Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Exactly, many people are also carers for elderly parents or disabled siblings who also enjoy a very well deserved night out bit you don't see them hashtagging

#notanelderlyparentinsight
or
#elderlyparentfreezone

Why are you so bothered about what other people are doing? They aren’t out to offend you on purpose, they are clearly just happy to have a night out without their kids and decide to post it, scroll past and take a little time to worry about why your are so concerned about what other people are doing.

You are taking far too much notice of peoples ##
It's all lighthearted, you're the only one offended by this.

OP, you've been asked many times why you are still here and still arguing, when you're convincing no-one and you've got a lovely life of perfect parenting to lead.

Why is that? Do you truly have nothing better to do?

In fact most kids know they drive their parents mad at times, it's a standard joke with us.
My DC have even said they know they would be returned to me as no-one else would want their nonsense. We're not highly strung and have humour in the house

@Bridgetjoneski You are being silly. Care of adults doesn't mean that a person cannot step out even for a few minutes or a couple of hours. But a child cannot be left alone even for a few minutes and thus an outing really is special. You really don't seem to grasp the most basic of concepts.

Are you just a bit threatened that these women work hard and then celebrate child free time, then?

I don’t think it’s crass or distasteful.

If you go back to work now your kids are in school you might enjoy the time off a bit more, too.

I started this thread so I'm perfectly entitled to stay on, I certainly won't be chased off. Why are you here? Have you nothing better to do??
I have merely asked why it would be socially unaceptable for carers to #elderlyparentfreezone but not #childfreezone.
It is disrespectful to both groups of innocent humans relying on ones care to celebrate being free of them. But an #escapingtheelderlyparents would be greeted with shock by most.

A teenager might put #parentfree.

Of course they can for a very well deserved night out but my point is it would be socially unacceptable to post #elderlyparentfreezone where as #enjoyinganightout is perfectly rational

I think you assume people get offended like you do. I care for my elderly mum and when I'm going on holiday she jokes how I'll be delighted to be 'granny free' . She knows I need a break and encourages it.

Exactly teenagers! But it's immature & disrespectful for grown adults to be posting #sprogless

@Bridgetjoneski I'd love to know what else besides being a full time mum 🙄and not thinking #childfree you do that makes you feel so superior. There must lots of other things.

But do you put it on Instagram & hashtag it? Of course you look forward to your well deserved break

So it’s the hashtags you find distasteful then? Not the act of going out without the kids? May I suggest you stay off Instagram then? It’s obviously a bit much for you.

Or maybe find an it more to do. Because this is such a weird thing to get uppity about.

You need to lay off Instagram.

You do realise most people think you are being daft.

@Bridgetjoneski I just explained to you why not. Why would you post about something you do everyday? Childfree is mentioned only because it isn't an everyday occurence. People looking after disabled adults can go out for dinner everyday so there's nothing special about that. But if you being obtuse is your default position, no amount of explanations can get through. And as many have said before, what people put on their social media really doesn't have to meet your approval. You are welcome to be as irked as you like. Knock youself out.

It wouldn't be socially unacceptable nor shocking FFS, you're just making shit up. I think that any carer posting about having a great time having a night off from caring responsibilities would exclusively get thumbs up, likes and hearts.

Not ridiculous people thinking it must mean they hate the person they're caring for or want them. And I'm damn sure any elderly parent who saw it wouldn't see it that way either, they'd be happy their carer was enjoying a well earned few hours out.

Pretty much this.

People # all sorts of crap. I'm surprised the child free one is the one that annoys you.

Or are you ok with #makingmemories
This would make my DC cringe more than childfree celebrations

In one of the few who agree with you, I hate it when the school holidays start and it’s can’t wait for them to go back to school, they are doing my head in. Is that not part of having kids? I have no one to have mine other than DH so we never get a night out together, I knew that before I had kids. We accepted it and go out as a family. Surely that’s what parenting is, not dumping them off at every available opportunity to get “me time”

Same with our DC. They have a sense of humour.

@Gremlinssofa no it would be an ageist remark #notanelderlyparentinsight would be completely offensive to many elderly people
Yes of course carers absolutely 100% need to enjoy a night out the same as parents or anyone who wants to but an #elderlyparentfreezone is simply not socially acceptable & neither should #childfree or #nosprogsallowed it's being deliberately disparaging towards certain sectors of society.

I’ve got a novel suggestion. Keep off social media - who needs this stuff anyway!?

One of my best memories from my childhood was my Grandma babysitting. My parents didn't go out much but we loved having Grandma for the evening without them.

I think you’re a bit insecure and/or jealous OP. I committed the cardinal sin of ASing you and j think you should work on your self esteem and sense of self, rather than tear down other (read: working) mothers for their perceived infractions of ‘distasteful’ hashtags on social media.