Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

@CaribouCarafe Noted, will stick a #hailmary on the next child free weekend 🙌🏻

#hailbaby 😅

This is an excellent summary 👏

I need get to back to work so can’t continue this but I hope you found my posts as absurd as I found yours.

Completely agree, OP. I always wonder what the kids would think if they read those posts.

Good job Instagram isn't for small children then isn't it?

But they won't so what does it matter?

I think OP is one of those women who believe that her children are perfect and and every moment is improved by their very presence.

Dont know why everyone is piling on op here. I feel what she means is, why do people need to advertise being kid free like it is such a big exciting achievement, and the kids are such a difficult burden to run away from that it must be celebrated by posting photos of the freedom night on social media. Thats the subliminal message this may give to people. On the other hand, people who are posting on social media might be doing so because they want to show the world they can still lead a young, carefree date night, they are such a romantic couple etc etc hashtag hashtag...(as if the world cares..but I’m cynical)

Op sounds a bit judgy there as those ladies probably do not exactly feel that way and do love and cherish their children very much, and the social media ladies sound a bit...too preoccupied with what the world thinks of them, insecure about their humdrum life as a parent etc. But everyone needs a bit of boasting from time to time, right...

See, I am do neither of these things and am judging both, I’m the most judgy I guess, pile on me instead dear people 😂

I had this in Pizza Express. Little Amelia clambering on the booth next to me, behind me, on me and her mum and friends looking on like I was blessed.

I just wanted a #childfree pizza!

I am with the OP.
I do think it's important to carve time for yourself, and your husband, when you have children.... But why posting about it on social media and make it all about being away from the children? I would be mortified if my DS read it. Surely the night out/weekend away is about having a relaxed experience, get more connected with a partner, enjoying leaving the house etc and not exclusively been away from the children.

It is distasteful and unnecessary.

#childfreepizza tastes better.

Fact.

I totally agree with this. But my point is there's no need for the #childfree #childless captions.

#datenight would suffice here.

I'm with the 93% who think YABU.

"irks" you
"distasteful"
"Crass"

You are being very weird.
I mean, if it annoys you, then don't follow people that annoy you on Instagram, but this is such a weird thing to be this worked up about.

There's no need for most captions on Instagram.

Ultimately, people can caption their own Insta however they like. Just don't follow them since it bothers you so much.

You do realise that following someone on social media is entirely optional?

Of course the point is exclusively being away from the children. I can get out of the house with the children any time I want. #childfree time is a rare luxury, and I will unashamedly celebrate it. Rest assured, my children can't read. Their feelings will not be hurt.

Nothing wrong with a child free night or weekend away but I get what the OP is saying. No need to hashtag it all over SM.

I bet these people are the same ones putting photos of family time with #famtime #makingmemories - yuk!

But the posts stay up unless their deleted so the kids may see them down the line. I just don't think it's appropriate or kind to talk about ones kids in such a flippant, trivial manner.
So many other hashtags.. #mumsnightout also works without being disparaging towards ones children

I guess each to their own! I feel differently about it, but hey ho, my life will go on :)

But why does it matter? I don't think you're doing your kids any favors by pretending you'd like to be in their presence 24/7. That's not realistic, it's fine for them to know mum and dad like a break from responsibility sometimes.

I think you're being unreasonable, OP, but mostly to yourself. Best thing to do is come off FB and whatever other media these spouting off posts are on. You then won't see them and then won't be irked.

We all get irked about things and you're not being unreasonable for that. You've just posted your irk on the most argumentative and illogical board on the planet. The things that irk you make other people unreasonable and they'll tell you in no uncertain terms.

This place is the only social media I frequent and I give myself long breaks. I recommend this very much.

Just imagining all these (nonexistent) children in therapy for years down the line because they were traumatised by their mother's "childfree" hashtags...

I 🤔 think they should publicity announce the fact whenever they having a break like 👍 someone blowing a Scottish bagpipes like Queen mother used to have to wake ⏰️ her up first ting in morning...

But one of life’s great pleasures once you’re a parent is escaping the kids for an evening or a weekend. I don’t think the kids will take offence 😂