AIBU that my partner is going skydiving with another woman after I refused?

[Ssanne]

Title as it is.

Partner wanted to do a charity skydive with some of his friends/colleagues. I refused as it isn't something I'm interested in.

He said fine. And now is doing the tandem skydive with one of his female friends?

AIBU to be concerned?

Does the poor man really have to jump out of a plane to get five minutes off the leash?

Do you think they will fondle each others fanny's and willys up there?
Would you share the same concern if he was going with a male colleague?

I know people who did a naked skydive. Its very cold at 14,000 feet and for blokes shrinkage is an issue. So not exactly sexy...

Tandem skydive means attached to an instructor.

Sharing hobbies and interests with your partner isn't unusual but lots of couples don't. The people I know who skydive spend quite a lot of time hanging around airfields waiting for good weather. I suppose if your partner is minded to bond with his colleague this might present opportunities but I guess they can do that at work anyway?

Oh my goodness you sound very insecure. Lots of us have partners with different hobbies. At least he asked you first. You can watch him if you are that worried.

Yes but he could just as easily find it attractive that you aren't into scary activities and it makes him feel all manly?
Different people have different personalities and luckily different people find different personalities attractive.

This is absolutely ridiculous.
Are people only supposed to have memorable experiences with their partners?

Have you watched the glider scene in 50 Shades of Gray and got concerned?

Hasn’t James Bond successfully seduced a woman whilst skydiving in the Alps? They ended up in a chalet…

Does that mean you want him to only do activities you are interested in? Because that would kill most relationships.

Op I understand you. I think you can still be 'involved' and'with' him on this journey by going with him (looking your sexiest) being his cheer leader helping him fundraise, say how proud you are etc- all that from his wife will mean more than what a colleague in the plane says or does. It's not like he's starting a new hobby like scuba diving and going on trips with her to do it- that I woul have to out a stop to, or go along on the boat looking amazing in my bikini...

So then go do it.

If you think this sky diving experience will make him fall madly in love with someone else, then the relationship is a bit shit.

If you have genuine concerns that you don’t have much in common and that’s creating distance, then you need to look at that. But that’s doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be doing this or that he shouldn’t be doing it with another woman there.

He won’t be jumping tandem with her. She will just be there attached to another instructor. However, it was always unlikely that there would only be him doing it that day. There could be other women doing a jump at the same time.

would you be concerned he would fall for one these women too?

I take it the colleague is pretty?

Every day this forum turns up more crazy threads, how dare a man have an interest outwith his wife, a lot of controlling women out there.

Do you own him?

Sky-child 😂😂😂

tandem jumps your normally tandem with an instructor

I'd be more concerned that the parachute wouldn't open than DP getting off with anybody. tbh.

Make sure his life assurance is up-to-date.

Are you sure he's going sky-diving?

I used to do skydiving. There was very often so much time spent waiting, for better weather or for your turn. There was always people hanging around who didn’t skydive. Why don’t you that? But from what I understand it’s just a tandem jump, so I wouldn’t exactly call it an extreme sport. He basically won’t even have to jump out of the plane himself..

I've done a skydive twice.
The outfit isn't even sexy!!

I think you are being completely irrational.

This isn't about the skydive. It's about your own anxieties.

I wouldn’t want my fella getting all excited about sharing and experience that he’ll remember for the rest of his life with another woman.

So he's not allowed around other women in case he has any memorable experiences?

You're batshit

Really. Seriously impressed with their agility and equipment if they can manage anything inappropriate during a 2 minute dive 🤣

If they are colleagues, broom cupboard would be more comfortable.

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