Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Calm down OP even Mary Poppins had a day off.

It's good to enjoy (and shout it from the rooftops) some adult time.

@ElitebookBang my dc are absolutely not a burden. I really enjoy my time with them however when I am without them I don't need to let the world know I'm childfree or there's "not a kid in sight"!

Im a little confused… on the other thread OP questioned why mothers would have children to work 40 hrs a week and then to have the odd night out without them. Yet OP has at least 30 hours per week child free plus regular nights out with friends or husband so I do have to ask why bother to have children if you’re going to spend that much time away from them?

I think it’s really important that people normalise parents getting some free time! Too much guilt is put on especially women to be glued to their kids.

Well I can hardly sit in school with them can I? Their education is a basic human right, they need to go to school!
If I am on a rare evening out the dc are in bed & with their father at the helm unless his mother is staying for a weekend then we go out together.

These "piss babys" you keep talking about are your friends!!

Fucking hell.

Shall we all just conclude that you OP are the very best type of mum? You're so great that you devote all your time to childcare when the less good mums are scurrying away to work. You have the perfect work/life balance, because you enjoy some childfree hobbies, but only just a little bit, and never because your children aren't there, and always with the qualifier that you're delighted to get back to them. You are a mum amongst mums, the top of the mumming food chain! In fact its you that should be bragging on SM.

To be fair, if you did #childfree you'd be taking the absolute piss, as you already spend such a huge chunk of the week footloose and fancy free.

It's not something I do, but can't imagine any sane person getting their knickers in a twist over it.

I have to admit I’m jealous a child free night out is a rare thing but it’s good for them. I think there needs to be a balance between family / couple/ me time if possible. I assume kids are being looked after properly in their absence

Absolutely! Can we nominate her for mum of the year award?

So you do have an issue with working women going out? Why insist throughout this thread that you don’t then?

I mean, my mum freely admits I was a happy accident as she never really wanted kids, so...

I bloody love having child-free time. I love my child very much, but spending all of my time either at work or with a five year old would send me completely loopy. Children are lovely, but you also need to see other adults and spend time on your own and with your partner and doing things you enjoy, otherwise you completely lose yourself. My hobbies are not very small-child friendly.

I fully expect my child to feel the same if he has kids.

If you are so incredibly bristled by a hashtag, I would suggest that you use your brain and stop following those people; or indeed stop using that platform entirely.

It's not difficult.

ok I think I get it. It’s ok for a mum to spend time away from her kids but only to do activities (or kids to do activities) approved by @Bridgetjoneski.
So school, brunch, yoga (but not enjoying it) = great parenting
Going to work, meal out with partner/friends and enjoying it =bad parenting

@pootlin no not at all. The problem I have is with the "childfree" "no kids zone" or "not a child in sight" statements & hashtags.
There are plenty of other hashtags to be used to let people know they are catching up with friends or having a nice dinner with their dp without dragging the lack of kids into the equation.

Why on earth did you feel the need to make a whole new post about this? Why do you give such a shit what other parents do.
Signed a SAHM who loves a #childfree night on the "razz" with DH?
But perhaps you think it would preferable to take the children to the club with us?

This is the internet. The reality is you may not have a pot to piss in, sitting in a filthy house due to spending so much time on the internet, trying to convince people otherwise.

The point is, people can and do come across in certain ways on social media.

And you're choosing to believe anyone who posts to say they're having a child-free night, is doing so because they see their kids as a burden.

So that's your right to convince yourself they're awful parents. It clearly brings something to your unhappy life to think of them in this way 🤷‍♀️

We should all aspire to be just like @Bridgetjoneski If only we had recieved a 'small inheritance' and made excellent financial decisions when we were younger.

What about this other thread where people are saying you questioned why mothers would have children to work 40 hrs a week and then to have the odd night out without them?

If I go to dinner wearing a tshirt with my dcs photo on it, and look sad while I'm eating, would that be OK?

Maybe even order sausage and mash and construct little models of my kids from potato with #unfortunatlychildfreetonight
#mademykidsoutofmash hashtags

Just trying to do this right so I can enjoy my child free time appropriately.

Close, but no cigar.

absenCe

I know it's still quite early in the year but I think we've found a strong contender for 2024's Mother of the Year

Can you actually hear yourself though?

All this fuss about a hash tag. Get over yourself!

Your kids are 10 and 12. And you spend most weekdays doing stuff for yourself. Of course you can't identify with them

I actually agree with OP here. Like post "girls night out.. yay!" rather than "not spending time with my dick husband and my annoying kids... yay!"

Turn it round... kids posting "stupid mums at home and I'm not...yay"

Or hubby "lads night out without skankypants misses and grumble face kids" ...

Hahah because if they didn't specify that they were kid free, some other overly judgmental person will criticise them. They'll probably be accused of having their kids in an inappropriate environment (under the false assumption that the kids are with them), or be accused of abandoning their kids and not even referencing them in their social media posts.

OP, why did you post this? Why did you think your opinion on this harmless topic needed be voiced? Because you wanted to? Well, that's probably the same reason these women posted that they were childfree.