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£108 on his soft drinks every month

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Rainbowsworms · 06/02/2024 17:33

I've been going through our expenditures today after realising how much money was going out of the account every month. I haven't kept a close eye on outgoings - I will own that. I have ADHD and it's not my strong point.

I have calculated that DP is spending £108 per month on his drinks alone.

He refuses to drink water/juice/cordial and moans when there's no fizzy pop, so he insists on buying a big bottle of lemonade from the corner shop most days at £2 a go, so thats £60 per month.

If that wasn't bad enough, he has atleast one Monster energy drink every night. They cost £1.60 so £48 per month.

£108 per month on fucking drinks.

AIBU to think that is bloody ridiculous.

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Friendlyfishfinger · 08/02/2024 17:45

OldPerson · 07/02/2024 18:23

You need to assess what you spend on every single thing each month and then agree a budget. You might just find out that your partner thinks mascara, hair straighteners, false nails, tattoos, new clothes, kebabs, are a waste of money. And then you need to think about what financial goals you have? What do you want to save up for? And how many hours are you each working? Or are you not working and just squabbling over what the tax payer is funding for you?

Are you fucking serious?

Shit like this? Seriously???

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Rainbowsworms · 08/02/2024 18:07

Friendlyfishfinger · 08/02/2024 17:45

Are you fucking serious?

Shit like this? Seriously???

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I wouldn't pay them any attention, they sound a bit senile.

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threatmatrix · 08/02/2024 18:33

GettingStuffed · 06/02/2024 23:06

Could we please stop with the sugar causes diabetes. It doesn't. It's your overall lifestyle and diet PLUS the gene that causes it.

He's a bit weird drinking this much but most of my friends or children drink a pepsi max if we're out for a meal and they don't want booze

What drinks apart from full fat coke contain sugar nowadays. Most drinks contain the poison called sweetener. I find it really hard to find full sugar drinks. People need to educate themselves. I’d much prefer sugar over sweeteners.

ftp · 08/02/2024 19:12

MeinKraft · 08/02/2024 14:20

I don't think you can reasonably tell him what he can and cannot drink because you earn more than him.

I think i would have the right to tell him what to spend MY money on

MeinKraft · 08/02/2024 19:40

@ftp isn't it family money?

Redty10 · 08/02/2024 19:53

mandlerparr · 08/02/2024 17:41

everything is bad for you without moderation. I suggested ways to reduce consumption and explained how my dad reduced his consumption. This is why people get upset. Others try to take steps to eat and drink in a healthier way and people like you come along and tell them how they aren't good enough. We all know that daily consumption is bad for you. we also know that people do better reducing intake until it is a treat and not a daily thing and going cold turkey rarely works. And no one needs self-righteousness from strangers, who know nothing about them, on their journey.

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I don’t think it is about being self righteous! There is a lot of ignorance about how harmful UPF and drinks are and more and more evidence is coming to light. Any steps people take to reduce intake of these is great, but unless people are fully aware of the risks and the cost to society/ our children and the environment they are unable to make an informed choice

QueenBitch666 · 08/02/2024 21:19

You have an extra child in the house. What a catch

ftp · 08/02/2024 21:58

MeinKraft · 08/02/2024 19:40

@ftp isn't it family money?

He obviously does not think so, so why should she? She is not his parent to bail him out when he overspends.

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Rainbowsworms · 08/02/2024 22:09

QueenBitch666 · 08/02/2024 21:19

You have an extra child in the house. What a catch

Such a helpful comment. Life changing. Thank you so much.

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petmad · 09/02/2024 11:49

if its seperate finances in seperate accounts dont give him you card job solved also some corner shops you to spend a minimum on card so that 1.00 drink could end up a 5.00. He needs a lesson in budget management or get him to pay for a months or weeks drink when you do youre grocery shopping. Amazon is even cheaper

DeeLusional · 09/02/2024 16:41

Scottsy200 · 07/02/2024 10:37

I’d suggest buying supermarket brand lemonade at 50-60p a bottle but to be honest I’d be pissed if you tried to dictate to me as grown person what I could or could not drink

Even if the person dictating to you was the person paying for it?

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