AIBU that my partner is going skydiving with another woman after I refused?

[Ssanne]

Title as it is.

Partner wanted to do a charity skydive with some of his friends/colleagues. I refused as it isn't something I'm interested in.

He said fine. And now is doing the tandem skydive with one of his female friends?

AIBU to be concerned?

This thread has cheered me up. You have nothing to worry about OP.

Well, he might, in the same way someone might fall for someone they met in the photocopier room at work, or bumped into in a pub. I know someone who ended his long marriage after he fell for someone he met in an airport when snow caused flight diversions and delays to transatlantic flights. The wife of a former colleague of mine left him for their plumber.

You can’t legislate for this stuff without keeping your spouse in a locked room.

If I were him I’d be running a mile at this point, but not because of the skydive. Just because you’re insane.

Boris Johnson missed a trick on that zip wire evidently.

I’d tell him it’s fine only if you get to push them out of the plane while making “Snip Snip” hand gestures.

Not just what do you think they may do but also just because you don't want to do it, do you think it's fair that he can't either?

Unless there’s history with woman then YABU

I think you might have misunderstood how tandem skydiving works.

OP, you initially said “some of his friends/colleagues”. Why are you focusing on one friend? is it because this is made up and you didn’t know what a tandem skydive is?

This is a safe to watch video about it, shows stills but nothing naughty. It did the rounds on Facebook about a decade ago which is how i know of it. I think he took a shitliad of viagra and there was a lot of very fast thrusting if I remember correctly. You know how your cheeks go wild while falling?? Her breasts took on a life of their own....
I think its been deleted now but it did happen

@Ssanne You don’t need to have all the same interests as your other half - you can be supportive without being identical. Be there when he lands, be happy for him, help him with fundraising and publicity.

OP, despite the fact that other posters seem to find it hilarious (and some of the comments are funny!) I think it is fine to feel a bit insecure when your DH is doing something or going somewhere with another woman. You are far from alone. Doesn't make you the unhinged green eyed monster. Especially as this is something he is excited to do and you aren't.

Do you know the female friend and is there any historic cause for concern?

He has a right to do the activities he enjoys. You are being controlling.

Neither did I after 26 years of marriage to least likely womaniser on the planet. Still, live and learn.

Ah

There's the one

He's doing a skydive apparently with lots of people and you're focusing on just one

Being insecure and banning him from being friends with other women is much more likely to push him away...

ginasevern get a grip and stop bringing your prejudices to this thread. I assume you have never done any activity ever with a male friend.......

I suppose if the wind catches them wrong they might land in a dogging spot and have absolutely no choice but to

Go along to watch and support, plenty of first time jumpers bring friends and family to spectate. He's no more likely to bond with her over this than any shared activity and you can't keep him from doing every thing you aren't up for!

I've never heard of anyone joining the mile high club whilst plunging at 120mph and simultaneously trying to open a parachute.

Are your partner and his mate especially talented at multi-tasking?

I can see why you don’t like it. I wouldn’t want my fella getting all excited about sharing and experience that he’ll remember for the rest of his life with another woman.

There’s not much you can do though, it’s a charity thing and he did ask you first. Just be supportive and go to the airfield on the day to take pictures.

They will be strapped to their own instructor NOT to eachother. You can go and watch. There will be a video skydiver too. The plane will likely carry 5/8 skydivers all doing a charity dive plus their instructors.

Laughed out loud at this. 🤣🤣🤣

You said tandem sky dive?
Really? With her? do you know what that is?
Is he or she a very experienced instructor? Because two novices don't tandem together.
So if he's an instructor he would have done tandems before?

Either way, even if you had agreed you wouldn't be jumping together in tandem.

You're being ridiculous. You said you weren't interested so your husband is doing the sky dive with someone else. Why the need for the drama?