Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

@Bridgetjoneski I'm not sure SM is made for one as delicate as you..

Honestly, you can't save all these poor children, you'll wear yourself out (after you've done the gym, coffee, lunch, painted your nails etc).

Bridgetjoneski · Today 18:54

@MamaAlwaysknowsbest@MamaAlwaysknowsbest was she posting things like #childfree at the spa because this is what this thread is about.
The whole culture of boasting about being #childless on social media when you leave your kids at home. It's unnecessary..
Noone is begrudging anyone their leisure & socialising time, my pet hate is the need to document online that one is #childfree & #notakidinsight as if they are rats or headlice, some type of infestation to stamp out..
When a simple #datenight #coupletime would suffice..

Bridget, they just want to be always at the forefront of things and everyone to know about it, because can afford it and being able to afford material things is regarded always something to boast about. Of course they are boasting because want others to be jealous of them

Yeah the child free term used in that context seems to be sentimentally similar to smoke free, sugar free, meat free, gluten free.. i.e. Thing sthat are bad for you and you should get rid of them. Not that everyone means it that way, but it has negative connotations toward the thing one has "freed themselves from".

and yes, I however prefer to be at home with my little family

Totally happy for my parents to acknowledge they enjoyed occasional child free times. They were fab parents and have been married 50 years; I have no hard feelings towards them for the occasional weekend away. Children can be exhausting - I was a whiny kid when I was 7.

Well it’s great to cut loose & go out without my kids. I love it
i get to pee on my own no one shouting mummy!mummy! every 2minutes

Yes exactly... To me it's like rat free or headlice free as if the poor kids are an infestation that they have stamped out & they are triumphant to be rid of them...

But you are complaining about how people are referring to themselves which is ridiculous.

Babe, it ain't that deep.

Only those with a stick up their arses are bothered about this.

Language does indeed evolve. The concept of some thing or some place or some person being "X, Y, or Z-free" isn't that new all the same. Dirt-free, hassle-free, interest-free - all come with the implication that you're free of something very unpleasant. The Nazis tried the linguistic trick in the term "Juden frei"

So with this logic, grown adults without children of their own who describe themselves as child-free are describing being free of something unpleasant?

@Bridgetjoneski i think your definition says more about you than the mums posting as I very much doubt they’re thinking of their dc like they’re head-lice ffs!

Not sure what the issue is. You sound like a knob.

i work FT too so get away from the kids that way too when they’re in nursery and I’m working

They are describing not having children as a positive choice they have made, or now see what was originally not a choice in a positive light. Nothing wrong with that.

You should definitely post this on their socials @Bridgetjoneski. They're probably unaware of how grim and vile they're coming across.

@mathanxiety

why?!

presumably part of their fun was that you weren’t there and therefore they could do more adult focused stuff! Why begrudge them that?!

Oh get over yourself. My parents had our children over the whole weekend once a month. It was brilliant for all of us. Time alone with your spouse is so important and should be fun.

Yeah right so that says it all really.

So, in the real world, when your husband doesn't sponsor your lifestyle of yoga and coffe and lunch with friends, and your mother doesn't come babysitting, you get child free time once in a blue moon and YES! IT'S THE BEST THING EVER!... (since their birth).

@MamaAlwaysknowsbest

hahahah good one! 🤣

Hahaha "day orphanages", that's nuts 😂

I don't have a "hubby" or go on "dates" though. What would be an acceptable tag if I just actually like having a few hours somewhere without my kids (maybe just walking through town relishing the quiet). Why do we have to be so happy to have them with us all the time as if when they aren't there we are missing a limb? Being able to find joy in moments alone and appreciate why they are so precious is a large factor in good mental health.

Well, exactly, it isn't meant that way at all and 99% of people know that it simply means enjoying some time without your children.

Tell us you have no real problems, without telling us you have no real problems.

#quiet #icanhearmyselfthink #itsamiracle 😂

#poopedonmyown

But babe, words can, and do have deep meanings. Sometimes people use it with meaning, sometimes not. It's always good to have the stuck up people around to analyse this and think and debate about it. I can think of lots of words that have been phased out for this reason. Professions that always end with "man" come to mind.