AIBU that my partner is going skydiving with another woman after I refused?

[Ssanne]

Title as it is.

Partner wanted to do a charity skydive with some of his friends/colleagues. I refused as it isn't something I'm interested in.

He said fine. And now is doing the tandem skydive with one of his female friends?

AIBU to be concerned?

I hear you op. I’ve seen how the parachutes strap on enhancing the groinal
area. If she should slip out of the safety harness, his penis might just pop out of that over exaggerated groin section and she might grab hold of it trying not to fall 10000 to her death.

On the plus side he’ll come home with a larger willy , on the downside he may need to unfurl it in bed and it will be like
sleeping with a dead snake.

Grow up FFS

😂😂😂

Sorry to say, but unjustified distrust like this is bordering bunny boiler territory. Poor chap.

This is wonderful, looking forward to hearing about Skylar the sky baby when she’s arrives.

Well, he did ask you first, and you chose not to go.

Personally I would pay good money to someone to go skydiving with DH.

I would drive them both and provide any rosaries they may require.

It's a charity thing and you had first refusal. Let him have his adventure and be there waiting for him when he lands. (And get his insurance up to date.) Promise faithfully to tell no one about the nappy he'd be wearing.

But... normally when you do a tandem skydive for charity, the whole point is that inexperienced jumpers go tandem with a trained jumper who ensures everything goes smoothly. It greatly cuts down the preparation required.

No way they are going to let Bob and Susan from Estates strap themselves together and jump out of a plane, unless they are both experienced jumpers. Much more likely they are each doing tandem dives with an instructor.

Think it would be difficult to join the 'mile high club's whilst sky diving.

Is he a skydiver? Or is he just doing a tandem jump for charity?

If he is a skydiver then yeah; they might jump
together. But if he is not a skydiver and is just going there for a tandem jump then he isn’t even going to jump with her. He will be connected to an instructor who does all the actual stuff, and she will be contacted to another instructor. They won’t jump together.

But anyway… what’s the problem? You don’t want to do it. Do you expect him to give up fun opportunities just because you’re being a stick in the mud? I’m sure you have your own interests; let him have his. Honestly, grow up.

I think people are being a bit mean (though funny)

You're worried he's sharing an amazing bonding experience with someone other than you, and that he'll feel less attached to you because you can't share that part of his life.

It's ok not to fulfil every single aspect of your partner's needs, though. It's actually really unusual for couples to be on the same wavelength in everything! Think how many people enjoy golf, or cycling or fishing or crochet and it leaves their other half completely cold. They don't love each other any less for having different interests. It's probably the fact that he's doing it with a female friend that has upset you - but they won't be sharing an intimate moment, there will be other people there and they will be bundled up with equipment and concentrating on the instructions and managing their nerves.

Wave him off with encouragement and be there for him to share it all with when he gets back. It will be fine.

😂

In any case you can be sure they’re practicing safe sex. They’ll have reserve chutes in case the mains fail.

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
i just snorted my tea out of my nose !

I totally get your point. Most of the comment on this thread are deplorable, but to be expected on MN.
My advice would be to go to the take off point with him, take loads of photos and be there are the landing point, taking loads of photos and telling him how brave he is and how excited you are by his bravery.

This, sorry

Snort. Are you going to suggest the OP urinates on her husband too, just to complete the territorial marking performance?

Its astonishing to me that people can live like this.

might as well add a pat on the head and a biscuit

how excited you are by his bravery.
jesus fuckin wept, should she kiss his feet and head home and serve him
penis portions because he's a MAN?
Stop encouraging this pathetic behaviour, pick me pick me. Either be secure in your relationship or walk away.

Could this be the sky child??

My god to be that insecure and controlling

You sound incredibly insecure.

DH does a niche sport (NOT skydiving) which I have no interest in whatsoever. He's got a female friend he does it with, they're off all over the country to competitions most weekends in winter and I just let them get on with it.

What?!??

what can they get up to that your worried about whilst they jump out of a plane?£? 😂😂

I’ll do it though!

im trying to raise money for search and rescue

you don't have to be the same as him and "if his head is turned " by an adrenalin junkie that's on him not you.

He is being unreasonable doing a charity sky dive. There was a fascinating paper a few years back showing that they cost the NHS more for treating the injuries than they make for the charities. Other than that, pretty sure he'll be tandem with an instructor.