I honestly don’t know.
My parents are retired. They have an active social life. I have a toddler.
Example of dialogue or text exchange:
Them: see you both on Saturday!
me: I am seeing (friends name on Saturday).
them: oh you can see us on Saturday! We want to see you!
me: I don’t want to cancel on (friends name).
them: can’t you change it and see her on Sunday?
me: no because that’s the only day she can do and we’ve arranged it.
two days later…
them: see you on Saturday!
and so it goes on.
they are not mentally unwell. If they have plans I don’t hear a thing from them.
I am so sick of this constant dialogue. It makes me feel so shit and disrespected. It happens all the time. I couldn’t even imagine just saying no I am not free, without explanation as that would be a big no no, they would absolutely expect me to see them.
aibu to let this get to me so much? I feel it’s so hypocritical as they are very clear when they are busy. I’ve asked them to stop doing this so many times, for years, nothing changes.