Rise above or Rub it in

[CloudStra]

I've been dealing with DH jealous ex wife for quite some time now. She writes things on FB about me and DH, our house and cars etc. My husband is a high earner and she is totally obsessed with what we are doing and the fact she doesn't have access to his money anymore. She constantly complains about her own finances in comparison and how unfair it all is despite receiving a large settlement upon divorce which she also lies about.

I'm at the point that I want to actually give her something to moan about! Is it spiteful and petty if I do a bit of social media bragging (not usually my style) just to piss her off?

Why haven’t you blocked her from your social media?

It sounds like you’re enjoying this tbh.

How ridiculous. Maybe come off that nonsense, or just, you know, block. Maybe that solution would be too simple

That's horrible, she's obviously still going through issues, why make things worse

If you do that you're just as bad as she is.

You’d just make her look right though. Rise above it.

Just block her so you don't see this shit!

She sounds bitter so just let her be her bitter self and move the hell on!

We aren't friends on social media and we both have our profiles set to private, so I can't personally see her stuff. True, we haven't blocked one another as there hasn't been any need to., she doesn't even come up in my suggestions. DH has been sent multiple screenshots from someone who was their mutual friend. This person has remained good friends with DH but is still 'friends' with his ex online.

I'm not enjoying it, it is actually very weird reading about yourself from someone who doesn't know you.

Stop being a drama llama.

Why are you reading her Facebook posts?

What were the circumstances of her split with your husband? Was it her choice? If it wasn't, surely you can see it's normal for an ex to be pissed off.

You are missing a trick here.

The best option is neither rising above nor rubbing it in. It is to be seen to be rising above it because that will piss her off more than anything that could be seen as "rubbing it in" could ever do.

DH is receiving screenshots from a mutual friend. I can't see her stuff nor have I wanted to.

She left him, which is why it is so odd. I think she thought the grass was greener and found out it wasn't.

Tell your DH to tell his shit-stirring friend to lay off the screen shots. Why on earth would a 'friend' think he needs to see what his ex-wife is complaining about on social media?

I enjoy social media for seeing what my friends are up to etc. I'm not coming off it because of someone else. Blocking her would make no difference as her profile is set to private anyway and we are receiving screenshots from a mutual friend of DH and his ex.

So she left your dh, possibly, she thinks she made a mistake, so you want to punish her further?

@OriginalBirds

There is that 😂

Wouldn't you be curious if someone was writing a pile of shit about you though?

Sounds like DH's mutual 'friend' is a shit stirrer.

Your DH has at least 2 options

1. he could tell friend to stop ending screen shots , and block said friend if he doesn't.
2. he could just delete any screen shots and not pass the information on to you.

He hasn't chosen to do either of these - why not ? does he enjoy the drama? It would be very easy for him to completely keep his Ex out of your lives if he wanted to.

If you post bragging stuff everyone will think you’re one of those ‘look at how much money I have’ plonkers. Rise above.

If your posts are private - how on earth do you expect her to see them?

This doesn't make sense.

I don't want to punish her, maybe just get back at her a bit for the multitude of slander directed at us. She has said some seriously evil things, most it is untrue.

I am in two minds, it seems the consensus so far is to ignore it.

it’s one thing bragging about stuff you have earned and bought. Bragging about a life funded by your husband’s money? Well that’s just embarrassing.

By being ridiculously petty and setting them to not private.

So - not only do you want to be petty, you want to make it obvious you are being petty in the event that the ex wife looks at your social media?

Still doesn't make sense to me.

@SameBreakfast Where did I say my life was funded by my husband? Just because I mentioned he is a high earner.... I've bought my own cars and half our house.

@MassageForLife Pretty much.