Day after surgery and DH goes out with his mates- I’m fuming! AIBU?

[StonyMum]

So yesterday I had a cholecystectomy (gallbladder removal) under general anaesthetic. Today I’m feeling fairly rubbish, having trouble getting in and out of bed, in quite a lot of pain and am vomiting (which is agony with my wounds)…
Husband was working from home but then at lunchtime said he was taking the afternoon and tomorrow off work so he could go up to Liverpool for a night out with his mate. It’s 2 hours drive away and he’s staying over…
He doesn’t get to see his friend often. He asked if I minded, and I was so shocked he was even considering it that I said it was fine… but I’ve been lying here alone all evening now and getting quite upset. I feel really abandoned and vulnerable. He made sure I had a drink and some snacks in reach before he left, but I still had to navigate getting downstairs to let the dog out for a wee and crawl back up again… the kids are both away at uni.
AIBU? Or is this grounds for divorce?!

She hadn't just had surgery though so not the same thing.

Quite and she chose the path of least resistance, some posters saying she should have told him not to go and give him what for.

I doubt she was up for the argument or the sulking coming from him by being denied an evening out.

No she chose the I can't believe you even asked you selfish, uncaring shite, I might as well be on my own.

Wait till I'm better.....

He's fucked it, but then again I don't think he's bothered.

Op I suggest you don't do anything for him, he doesn't care so why should you.

Oh OP. Its nice of you to put in a defence for him but, Ireland is hardly far away is it ? Nor expensive to get a flight to. He could have arranged a trip over when you were back on your feet. Or asked the friend to come down to him whilst he was over, so that you weren't alone overnight.
As for the people who berated you and blamed you for saying it was fine that he went......He clearly knew OP couldn't manage the stairs - he left food and water close to her. And he knows they have a dog.
So yes, it was bad that he went.
Hope you are feeling a bit better today OP, and that he made a fuss of you when he got back.

I know I’m too late to post this. OP I hope you are feeling better. I think DH should have re-thought things without you having to do that mental lifting. But the sickness worries me. As someone who ignored a sepsis til almost too late, I hope you’ve got better or got medical health.

Hubby reading over my shoulder and said your husband is a selfish dick and you should kick him out, but your first mistake was saying it's fine - You should have said, "No! You thoughtless arsehole! I've just had surgery! Are you slow!?"

Not up to OP to say it’s fine or not. Up to husband to read the situation and not even ask!!

He gets the get out of jail free card because he asked. OP gets blamed for saying it was fine 🙄.

No caring partner ever leaves the other after surgery and GA. And you’ve been vomiting? He sounds like a catch.

Hope you’re ok.

I think that most considerate men, partners or husbands, would realise without being told that their partner would need to have someone with them for the first night after being discharged from hospital after major surgery. (I'm quite surprised the hospital didn't make it clear to him -- perhaps they did but he chose to ignore it.)
He sounds incredibly selfish, could the visit to his friend not have been postponed for afew days/weeks?
However, you said it was fine and I'm afraid there's no going back from that. Even if you argue that you were not quite compos mentis at the time he will just whine say ....but you said it was fine....
He was a shit to even ask.