Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Oh my actual days 🙄

Why does it matter to you? I can't tell if you are jealous, or judging them for daring to do something without their kids.

Sorry I was typing the message and I couldn’t scroll up to see your message so I guessed. I meant you have time in the day to do ‘yoga, pilates, meet friends for brekkie or brunch, I swim, meet friends for a walk or coffee on the beach.’

And yet you begrudge other women time away from their work and kids.

No problem with people posting a pic of a night out with friends etc but why not tag it or caption it as such.. Why "not a kid in sight" or "kid free"!

Geez wats a kid free night or weekend? Must be nice to have while kids are still young. My kids went to their father overnight wen they were little, but I didn't go out I had to clean the house and do the washing etc no living large without the kids,

I'm not begrudging it I'm questioning their constant need to announce they are childfree?!

I tell my kids to their faces I need a break 🤣 my daughter will usually help me pick out an outfit, my son's will tell me to have good night. They understand we all need time away and they enjoy time without me too. When they get a cheeky takeaway, to stay up later and have some extra sweets with grandma. They don't see it as a bad thing. I don't think they'd be offended by a kid free hashtag 🤦

OP, There's a couple of really liberating things you can do if people are posting stuff that annoys you on social media:-
Unfollow
Hide / Mute
Not sweat the small stuff

Such a dislike of your friends using a phrase you don't like is indicating to me that your world is very small. These things shouldn't piss you off to the level they are.

Might be time to go back to work.

I wouldn't write this either, but I don't really care if people do. I'm a single mum, so if I wrote it I'd get vilified behind my back. 🙃

Was the frothing on the SAHP vs WOHP not giving you enough jollies OP?

I think you’re lying to yourself.

You do begrudge it.

You like seeing other women juggling work and kids, seeing them have a good time sans kids irks you.

Because we are hideously uncouth

I packed my 7 year old for the entire weekend just gone. She went to the lakes with my dad and I had a FUCKING BALL.

I know what you mean OP, though I find it hard to articulate exactly why.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having an identity outside motherhood and wanting to spend time alone or with people other than your kids - I got all that from work when my children were young but I appreciate that not everyone does.
But I don't like the way some people talk about it. I mean "Lovely meal out at Alfredo's with DH tonight, thanks to Mum for babysitting" or "Great pamper day with my friends whilst DH takes the kids to the park" could describe exactly the same events as "Night out at a decent restaurant with no kids for once, thank goodness" and "Chilling at the spa with the girls whilst DH is stuck with the kids - bet he's loving that freezing cold park ha ha!" but they come across very differently. I don't like the general trend for negativity around parenting to be honest. I dislike the "kids are in bed at last so time for wine" type posts too.
Yes, we all have bad days and I don't believe anyone who says they are never angry with their children or are glad of a bit of time without them but there seems to be a whole industry built up on social media around criticising children and moaning about parenting and I do find it distasteful.
I'm not sure why people do it, as a lot of the people I know who write such posts on are great parents and I don't believe that they really feel this way about their children at all. But they seem almost embarrassed about admitting that they enjoy time with them and present everything in a negative light. Once in a while, fair enough. I'm going to be taking DS to training for his sport tonight and I might well comment that I'm freezing and would rather be at home with a good book, but it seems incessant from some people, like it's cool and edgy to go on about how bad having children is.

😕 DH and I started going away on child free weekends a couple of years ago, when our youngest was 12 and could happily be left with her older (aged 21) sibling. It was the first time we'd been away as a couple in 23 years. That okay by you?

Enjoying time out away from family life is a nice thing to do. Everyone needs a break sometimes.

Personally I'd find someone banging on regularly about being child free for an evening to be annoying. Why not focus that you've had a good evening with friends / nice meal with DH instead of making a huge deal about having an evening away from the children? But it obviously matters a lot to them to keep going on about it and it they enjoy their night out more by posting on social media about a child free evening that's up to them.

@pootlin not at all. Everyone needs a night out but announcing "childfree" in my opinion is just a little bit crass. I enjoy nights out with my sisters or DH, mums from the PTA or my friends, I have never felt obliged to announce "not a child in sight" like a piss baby...

What is a piss baby?

Thank you @lolasmiles you put it more eloquently than me!

'Piss baby' 😂

I don't know! Sorry typo

How funny. Woman berating hard working women working 40 hours a week for putting on social media that they are having a child free night whilst she plans her days of doing pilates and yoga. Ha ha good one OP!

Do you think you don’t view your children as a burden ever, because you lead such a charmed life during the day when most people work?

OP, it feels like you are taking the piss and acting like a baby so Piss baby feels appropriate

That's because you get absolutely loads of child free time to relax, it's not a novelty for you. If you did it you would be at it daily.

It's an occassion for them.