House Guest

[Vengroupthree]

Morning,

A friend of mine asked if he could stay for 2 weeks due to work commitments in the city I live in.

He has gone into his office twice and the rest of the time has wfh in my flat.

Whilst its been great to see him, I am puzzled at the cooking arrangements!

I've cooked dinner a couple of times and got us a takeaway once, the rest of the time by the time I get home he has cooked for himself using my food and makes nothing for me !

Also makes his own cooked breakfast , but won't offer to make me any, if I was cooking I just would as a matter of course

Aibu or is he trying to be self sufficient maybe ?

He has gone food shopping once and bought things for himself after my stuff ran out

It is incredibly cheeky.
I had a friend once say she thought she was clean and tidy until she lived by herself and then she found out her parents were clean and tidy. It might be the same obliviousness. But at 44 there is no good excuse.

He’s either rude or has the sensitivity of a concrete block. If this was a female friend suspect you would have said something way before now. You have a voice. Use it!! Best case he is utterly mortified, turns up with huge bag of groceries and treats and bunch of flowers as an apology. Worst case he gets the huff and goes - either way a result. No way would I be seething quietly about this in my own home!!

Potentially he could. OP said he needed to stay for two weeks due to work commitments in her city. Presumably these are work commitments that can't be met from his actual home. Whether it's reasonable to stay for the two weeks depends on the timing of the work commitments and the journey time and cost from his home location.

I was sent to a site overseas for work. I only had to actually visit the site three times in the week, and the rest of the time I "worked from home" in the hotel my employer paid for. I'd have been mighty pissed off if they said I couldn't reclaim the hotel because I wasn't in the company's non-existent office. If I'd had a friend nearby I could perfectly well have stayed with them and claimed a per diem allowance.

I’m a more thoughtful houseguest when I’m asked to housesit!
your friend is a leech with no manners!
when my friend and her family go on holiday I move in to care for their dog (I can’t have him at mine as my cats don’t like him).
it’s nearby so I can come home to eat etc but if I use stuff of theirs (other than stuff they’ve asked me to use up/dispose of) I replace it. I also make sure they have at least fresh milk and bread when they get home.
does your friend normally live with his parents? He’s behaving like a teenage boy.

His parents have gone on holiday for a fortnight haven’t they? And he needs a stand-in mum to sponge off until they’re back to run around after him!

Tell him to go home! (And replace your food on the way…)

Oh yes this!

He is taking the piss, at the very least he should be buying groceries for you both and cooking for you both by way of a thank you for letting him stay. Tell him to jog on and the situation isn't working for you anymore so he will need to stay elsewhere.

He is what the Americans call a ' free loader'

Who are the 2% who voted this is not outrageous behaviour???

Hopefully he is not getting any other " benefits " while he is there ?
I would definitely say something before he leaves ask him why he isn't going into work each day, say that you didn't realise he would be wfh while he was there and obviously this has impacted on your fuel and food bills so can he contribute to this, if you are going to cut contact with him it doesn't really matter if you upset him. But I think it will play on your mind if you don't say something.

What a pisstaker! Get rid of him!

Yes fuck right off & right out sunshine. Ha ha 😂 🤣 😆

I'd be ordering myself a nice takeaway and eating it in front of him...if he comments just say 'I assumed as you didn't buy for me I was just treating myself' then tell him you're not impressed with his manners and tell him to f off

He has only been to the office twice in 2 weeks so they would only pay 2 nights hotel/food. He is probably pocketing the extra pay while scrounging off OP for free