A pet peeve: Having your photo taken when you'd rather not!

[BeenThere0]

Am I in the minority finding it quite uncomfortable that photographing people - and then publishing the photos on social media - has become so casual? I've nearly lost a couple of friends over my insistence that no photos of me are to be taken to be published on social media. A lot of people who ask for permission (to take a photo of you) these days (e.g. in a hobby group or friendship group) seem upset when someone says: no, please. Please share your thoughts, thanks.

Being unreasonable: There is an implicit expectation in a hobby group, for example, that everybody is happy to have their photo taken and put on social media.
NOT being unreasonable: No to the above statement.

Well, share your thoughts! Thanks

YANBU I hate it too.
I actively avoid cameras at events. I went to my sister's wedding but there is no photographic evidence of it. I have told off photographers for taking pictures of me.

There have been some local craft/wine event type things where I live that sound like good fun.. but when you look at the booking page, you can only book if you give permission to have your photo taken and shared.

I guess a down side to refusing photos is that if I go missing, the only photo that will be shared will be a police mug shot.

YABU. I don’t entertain such nonsense. If I took your photo and I want to share it, I will (I’m talking entirely in a personal capacity, not professional/hobby etc).

Everyone knows what you look like. They can literally see you. So being touchy about a photo is just ridiculous.

Yup I hate it too. Was on a course recently where the organiser was taking photos.

But isn't that a little entitled, @BananasInThreePieceSuits ?
In analogy to what you said - if I knew your partner's name, for example, does that entitle me to share it on social media? Thanks for the reply of course

Yes! I was at a gym class recently and a
member of staff came in and took
photos AND a video and posted them on their IG page. Nuffield, I was not impressed.

Also I have a really fat friend who hates having photos posted on SM in which she’s tagged. It’s so insensitive. I would never tag someone without their permission.

If I look good in the picture, I don't mind!

All joking aside.
It is nice to ask before you take a photo of someone.
And, it is important to ask before you post a photo of someone on social media.

(I was confused by your voting explanations, so I did not vote).

And I take it you were too polite to ask him/her not to, @crackfoxy ?

Fair enough not wanting them posted on social media. Please don't shy away from all pictures though. My mum did and I have so few of her. People who love you will want to look at them one day.

I hate it too. I went to a Tai Chi class and after a few weeks the college decided to actually start filming it. I thought I had managed to stay out of the way but when they showed the DVD, there I was looking just like Kung Fu Panda.

Thanks @SkaneTos . Next time I'll run the question's wording by the Electoral Commission (before putting it a to a MN vote!) :) In all seriousness, sorry for any ambiguity

I think it’s just as entitled to expect people not to take and share group pictures because you don’t like it. Photos are important to people. You’ve the option to miss out by not going if you’d rather not be seen.

I'll take your photo and raise you livestreaming video (or whatever it's called) on FB at family events. I have an aunt who does this. I thought she was just taking video to keep on her phone until someone mentioned finding it annoying that she's posting it to FB. She never asks, just pulls out the phone and starts recording. I dislike it, but feel I can't say anything without looking bad. I don't have any reason other than that I don't like the way I look in photos/videos.

But yes, I find it rude. Then again, I rarely take photos of myself these days, so if I die tomorrow, at least there will be some video/photos for people to remember me by, I guess. 🙄

I can understand why people don't want their photo on social media, but don't understand why some will sit and be in group shots then say they don't want them shared!

Yes it’s so annoying, just pay pay models to sell your course/workspace/fitness class/pottery class even the other day

I follow a photography group on Facebook with 44k followers.

there’s someone everyday that posts photos of people who don’t know their picture is being taken and posted to 44k people

I think it’s a real safeguarding issue as these people might not want their pictures on Facebook. I don’t want my picture on Facebook as I ALWAYS take a bad photo

I know it is rare, but some people are on a witness protection program and don't want their photo and location shared.
More common will be women fleeing abusive relationships etc, that also do not want to be plastered all over social media.

Good point, @XenoBitch . I find it extraordinary that so many people do not consider that possibility - before casually sharing someone's photo.

It is rude not to ask if someone wants to be in a photo.
People who don't ask are twats.
There's no two ways about it.

I think there is a middle ground.

I don’t think it’s ok (generally) to share photos to social media without asking, unless there was a reasonable expectation that a photo might be used for that, or unless among friends where it’s accepted it’s the done thing.

But people who just won’t let you take pictures of them at all are a pain. I want to remember occasions with them included! It feels a bit selfish to be overly precious about it.

Just my two cents.

Yanbu there's nothing I hate more on a night out than people constantly interrupting the fun to pose or ask for a selfie. I'm very self conscious about my looks so it immediately makes me uncomfortable for that reason but even if if I wasn't, it's just not necessary. Have fun without having to document every moment and post it in live time. I swear a lot of people just want to brag about what a great time they're having. It's sad we can't just live in the moment.

A Police mugshot? What were you are arrested for? 😬

Laughing at your Kung Fu Panda comment 😀

Me?
Affray, and carrying a bladed article. Separate occasions. Both mental health related.

Yes - it drives me mad. I think it shows really poor boundaries and respect for others.

SIL is a constant repeat offender. I ask to not be in the photos (as I really don’t like them being shared with people I don’t know) and she ridicules me in front of the family if I politely decline. It has actually made me really dislike her.