New baby announcement - hurt feelings. AIBU?

[SimplyMother]

My ex has just sent me a text during his custody of our child.

“Hello X, my wife and I are expecting our first child together soon. I’m just letting you know as we’ve just told DC, we’ll let you know of the due date closer to the month. Thanks.”

I’m quite the understanding person but I can’t help be be upset by this. I’m not sure if I’m a being unreasonable but I found this message to be spiteful? But I don’t see why he’d do this intentionally, as we coparent well and get along fine.

The first thing is that they’ve only been together for one year, and I’m suddenly finding out that they’re married. This hurts me as we were together for 2, yet he didn’t even propose, despite me asking and having our child in our first year together. He obviously knows this, hence why I feel like this was a slight jab - why wait till now to announce it and in this way?

I feel even more hurt due to his wording of “our first child together.” While the sentence is true, I find it to be crafted to be hurtful for some reason. I don’t know if it’s just me but I’d like a second opinion. For context we’ve been broken up for 3 years now.

Thank you.

Curt to the point of rudeness

Personally, I think he did owe it to OP to tell her about the new baby — not because he owes her anything but because it could have a huge impact on their DC, so she has a right to know because of that. I do get what you’re saying about privacy though. My DP & I are both divorcees; he had children from that relationship; I didn’t. I don’t tell my ex about anything — because why would I? — but my DH is more open with his ex because of their shared children, which I think is how it should be. But that might just be me!

Sorry wrong thread!