A pet peeve: Having your photo taken when you'd rather not!

[BeenThere0]

Am I in the minority finding it quite uncomfortable that photographing people - and then publishing the photos on social media - has become so casual? I've nearly lost a couple of friends over my insistence that no photos of me are to be taken to be published on social media. A lot of people who ask for permission (to take a photo of you) these days (e.g. in a hobby group or friendship group) seem upset when someone says: no, please. Please share your thoughts, thanks.

Being unreasonable: There is an implicit expectation in a hobby group, for example, that everybody is happy to have their photo taken and put on social media.
NOT being unreasonable: No to the above statement.

I hate it too, one of my really good friends is a nightmare for it. We can't go anywhere without her shoving her phone in my face to take a selfie, I don't mind the odd one or 2 selfies but it's the "oh we look awful on that one, lets take another!" that annoys me and 9 times out of 10 she always posts the one where she looks flawless and I don't!

Again, on the spelling,

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Oh well done. A typo spotted. Congratulations.

Still not answered the question though we all note! LOL.

Oh wow, I made a typo, I will be forever ashamed.
You've still not answered my original question though.

You don't have to hand out permission slips(!) but it takes one minute to at least say 'I'm about to take a photo; anyone who doesn't want their picture posted should get out of view.' That would also alert people who don't mind having a pic posted as such, but would like to make sure they look respectable and not too 'candid camera'.

The right to choose privacy trumps other people's right to unlimited social media posting.

The right to choose privacy trumps other people's right to unlimited social media posting.

I really disagree with this. Because it isn’t a matter of choosing privacy. It’s a matter of filtering the world’s view of you. And if you aren’t the way you want to be viewed, I don’t think you have a right to prevent other from showing you as you are.

I don’t mean that it’s good for society or at all okay to deliberately try and catch someone looking awful and then promote that nastily on social media. But simply posting candid shots from non-private activities/places that sometimes catch someone not looking their best is not something that someone should get to just stop from happening.

People keep bemoaning social media and insta gram and the pressure to look fabulous because of all the filters and other alterations to photos that are posted. But all these objections to having candid photos out in the world are part of that skimming of reality that alters what people perceive as normal.

If people can’t photograph and post what they see. If they have to allow everyone to filter out all the things they individually don’t want the world to know about them, we will have even less of a record of reality, and even more of a filtered, sanitized view that feeds in to anxiety, insecurity and a pressure to put excessive time and effort into looks.

People who don’t want their photograph on the internet are entitled to their privacy. YABU. I’m glad I don’t know you. Yes, people I know, know what I look like. However, I’m not into everyone on someone else’s social media having access to my information - where I’ve been for instance. If I want my photo on social media I will put it there I don’t but some idiot posting it for me? I’d be furious.

UANBU - I hate it. It's rude and intrusive and just really, really annoying.

No your not being unreasonable, I totally get where you are coming from! I hate getting my photo taken & as for selfies it's a no from moi! Esp when my friends & family want it plastered all over their Facebook page & I just cringe saying no, I don't want my mug shot on their page lol. Seriously though I hate it with a passion & I'm just not the photogenic type & find flaws with every photo that's taken of me! Some love the camera & some shy away from it & that's not a bad thing, it's just it is either a natural thing or it's not!

I really agree with RawBloomers here. You don't have a 'right' to not have your image in the world, if you are in the world, although there's no need for people to be ungracious about your preferences.

Ha ha, I don't know, perhaps they think Elon Musk is using face recognition software to trace their every move 🤣🤣

Ha! Why their noses?
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Ha ha, I don't know, perhaps they think Elon Musk is using face recognition software to trace their every move

Maybe it interferes with facial recognition software. Seriously that link I posted above to Pimeyes is really freaky. It is advanced facial recognition software where they have created a database of all publicly open images. Basically it means that you can take a picture of a person in the street, upload it and most of the time you will be able to work out who it is.

The exceptions are if that person has zero publicly accessible images of themselves on the internet which is unusual for most people not in the armed forces or elderly. Or if the image you are using to search isn't good/clear enough.

If you've not searched yourself on it, I'd give it a try because unless you have no images of you online, you will be quite shocked. It literally picks up people in the back of photographs that you may not even known were online.

You may think it doesn't matter and some people may not care, but if (eg) you get photographed have an embarrassing incident in public or get filmed having a row with a rude waiter or something, if you are identifiable on PimEyes you will be identifiable. There is no real privacy any more.

No one is stopping anyone taking and sharing photos. Just asking for a heads up so they can duck out if they are not comfortable. It seems a bit of a stretch to say people can stay home if they don’t like it!

I think it's become pretty socially normal to ask if you're going to post any photo of someone on SM before you do. Or at least with everyone I know.