s truly bizarre behaviour.
This almost seems like a wind-up.

I think the point is if he is WFH he can do that from his actual home not Ops !

How come he’s WFH if he has work commitments in your city?

He’s a CF that’s for sure.

He seems to think you are his mum, are you? If not, tell him to go home, this is madness.

I would send him to the shop with a list and tell him he’s cooking for the rest of the week. Or I’d be telling him he needs to get a hotel for the rest of his time as this isn’t working.

Do not let him get away with this, otherwise he’ll never know that he’s being a complete twat