Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Because a major part of the excitement is the fact that no children will be involved.

Haha, you seem to have hit a nerve here OP…. My personal bugbear is anyone who uses hashtags at all. Unless you are an actual business then all audience building behaviour feels hugely wanky (my very unpopular opinion on the matter). I get particularly vicariously embarrassed for people who use #wanderlust and #vitaminsea - but I largely keep that under my hat IRL because my millennial mum friends apparently can’t help themselves (someone recently used #gypsea…) and I don’t want to not have any friends at all… 😆

I think you are taking this way way too seriously.

I don't use the term - I don't do hashtags, I don't have Insta and my children are adults.

I don't give a damn what anyone else does? WTF does it have to do with either me, or the OP, or you? Parents I assume are using the term in a light-hearted way, not hating their own children fgs!

Get on with your own damn life and stop looking at other people's!

They're referring to themselves in a specific context - the absense of other people.

They're not saying "We're out together for the evening". That would be a direct reference to themselves.

What they're doing is complaining about the other people. Not referring to themselves.

Why on earth is this grinding your gears so much?

You hate it so much then don't say it! Other people can post as they wish - who the hell actually cares about this shit?

But I am still "me" and can have (cringe) "metime" with my kids from time to time too. I think the only acceptable tag for me to recognise how lucky I am to have a child free night out in your eyes would be the rather depressing #alone

Op, let’s be honest. Children are not fun and quite frankly as a full time working mother myself, child free time is both exciting and much needed. I don’t feel guilty about saying that my life is not just about work and kids.
I don’t post on social media, purely because I don’t post anything, but I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with announcing a child free evening.

I think you probably need to get some self-awareness. To be financially stable, able not to work and to have all that ‘me’ time is something that I can only dream of. And I find it distasteful that you are so judgey under these circumstances.

Have you actually got nothing better to do???

I think it's entirely possible for different people to be concerned about different things, and to make the case for taking things seriously if they believe something matters.

It's also possible the irony of your last piece of advice to me, here on mumsnet, isn't apparent to you.

Pot/ kettle?

@Bridgetjoneski is it ok for dads to do it?

Another irony fail.

I'm wondering how long this wind up will go before the delete message. Or if op is trying to get into the daily mail. No one is this level of bat s$#÷!

In the interests of scientific research, I have just texted my 21 daughter on this topic. N=1

Me: ‘Random Mumsnet-related question.
Say I had social media and you found out that ten years ago, I posted about a night out and wrote #childfree #kidfreenight, how would you feel?’

Her: ‘Wouldn’t care at all 😂Every mum needs a child-free night. It’s really not a big deal!’

🤷🏼‍♀️

Have you? As you are #veryactive on my thread all day🙄

They're just acknowledging the time without worrying about the kids. Maybe it says more that they are so attentive to the kids that they get a rush of relief when they are child free for an evening. Parents are people too

I didn't start a ridiculous thread and post shite on it all day long?

Is that your best shot?!

Shouldn’t you be parenting your children about now? You’ve hardly seen them all day.

Refer to previous post.

Hell no! This has already been covered. It's not acceptable for any guardian to be gloating they are #childfree. It's disrespectful towards their dc & implies negative connotations about wanting to be free of them.. It's brash. Far more acceptable captions to celebrate a night out.

me time 🤣

There was a back lash against the phrase in the advertising and media world because it’s such an infantilising and sexist term.

@Untethered it's far more tasteful than #childfree or #notakidinsight which implies they are rodents or worse!

Dc1 is gone to basketball with his dad, dc2 is in the shower! Is that OK with you?!

Do you think most young adult kids would be bothered or not bothered, if they have a healthy strong relationship with their parents? Eg my daughter’s response above.

Yet the vast majority of people understand that it is simply a light hearted way of saying that you are enjoying some time away from your children.