AIBU that my partner is going skydiving with another woman after I refused?

[Ssanne]

Title as it is.

Partner wanted to do a charity skydive with some of his friends/colleagues. I refused as it isn't something I'm interested in.

He said fine. And now is doing the tandem skydive with one of his female friends?

AIBU to be concerned?

Really? I’m a skydiver and the place I learned at has had one accident. One. No other injuries. They’d been running for about 20 years with zero accidents but had one maybe 10 years ago, so that ruined the record but none since then. And they run charity skydives; tandems and static lines.

People use the word partner these days so casually that it is meaningless. Is this man the equivalent of your husband without the paperwork or is he someone you have dated a couple of times?

I ask because it matters. If you are just dating and have discovered a fundamental difference in approaches to life, my advice is going to be to leave now. It’s not because there is anything wrong with you or with him. It’s because how you want to spend a Saturday is actually a pretty important aspect of a successful long term relationship. It’s ultimately why my XH and I couldn’t make it work. He needed the adventure. I needed the routine.

Is there more to the story with this woman, OP?

My DH has been hang gliding for 40 years. I'd rather chew broken glass. He has gone hang gliding with female pilots many times and has managed not to screw any of them. It's a sport, not a hook up site.

Don't be so insecure, unless he's given you good reason to be. Has he?

Well, this is wins reply of the day.

Be careful his penis doesn't land inside her vafina!

Seriously, you're insane.

If - and it's a very big if - he finds her more attractive for this reason, then that will continue to be the case whether he does the sky dive with her or not.

Are you normally this insecure about him doing any activities that might involve other women? You need to think about why that is.

You have heard of the Mile High Club, right?

😂

I don't think that was what my ex meant when he said he'd always wanted to get high and then down (might have said done, I was too busy backing the fuck away at the time when he repeated it) with a strap on.

The instructors do have to tell them to lift and hold their legs up so they can touch first, and the advice is to relax and breathe through the initial discomfort, though. So who knows?

To be fair, when I did the skydive with the colleagues, it did give us something in common.

Messy hair?

My hair is always an immaculate swishy mane, innit.

telling him how brave he is and how excited you are by his bravery.

Give him a sticker that says "I've been a Brave Boy" too

ROFL

telling him how brave he is and how excited you are by his bravery.

Remember to do it in a simpering voice whilst fluttering your eyelashes.....oh and don't forget to swoon afterwards, cos he's sooo bwave.

You have two options.

1.) Just do it then. And work on your mass insecurity.

2.) Don’t do it. And work on your mass insecurity.

Yanbu when I did a skydive the wind pressure forced his penis in to me. where now happily married and have a beautiful baby girl called skye.

I call a reverse… and op is now looking at the skydiving shaggers video snd making notes…. Remember first child is skylar!

Do you think he signed up for this skydive to impress this woman ?

Skydiving for Charity Is a Terrible Idea—Here's a Better One | TIME

Would you be concerned if it was a bloke?

I think this more about your own insecurities than anything else. If your partner wanted to sleep with someone else then he’s going to do it regardless. If you are that insecure in your relationship that you think he is going to find another woman more attractive because he is doing a skydive with her then there are bigger issues at play here

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