Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20230208-the-adults-celebrating-child-free-lives

Here's an article about actual child free people... Maybe the #temporarychildfree might be more fitting for those who need to let the world know they are having some grown up time on an evening.

@therealcookiemonster you had score 200 point with you comment about dads not posting anything about child free time. Never thought about that but you got a really good point there.

OP is just a trend, like those horrible tracksuits we all had in the 90s and are somehow back on trend now.

All parents enjoy some time on their own but not all of them posted on SM.
#childfree chatting. #wontlastlongsheis stillawake.#bettergotoshewhatsheisupto.

Not sure what that article is meant to prove? A childfree evening is clearly different contextually to being a childfree person...

Or people can use their common sense and understand that child free can be used in different contexts.

I genuinely can’t see why this is so triggering. I don’t do social media at all and wouldn’t # anything but I couldn’t really care less what other people post. The natural default is that parents adore their dc and wouldn’t want to be child free in a million years. It’s just a silly joke.

My kids were once nagging me to tell them who was my favourite. I named one of the dogs. They squealed with laughter because they knew full well that it wasn’t true. If a 3 and a 6 year old got the joke, I can’t understand why you dont. You probably think I’m a #badmother.😉

None of us are perfect, we’re are all just doing our best, your friends included. Why not give them the benefit of the doubt and accept that it’s just a joke and they deserve their time to themselves.

You need to find yourself a hobby 😆

Just like you never hear the phrase “hands-on mum”…

Dads don't post about it because they don't have the same pressure when it comes to parenting as mothers do. They also aren't judged as much as mothers are, there's a real double standard.

It's just like dads don't generally post about #makingmemories #theygrowuptoofast etc.

It’s a bit dull, although not as much as women who cannot ever be apart from their children, but if these people offend you so much why are you following them? If they are friends then they probably don’t like you either.

I’m an actual child free person and I don’t give a toss that other people use the term when they have a night out without their children.

Are you for real? Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. You might have the perfect life with the yoga, Pilates, brunch and never have a moment of negativity with your kids but for some us, parenting is bloody hard work. Kids are bloody hard work. Especially if like those mums you refer to and myself, we work 40 hours a week. That is not enjoyable relaxing time, it’s also work. So work on top of work, and probably very little downtime. God forbid someone posts about having a break from some of that kid work. Jesus, get a life OP.

Equally you will never hear a father being asked how he juggles doing his job and being a parent.

Or being called a part time dad for working full time.

Unfollow them.

I doubt anyone has suggested that on here yet. 😁

But why not #workfree or #time out why is the negativity pointed at the children?

@SouthLondonMum22 I have realized that when I read the cookie monster post but I must admit that I have never thought about it before.
Every day is a learning day.

The op is the same poster who popped up on the sahm thread and offended a load of people with the 'full time mother' thing. Now back and trying to start another argument.

And no it doesn't 'irk' me. I haven't had child free evening in far too long and they are a good and healthy thing!

It's so crass you are not spendign every breathing moment with children and dictate others how to use language and enjoy their free time.

I have a COD child free holiday every year. Often in an adults only hotel so I don't to deal with other people's! I've loved being a mum but I've also loved time away from them

I don't need to go the basketball, DH brings ds as he also coaches, d2 is 10 & perfectly capable of showering, it's called independence!

Exactly. So people, sorry women, who go to work while their children are at school or nursery are part time parents. But a woman who spends her day posting shit on MN having brunch, while her DH is at work, and still expects her DH to make dinner and take a child from one after school activity to another is a full time mum.
I’d say the working mum has most likely done more mumming.

All mums are full time mums.

@MadeOfAllWork I'm hardly going to leave my 10 year old alone at 8pm to head off with dh & ds1 to basketball!
DH often makes dinner, he enjoys cooking & what is wrong with that? It's called team work!

@MadeOfAllWork dh made dinner on this particular occasion as I was collecting the dc from extracurriculars, had to do an errand (drop equipment from the PTA to another mums house) & DH was home first. Not that it's any of your business!