Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

@pootlin that's their choice but it's not really appropriate to announce they are childfree.
To me a childfree person or couple are ones who choose not to or can't have children. Children are for life, not disposable.
It's the terms used on social media to describe their night out I find quite frankly offensive & inappropriate not the fact people are enjoying a night out. There are plenty other phases they could use.

No need to mention the kids at all in any context! That's the point I'm getting at!

But no one actually writes 'dick husband' or 'annoying kids' do they? No one is actually saying they hate their kids or their life. It is just a way of saying "wow, this is rare and it's fun"

Offensive and inappropriate?

How do you cope with every day life with zero resilience?

My daughter goes away on Wednesday night until Sunday night and me and my other half have already got it all planned out lol staying in with the doors locked, in our pants watching shite on the telly and playing computer games with plenty of red wine and takeaways KID FREE. I am so excited lol it’s been months since we have had any kid free time lol we love her dearly and she is not a burden at all but judge away lol sounds like you need a bit of kid free time tbh

This is such an odd post. PP you are not the post police who can police friends hash tags. If it bothers you so much unfollow them on sm. But I'd also be questioning myself on why this is so serious to me and why I made two posts about it.

Jeez OP #childfreenight is code for “I’m going to be up all night having wild, noisy, uninterrupted sex”

Maybe you should try it…..

You seem to spend an awful lot of time across all the threads you are on trying to police the terms use to define themselves. It's up them. They can call their night out without their children whatever they want.

And you just have to learn to be OK about it because, frankly, it's got fuck all to do with you.

There's no NEED to mention anything at all about anything, same as theres there's no NEED for you to be on social media if the most trivial of things annoy you so much.

It's just a detail of their day, which is what social media is for.

You appear to be in a minority with that thought...

Omg my hatred of women describing themselves as ‘full-time mom’. EVERY MOM IS A FULL TIME MOM. EVERY DAD IS A FULL TIME DAD.
Making out like it’s a job when so many women have full time jobs and are full time moms is so insulting to working women. I don’t care if you don’t work but equate being a mom to the same as having a job, it’s not the same.

With respect OP if you're this upset over a fucking hashtag you might want to take a break from the internet.

My mum frequently used to talk about her childfree evenings with her sisters. Incredibly I'm not scarred by hearing that she enjoyed time without us kids. I'm glad my mum got time away from the kids to be an adult and nurture her other relationships, and I've taught my daughter that this is something mothers and fathers should do in a healthy parenting relationship.

@Nanny0gg I may be but it's still my opinion! I'd feel the same if I saw dad's posting it. It's unnecessary.

Yes, YABU. Being a mother is a wonderful, magical, amazing experience. But it’s also hard bloody work and takes a toll. You can love your children with all your heart, but you can’t possibly like being with them all the bloody time. So what if these women are ‘boasting’ the fact they’re child free for an evening? What you find ‘crass’, others will find relatable and you can’t police what people post on SM. I notice you have plenty of child free time yourself. Just because you don’t post about it doesn’t make you superior.

I’m a full time mum even though I work. Being a stay at home mum isn’t superior.

So you do begrudge Woking mums going out? Why say in one thread you do and then in this thread say that’s their choice?

I bet your DH’s mum must think you hate your kids. And everyone in the restaurant and bars you go to when out without your kids - they must be wondering what you’re doing out without your kids!

What do you expect? I can’t understand why anyone is on ‘insta’ that irks me.

I thought the whole point of ‘insta’ is to show off your life. And normally to create the illusion of it being something it isn’t.

Real friends are in contact with you and don’t need to look at your Instagram page to birw your life.

So I voted YABU because it seemed like such an overreaction but I’ve just been thinking about how we talk about other situations and usually we celebrate the positive aspect of the occasion rather than point out who is missing

#girlsnight rather than #husbandfreenight

#metime or we talk about taking time on our own but don’t specifically point out #nofriendsorfamilyinsight

And anyone who goes on holiday without their pets we don’t revel in the time away from those responsibilities #nolitterboxscooping #notadoginsight

Why do we celebrate getting away from our children in a way we don’t do for other family members or responsibilities?

Well ir irks me too but only because I AM jealous as we've never had grandparents on hand or willing to help out! Aside from that I think good for you if you can enjoy a break and have some fun. (I do have fun with my children of course but it's nice to have grown up fun sometimes.)

But I am one of the evil full time mothers abhorred by the OP anyway so ....

I do know a couple of different people/couples who spend an astonishing amount of time away from their children to the extent that they have a couple of foreign holidays each year but never take the children. A short break away without kids now and again does sound appealing but holidays with our kids have been some of the best times ever. I'd be so sad at the thought of always going without them (and so would they!) Everyone's different and I shouldn't really judge but ... poor kids!

Of course it is.

Just pointing out that however you phrase it or repeat yourself, you're pretty much on your own

What do you mean by ‘raising hell’? Going out for a drink?

I’m teetotal but you seem to have a very Stepford Wife vision of motherhood.

Most people find their kids a burden, few will admit it publicly.

Nope I'd find it crass, inappropriate or unnecessary if fathers were posting it too. There's just no need to announce you are childfree so many more appropriate phrases eg "catching up with friends" "girls night" "dinner with dh" etc... "Not a kid in sight" is just grim

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