Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

You might have easier children though. Some of us don't.

It also smacks of martyrdom to claim to never joke about wanting to palm your kids off. Like, “Look at me, I’m the perfect parent because I never say a bad word about my darling offspring!” They’re the ones come Friday night secretly drowning themselves in a vat of wine on the sofa just to get through the weekend.

I don't think Instagram is for you.

Parenting doesn't mean you have to martyr yourself to relentless childcare. # aside, get yourselves a babysitter!

Compassion is a foreign country so far as this OP is concerned.

This thread is a load of bollocks. I have never used a # but they are literally meaningless and to get so aereated about them shows something lacking in the person.

YAB utterly U.

If people post things that you don't like then don't follow them or read their posts, it's not obligatory.

When DDs were little having some child free time was like gold dust and also absolutely crucial.

Wow

YABU

I think there's a mile of difference between 'mildly irritating' and 'grim'.
The hashtags might irritate you, but they aren't grim.
Michael McIntyre is irritating. Jimmy Saville was grim.

I can assure you I have anything but easy children however I was 38 when I had them so did have plenty of freedom and chances to go out before hand, not sure if that makes a difference to it all. It probably does.

Me too, I love that I get about 35 hours a week of it, Monday to Friday 9 to 5 and that I even get paid for it

All while having the entire school day free of responsibility at an age when most SAHMs would have gone back to work!

And her poor bloody husband has to come in after a day at work to cook dinner! Pretty poor trade-off for him! I would be embarrassed personally!

I'm surprised #elderlyparentfreezone hasn't caught on OP, maybe it will now thanks to you

Some adults enjoy a break from relentless parenting.

More shocking news at 10.

Children are the only ones on your list who depend on you and are by far the most needy (and I mean that in a good way). No comparison.

OP, you’re like a broken record.

I think the real issue is you are lonely and need a hobby.

Seriously, it’s not even funny anymore, it’s sad.

You mean less sanctimonious than an OP whose entire thread is about how distasteful she finds working mothers are who post pictures of their rare childfree nights? 😂

maybe they meant no other kids in sight @Bridgetjoneski ? when I go out for a meal & I've left my kids at home I definitely don't want other folks' kids nearby either! I want an adult night without noisy kids screaming or running round the restaurant. It's possible to love your kids & yet still want time away from them & it's okay to state that on social media too.

Women are bombarded with pro-natalist social media posts about the wonder of reproducing/ having children constantly.
Why shouldn’t we also be allowed to share how relieving / refreshing time to ourselves- without caring for children- is? Any child who’s mature enough to read their parents social media posts would be ridiculous to take that personally. 🙄 yes we all love our children, but caring for children is bloody hard work, and time off is rejuvenating. We should be allowed to say so, ffs, not least cos it’s true.

Totally unsurprising , however, that this would be lost on a SAHP whose children are as old as 10 and 12…The amount of leisure/ child-free/ me-time OP enjoys , those of us who work full time , with multiple small children , can only dream of…

Love Kid Free time! You are being ridiculously unreasonable!

#kidfree
#freedom
#getoutofjailcard
#rugratunshackled
#childunbound
#crotchgoblinuntied
#littleoneless
#toddlerliberated
#bairnfree
#munchkinuntethered
#sprogless
#nipperunbridled
#anklebiterunconnected.

As someone who had caring responsibilities for an elderly mum I can say there is a definite difference in celebrating time away from children and celebrating time away from an elderly parent.
There is a sadness attached to the situation of having to care for a relative and therefore it wouldn’t be appropriate to celebrate. There is no sadness attached to being a parent and most rational people including the kids themselves recognise that you can be blissfully happy in family life whilst still enjoying a little break from it.

You say that people should celebrate their break from work instead but they probably get one of those every evening but can’t do anything with it because of the children.

I’m not one for posting anything on social media but my kids are secure enough in my love for them that if I get excited about having a night out without them they get it. I also don’t give them access to social media so wouldn’t see anything anyway until they were at an age that they wouldn’t give a shiny shit.

I have no doubt that one day they will be older teens and will be celebrating parent free time if we go out or away overnight. Would I find it distasteful or sad? No, give over.

Hahahahahaha. You’re weird. Why would that irk you!!!!

Is it your parents putting this on social media @Bridgetjoneski? The only reason I could see for you being this upset.

To be fair, you seem absolutely insufferable, so if it is them, I get it.

To be honest I'm glad you started this thread as it has amused me a lot especially with some of the posters comments (who I totally agree with).

Especially @Icantbedoingwithit post 😁

@Icantbedoingwithit Your post had me laughing out loud. 😂

Interesting that OP has another thread talking about her jealous of some pta wealthy mums going on the same time as this thread.... old Mexican say tell me what you brag of and I'll tell you what you lack.