£108 on his soft drinks every month

[Rainbowsworms]

I've been going through our expenditures today after realising how much money was going out of the account every month. I haven't kept a close eye on outgoings - I will own that. I have ADHD and it's not my strong point.

I have calculated that DP is spending £108 per month on his drinks alone.

He refuses to drink water/juice/cordial and moans when there's no fizzy pop, so he insists on buying a big bottle of lemonade from the corner shop most days at £2 a go, so thats £60 per month.

If that wasn't bad enough, he has atleast one Monster energy drink every night. They cost £1.60 so £48 per month.

£108 per month on fucking drinks.

AIBU to think that is bloody ridiculous.

You need to stop letting him use your bank card and he needs to learn to budget @Rainbowsworms , if he runs out of money so quickly every month then he's spending far in excess of his income. Show him the figures you've worked out and see if it makes him cut back a bit.

If he's running out of money ten days after being paid your household budget doesn't stretch to him buying drink two litres of lemonade and a monster drink every day, putting aside the toothlessness and diabetes that's incoming.

He should have around £800 left after paying his O/D and share of the bills. I questioned whether he was gambling at one point as I couldn't understand why it was running out so quickly. He isn't, gambling that is, just paying back his overdraft and wittering the rest away on endless trips to the shop and whatever else.

You and others have made good suggestions, I'm going to heed your advice. Thank you.

Do you pay bills proportionally?

No, I pay more as I earn more.

Is he an overgrown child?

Health aside, it doesn't bother him that he could get 2l of lemonade at Tesco for 25% of the cost? Why isnt he owning the fact he drinks so much lemonade and just adding it to the weekly shop? It would be SO much cheaper.

Does he waste money on other crap too? Nope, couldn't do it. What a poor example he's setting to the kids, what a man child.

I spend £100 on a month's food for one person. Your DP is wasting that much on sugary tooth-rotting rubbish.

I hope he doesn't complain about the cost of living !!

This

Call me judgemental, because it's true.

• Low earner.
• Drinks copious amounts of lemonade and energy drinks
• Takes mummy's card (oops, I mean "partners") card when he runs out of pocket money

Where is his sense of pride and responsibility??! I bet he also lacks ambition, drive and thinks the world owes him. Does he pull his weight in other ways? Sounds like a bit of a loser to me to be honest.

Christ, what a turn off.

Have you showed him how much he’s spending?
He shouldn’t need it spelling out but maybe you should.

Tesco do own brand lemonade for 39p which would massively cut down costs.
Dh likes monster but he shops around and buys pack of 4 or 12 on offer

Get him to read / or listen to ‘ultra processed people’ but Dr Van Tulleken. Very informative about how bad fizzy drinks are for you !

If you want to save money, and you no you don’t buy enough crisps for your son then can’t you just buy more crisps, and the supermarkets cheaper fizzy drinks when you do your weekly shop?

That's not separate finances, that's cocklodging!

He drinks fizzy, soft drinks every day? Surely that’s incredibly bad for him - for his teeth, his general health and his bank balance!

Surely it’s normal for these to be an occasional treat? Like once a fortnight or a month?

Water should be the main, daily drink, the go to drink. And then hot drinks as and when. Hot drinks aren’t sweetened or fizzy!

I have a soda stream, love it but it doesn't save money.

That's well over a £1000 a year on soft drinks! I couldn't live with someone so addicted to fizzy drinks.

I don’t check how much I spend on drinks so I’ve no idea if its a lot but it seems in efficient.

it would make more sense to buy it in bulk and in smaller servings, to slow his intake.

2l of fizzy drinks plus monster is awful for his his health let alone the lack of water.

can you move him to diet at least

If that's all he drinks I'd be thankful. Try living with someone who drinks 10 cans of lager and 3 bottles of water a day! Haha.
A bottle of lemonade plus one can of pop is hardly excessive. It's not especially healthy. Could he buy the drinks in bulk online? Some people really do hate drinking water. Maybe a soda stream might be more economical (I don't know as not had one).

let alone the lack of water.

That mostly is water. His hydration is the one thing he won't have to worry about, he'll be awash.

You mentioned he needs money for lunches at work - that is another area that can just swallow up money…. Eg if £5 per day, then £25 per week, £100 per month… taking sandwiches / leftovers can save ££.

I am amazed at the people who don't think over a hundred a month on fizzy crap drinks isn't a lot. If he's a low earner then, aside from health concerns, he needs to cut this back. Why should he spend your hard earned money on such pointless rubbish which will make him ill.

Yikes! I’d be more worried about his insides if I were you.

She shouldn’t be thankful because someone else is married to an alcoholic!

Soda stream is a good idea though OP, or maybe even see if he will go for something gimicky like an air up water bottle